I am doing virtual save the dates. I have multiple cousins and other family members who are not married, but are in committed relationships with children. I cannot adress them as The James Family on my save the dates as they do not have the same last name. I read to include each childs name on the invite, but I am under a time crunch for the save the dates and do not have time to get correct spelling(Facebook only helps so much) of all the childrens names. I plan to include them all on the stationary invites later, but am unsure what to do for now.
Is it appropriate to address it like this
Mr. James & Ms.Smith & Family
If not, what is appropriate? Please help!
Re: How to address unmarried couples with children?
If it is not possible, I would say something like you have above but substitute "their children" for family so they don't interpret family as including the great aunt Maude.
Save the dates aren't necessary and are better limited just to VIPs. If you don't have time to get the names before you send them, either skip them or wait until you do.
Also, missJeanLouise said: I have reached out to some of the parents, but some have not been very prompt to respond. My family is large and has many children so getting ahold of everyone is quite a task! I am definitely trying though! We are having a destination wedding and our family will have to travel for the wedding, some only live 2-3hrs from the venue but others live across the country. That is the only reason I am sending save the dates and trying to get them out in a timely manner.
Thank you so so much for your advice! It is super helpful and I am very grateful you took the time to respond to my question:)
Our wedding is going to reguire a good amount of travel for my family so that is why I chose to send save the dates! Especially with the state of the world, I wanted to give people a little more time to decide on their plans:)
Mr. and Mrs. Homer and Marge Simpson
Bart, Lisa, Maggie
A family with different last names would be the same except it starts Mr. John Doe and Ms. Jane Roe. Not married means you exclude the "and" and break them into different lines.
Using "And Family" or "Jones Family" implies that anyone they consider family is invited (see Aunt Midred above), but also suggests that you don't care enough about them to learn their names. While that may be fine for holiday cards to casual acquaintances, it's rude for an invitation.
Jane Smith and John Jones
and children
For the invitations, you will need to know how all the invitees prefer to be addressed. You'll also need those correct names for thank you notes.