Tuesday

charlotte989875

Doing work that my 2-above wants even though it’s pretty pointless (literally checking to see that numbers are the same in three different places. They are. Legally there’s be problems if there weren’t). So I’m dragging my heels on it because, again, annoying. 

mrsconn23

I took half day yesterday and walked straight into fuckery before I was logged in.  It's still continuing today and it turns out that the person squawking is causing their own fuckery.  Very obnoxious.  Now I have to nicely tell them to stop causing their own issues and work it out with the proper entity.  And then cross my fingers they don't come back trying to make this still my issue. Ugh. 

So yay, Tuesday.  The best day.  LOL  

We're all dragging in the mornings right now, especially DefConn. Only 2 more days of school left after today.  I'm trying really hard not to think about how fast time is going because it makes me anxious and gives me ridiculous dreams.  

I'm trying to psych myself up to stay home on my day off tomorrow and get some stuff done around the house.  I do have TV and podcasts to catch up on and I don't need a damn thing.  I should also enjoy the time alone with myself since summer break means there's someone around most of the time.  Hee.  

climbingsingle

I finally, finally, finally am OFFICIALLY divorced!! I got an email from my lawyer this morning that the judge finally signed off. 

So thank fucking god!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mrsconn23

YES @climbingsingle!!  HAPPY DIVORCE DAY!!  Good riddance to asshole rubbish. 

MissKittyDanger

We had a long weekend, and it was good. Ended up being more productive than anticipated lmao

Thursday M got vaxxed. Friday he slept.
Saturday morning M donated blood, BK and I went to my mum's. Learned she can escape PNP but she was going right on to mattress that is beside. So we figure it's not her trying to escape for sake of escaping, she just wanted to be in the bed.
She fell asleep, but unfortunately my mum didn't sleep well because of fear BK would wake up and escape. Tbh if she did, I think she'd play and crash on the mattress lol

Sunday was good. Lowkey mostly. BK napped when we got home, and had our weekly facetime call.

Monday was also productive. I took BK to the park while M weed whacked our yard and he also has a small saw attachment, so he cut down more of our tree.
We discussed that in late September, we're going to dig up the tree root. That way it'll be the season the ground can freeze and we can fix our garden next year.
I suggested that depending on the digging, we may take up our garden and redo it next year. Our bleeding hearts are still around, and M made sure he didn't touch it while cleaning up yard. Apparently there's a fair amount of weeds, but I'll deal maybe next weekend.

BK turns 3 on Friday.
What. WHAT!?

Also I just paid off my student loan. I just bit the bullet.
This was the loan I was discussing recently.

It's gone. This morning.
Waiting a few days for it to show online as actually paid off.

14 fkin years of this damn thing.
So excited!

charlotte989875

Yay @climbingsingle!!! Happy divorce day!!! 

CharmedPam

I’m so glad it’s over for you @climbingsingle.  Bitter sweet, right?  I came home after my divorce date, the house was quiet and I had to say outloud “I’m divorced”. For it to really sink in.  It’s definitely not what I wanted, but was what I was handed.

happy belated Victoria Day Canadians!

oh my just 2 more days @mrsconn23?  Of the school year? 

Last night, after work, I went to get a tooth whitening procedure done.  During it, I kinda felt like my lip was being pulled... don’t remember that from last time but, what I do for whiter teeth?  Turns out I should have said something. The gel was burning the inside of my lip and I got a blister from it. 

Still went home to eat.  A puffy, swollen, blistered lip doesn’t stop this girl!  I had my taste of Georgia too.  Fried up some veggies with a really good garlic olive oil I purchased at the GA farmers market and put some of that tasty mustard based bbq sauce Georgia loves on my burger.  Yum! Watched Seeking Sister Wife and then crashed, ignoring all my responsibilities. 

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MissKittyDanger

@climbingsingle Whooo! We both got rid of something today lmao!

mrsconn23

CharmedPam said:

oh my just 2 more days @mrsconn23?  Of the school year? 

I knnnnooowwww.  And next year is our last year of elementary.  I need to go turn on "Sunrise, Sunset" and have a cry.  LMAO

climbingsingle

@CharmedPam yes, it's totally bittersweet! I'm feeling a lot of emotions. I was actually already at work when I found out, and it blurted it out. My coworker came right over a hugged me. So that was nice. 

I have weird feelings about being alone tonight so I set up a Zoom call with my friends for later..haha. 

ei34

Glad to hear @climbingsingle
Ugh that kind of work is the worst @charlotte989875
I’ve been searching nonstop for a room for STBXH to rent but he’s rejecting them all. Ugh.

banana468

ei34 said:

Glad to hear @climbingsingle
Ugh that kind of work is the worst @charlotte989875
I’ve been searching nonstop for a room for STBXH to rent but he’s rejecting them all. Ugh.

