So my “friend” asked me to photograph her wedding. I wouldn’t consider myself a professional photographer but I am a hobby one and do it on the side for fun. I have a professional camera and set up. She led asking me with saying “I was gonna ask you to be a bridesmaid but my fiancé doesn’t have enough men and I have to make it even so I was thinking you can be my photographer? But you can still wear a bridesmaid dress so you can be in some pictures. But you won’t be walking the aisle or anything. I’ll have another photographer there as well.”
I am also a professional baker and make wedding cakes / desserts. So I will be making her wedding cake. She also asked me last minute if I could do her bridal hair..
My question is, what do I wear? She wants me in some pictures but I think it would be weird to wear a bridesmaid dress. Also feel kind of like I shouldn’t be wearing one as I’m not actually a bridesmaid... help
Re: What do I wear?
If I were you, I would tell her that you'd be more comfortable just attending as a guest and let her hire her own vendors. If you decide to go through with it and work the wedding, I'd recommend pants and a blouse. Choose something you can move in, as you'll need to get on the floor, move things around, etc. Pockets would also be helpful.
I don't know anything about you, but you deserve better. She literally told you that having even numbers would be more important than including a friend as a bridesmaid. Awful. I would seriously consider whether you need someone like that in your life.