What do I wear?

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So my “friend” asked me to photograph her wedding. I wouldn’t consider myself a professional photographer but I am a hobby one and do it on the side for fun. I have a professional camera and set up. She led asking me with saying “I was gonna ask you to be a bridesmaid but my fiancé doesn’t have enough men and I have to make it even so I was thinking you can be my photographer? But you can still wear a bridesmaid dress so you can be in some pictures. But you won’t be walking the aisle or anything. I’ll have another photographer there as well.” 

I am also a professional baker and make wedding cakes / desserts. So I will be making her wedding cake. She also asked me last minute if I could do her bridal hair.. 

My question is, what do I wear? She wants me in some pictures but I think it would be weird to wear a bridesmaid dress. Also feel kind of like I shouldn’t be wearing one as I’m not actually a bridesmaid... help

MyNameIsNot

This whole thing is very bizarre. Wedding photography is a job, and it's a lot of work. That's a lot to ask of someone. There's a reason professional photography is expensive! On top of that, she's asking you to make her cake and do her hair. The nerve! If she's so entitled to ask you to do thousands of dollars of vendor services for free, you know she'll be a nightmare if something isn't in line with her "vision". 

If I were you, I would tell her that you'd be more comfortable just attending as a guest and let her hire her own vendors. If you decide to go through with it and work the wedding, I'd recommend pants and a blouse. Choose something you can move in, as you'll need to get on the floor, move things around, etc. Pockets would also be helpful. 

I don't know anything about you, but you deserve better. She literally told you that having even numbers would be more important than including a friend as a bridesmaid. Awful. I would seriously consider whether you need someone like that in your life. 

flantastic

I answered you on the Attire board - just so you know, in future put XP at the front of your post title so people know it's in more than one place.

hieuoring

In my opinion, consider it lucky. Because we have realized that: after this wedding, it is difficult for you and her to continue a good relationship. She wants everything but..she doesn't know how to respect it