He is probably going to reject everything. 

Is there any shot that he has a GTFO order with an optional tent if he doesn't pick a place by the deadline?    Based on what you say he's going to need to be wheeled out on a hand truck. 

mrsconn23

Ughh @ei34.  So many shades of my friend's STBXH.  Why do you insist on living where you're not fucking wanted, man?  I'm sorry. It's so frustrating and infuriating. 

levioosa

I’m so glad it’s over for you @climbingsingle. 

Ugh, what an ass @ei34

Not too much happening over here. I’m tired today. I got home last night and spent the rest of the evening cleaning. We ended up going to bed at 11:30. The original plan was to wake up and work out but I was too tired for that this morning so it will just be a walk/hike later today. The tub is getting reglazed so I have to shower at FSIL’s afterwards. I’m glad we’re getting it done but we can’t use the tub for three days, and right now it’s our only shower so that’s a pain. 

In other news, FSIL B and the other BM are blowing up my phone with B party related things. It’s overwhelming and I don’t want the BM to go overboard on decorations. I also don’t know how flamingos got thrown into the mix but here we are. 

banana468

This is such a busy week.   Chiquito has a game tonight and I'm hoping that we can grab take out as an option to help cushion the need to cook.   The restaurant within walking distance of his baseball field is doing a fundraiser for the local HS so getting their food is donating to charity and I just SHOULD do it right? 

I'm trying to keep Chiquita on schedule.  She can get so easily distracted and her rehearsals this week are ending between 8 and 8:30.  While I don't want a rained out Memorial Day weekend if it pours Friday night then she may get the soccer game she's missing rescheduled.  

Otherwise it's SSDD.  

short+sassy

@climbingsingle, what a relief!  I'm glad that is over for you.  Onward and upward!  If you don't mind my asking, whatever happened to the house?  Was your exH able to buy you out or are you all selling it?

@charlotte989875 and @mrsconn23, I'm right there with you both today on work fuckery.  We are just starting to ramp up a big project and the client was asking why all the material requisitions (MR) are not on the weekly report I send.  So the big boss sends me an e-mail this morning asking if there is an MR list and when can it get uploaded.

Well, I dunno.  IS there an MR list?  Because you are the one who usually sends it to me.  So then I had to finagle how to say that nicely and sounding helpful, lol.  One of the challenges with my job is I'm usually kept out of the loop on almost everything.  So then it is frustrating when people suddenly want all these answers ASAP on things I haven't had anything to do with yet and couldn't know were even becoming "hot".

Other than that, things are going well.  One of my coworkers and I are going out for lunch today.  It's been a couple months since we caught up, so I am really looking forward to it.

When we were talking about credit cards a couple weeks ago, I mentioned how much I love my BofA one because they will often have offers to pull a cash advance for zero interest for about a year.  I have two different cards with them.  One of them I'd gotten that offer before I left for vacation.  The other one had that offer in my waiting mail, when I got home.  I pulled the trigger on BOTH of those yesterday and am excited to have some "free" money.  I'm going to pay off three business cc's that have the lowest balances and highest interest.  But most of the money is going to pay down my HELOC.  

mrsconn23

levioosa said:

In other news, FSIL B and the other BM are blowing up my phone with B party related things. It’s overwhelming and I don’t want the BM to go overboard on decorations. I also don’t know how flamingos got thrown into the mix but here we are. 

They ride at dawn.  

CharmedPam

Woohoo @short+sassy, that’s a great offer.  I applied for the BOA card too, when I posted that link.  I don’t have it yet, but my town’s mail is notorious for giving me things days later.  I had stopped all my mail until Saturday when I got back and NOTHING has been in my mail box but some junk flyers.

@banana468.  I think you gotta.  It’s a fundraiser, right? Wait before I make you commit, what kind of food?

@MissKittyDanger that’s awesome about the student loan.  One thing out of the way!  While you paid off your debt, I added to mine yesterday *gulp*

MissKittyDanger

@CharmedPam my coworker was joking she added to her student loan lol I'm just stoked. The money I paid to loan I may just set aside for a bit, rebuild the savings. Then start shoving it to another loan

banana468

@CharmedPam it's fresh pasta/Italian.  

Casadena

@climbingsingle YAY!!!!  So glad for you that this saga is finally over.  

Currently hating this 85 degree weather we're having all week.  Humid too.  EW.  Bring the 60s and sunshine back!  I would love another pair of maternity/comfy shorts but i'm not going to spend $ on them for like 4 more weeks.  Trying to motivate myself to work ahead and set things up for when i'm on leave (I am not good at doing this, i'm a very last minute person) but it will be a huge help to my boss and whoever has to take over my quarterly stuff, so it will be worth it.  

I think baby is a girl and our list of baby girl names is like 50 long still, so we need to start narrowing down.  Also need to get the baby room in shape.  This kid is coming soon!

So glad @short+sassy and @CharmedPam had an awesome vacay!  I'm super jealous and can't wait to be fully vaxxed and maybe travel sometime next year!

climbingsingle

short+sassy said:

@climbingsingle, what a relief!  I'm glad that is over for you.  Onward and upward!  If you don't mind my asking, whatever happened to the house?  Was your exH able to buy you out or are you all selling it?

Oh god, the house. He was supposed to refinance to remove me from the mortgage. But because he lies about his income and hides money, he was denied. LOL. So he now has 1 year to either refinance and if he can't he has to sell the house. 

mrsconn23

climbingsingle said:

short+sassy said:

@climbingsingle, what a relief!  I'm glad that is over for you.  Onward and upward!  If you don't mind my asking, whatever happened to the house?  Was your exH able to buy you out or are you all selling it?

Oh god, the house. He was supposed to refinance to remove me from the mortgage. But because he lies about his income and hides money, he was denied. LOL. So he now has 1 year to either refinance and if he can't he has to sell the house. 

OMG, this give me a sigh of relief for my friend.  Her STBXH (who has had no income for 2-3 years...maybe more) swears he can get financed to buy her out of their mortgage and keep the house.  He has 60 days and if he can't secure financing, he has another 30 to get out (all the eyerolls).  I'm certain he won't get approved.  I want to be a fly on a wall when he's trying to even apply.  

If he fails, she gets to keep the house or she can sell.  If she keeps it she will have to refi to pay him off, but she can stay.  

banana468

@climbingsingle isn't this THE time that it would be in his best financial interest to sell?  Anyone I know who is selling is talking the # of days that the house is on the market to the point that your nail polish won't chip between listing date and going to contract.  Some are even going at over asking!  I suppose that makes finding something harder but he could rent and take the profits with him until the market cools. 

short+sassy

@MissKittyDanger, congrats on paying off that student loan!  That sounds gratifying.

@levioosa, I've never reglazed a tub, but I've looked into it and have always been curious.  Let us know how it goes!

For our last big reno (the dreaded double-duplexes), we had to totally replace two of the tubs.  But they were structurally in bad shape, so reglazing wouldn't have really helped.

short+sassy

climbingsingle said:

short+sassy said:

@climbingsingle, what a relief!  I'm glad that is over for you.  Onward and upward!  If you don't mind my asking, whatever happened to the house?  Was your exH able to buy you out or are you all selling it?

Oh god, the house. He was supposed to refinance to remove me from the mortgage. But because he lies about his income and hides money, he was denied. LOL. So he now has 1 year to either refinance and if he can't he has to sell the house. 

SIB:
No time like the present to declare his real income on his tax returns for 2020 and 2021 (next year).  But it's hard for people who are already used to cheating the government to take a tax hit for 1-2 years, even if that is in their best interest.

Plus, if he is self-employed and/or earns income outside of a W-2 job, that can also be a major obstacle on a purchase or refi.

It's too bad he won't just sell!  It is such a seller's market.  Right now is the best time.  He can rent somewhere like you did and then buy another house when the market cools off some.

kvruns

congrats @climbingsingle !!!!

climbingsingle

banana468 said:

@climbingsingle isn't this THE time that it would be in his best financial interest to sell?  Anyone I know who is selling is talking the # of days that the house is on the market to the point that your nail polish won't chip between listing date and going to contract.  Some are even going at over asking!  I suppose that makes finding something harder but he could rent and take the profits with him until the market cools. 

Oh, you forget what a loser my ex-husband is. HE STILL LIVES IN THE HOUSE HE GREW UP IN. He bought it from his father (for a very cheap price) back in the early 2000s. He will never sell that house..lol. I imagine he'll have his mom or brother cosign for him. 

kvruns

ok wait so he bought the house for a cheap price 20 years ago but still can't afford it??

banana468

climbingsingle said:

banana468 said:

@climbingsingle isn't this THE time that it would be in his best financial interest to sell?  Anyone I know who is selling is talking the # of days that the house is on the market to the point that your nail polish won't chip between listing date and going to contract.  Some are even going at over asking!  I suppose that makes finding something harder but he could rent and take the profits with him until the market cools. 

Oh, you forget what a loser my ex-husband is. HE STILL LIVES IN THE HOUSE HE GREW UP IN. He bought it from his father (for a very cheap price) back in the early 2000s. He will never sell that house..lol. I imagine he'll have his mom or brother cosign for him. 

So he grows up with a group of enablers as a grown adult!  

I cannot imagine asking my parents to cosign a loan for me.   

ILoveBeachMusic

banana468 said:

@CharmedPam it's fresh pasta/Italian.  

That's a no brainer - you have to support the local school!