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Wedding Woes
mrsconn23
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Tuesday, Tuesday, full of rage.
in Wedding Woes
We are in the bad place. I mean, we have been, but like...it just keeps getting worse. Fuckity, fuck, fuck all of this. I have to go vote in my primaries today.
I also need to get my IUD swap appt in place ASAP because it's what I can do to protect myself.
The weather is shit. I am tired. It is Tuesday. Fuck all of this.
I also need to get my IUD swap appt in place ASAP because it's what I can do to protect myself.
The weather is shit. I am tired. It is Tuesday. Fuck all of this.
Re: Tuesday, Tuesday, full of rage.
Alito's opinion is wild AF and also drags in other cases like LGBTQIA marriage, birth control, and FFS, even Loving (interracial marriage) into question.
Old white men need to get out of my vagina.
Oh yeah. I had forgotten about that. Louisiana already outlawed abortions so that, if the day came when Roe vs. Wade was overturned, that law would immediately go into effect. Gotta send women and their rights back to the dark ages ASAP! Don't want any "pesky" waiting times while a new law is drafted.
I think TX is another state with something like this and I'm sure there are others.
Also, these laws are set up in mostly red states. Blue states for the most part still have legal abortion, but the hoops you have to jump through to get one changes from state to state. There are states working to codify abortion and protections for their providers that perform abortions for out-of-state citizens. However, the cost is usually too high for the people who need an abortion the most to go out of state because you have to pay to travel, which can take days or up to a week for some people, and pay for the abortion. Furthermore, there are red states trying to pass laws to prevent people from leaving the state to get abortion care. So if you have seen a doctor in a red state and had your pregnancy confirmed, you may not be able to leave the state unless you decide to take your freedom into your own hands if these laws are passed and upheld.
I live in a red state. If I turned up pregnant after Roe is overturned, I already have an idea of a plan for myself if I no longer wanted to be pregnant. I'm actually more concerned about complications if I were to become pregnant (since maternal mortality is shit here) and DH having his hands tied to save me because of abortion laws.
It's super fucked here.
It's all I can think about today.
-treating an ectopic pregnancy with required reimplantation vs. removal of the tube
-treating a D&C of a deceased child in utero as an abortion
-at what point can a labor be induced when there is the health of the mother in jeopardy and it is known that the baby is terminal.
And as others have said, the other layer to this is that the legal precedent cited to overturn Roe v. Wade can be used to reverse other legislation that does not criminalize homosexual activity, pornography, interracial marriage and gay marriage.
Also, you think you want to get pregnant via IVF? Good luck. No one will touch it because destruction of embryos could be criminalized since they're 'people' now. That industry will dry up.
This was evident with the Texas law that was passed and nothing was passed at the same time about mandatory child support.
I wish the majority of "Pro-Life" people cared more about the lives of people already born. Because those are a lot of the same folks who also want to gut social welfare, physical and mental health, and educational programs.
Especially mental health. Now that victims impregnated by their rapist, including young girls raped by a family member, will be forced to deliver those babies.
Edited to add: No offense to you, @banana468. I know it's one issue and not all pro-life people are in lockstep with the whole Republican agenda of no universal health care and the like.
So then I came home to the news about the leak. I don't even have words, I'm just so angry and tired. I live in a state with a trigger laws too. I fear what else is going to come down the pipe now that they've been successful in this. The conversations in my local queer bar are people who are anxious and scared of what is going to happen to them. Most of us are cis, white, and middle class. I can't even begin to comprehend what my trans, BIPoC, and poorer community members must be feeling.
Also, there's no healthcare to be had unless you're fully employed and that's not a guarantee. Also, maternal mortality is abysmal in this country, and worse for POC, especially Black women. And if you are fully employed, there's no national leave to take care of the baby and you're lucky to get it covered for 6 weeks at 60% of your pay (while you pay full benefits out of your reduced salary!). Plus there's currently a formula shortage, especially if your baby needs specialty formula. Breast feeding is time-consuming, physically, and emotionally draining. If you want to BF, you can pay out the nose for support and supplements to assist you with the process. Oh and you want your kid to go to day care? Good luck finding a spot in a center since a ton have closed since the pandemic and at home day care is a crapshoot (had a great experience personally, but I've heard of horror stories). Live at or below the poverty line? Ha. Good fucking luck. Your benefits may not cover the sky-rocketing costs of formula and diapers. And family courts are so overwhelmed that if you don't know exactly where the other parent is and where they work, getting CS may not happen for you until they are so far behind they can't catch up and will just be put in jail for failure to pay.
Ohhh andplusalso, the same SC is also working to dismantle progress on initiatives to slow climate change. Therefore your kid will grow up in a world that is decaying faster and they will be at much higher risk for all sorts of diseases, more pandemics, more likely to be displaced due to a natural disaster, etc.
Depending on where you live, they may also get shit education because the governor decided three textbooks only will work and they're all riddled with errors.
Also, you have to be extremely privileged to even whiff fertility assistance in the first place because often there's very limited coverage or it will cost most than the allowed amount through insurance.
To the bolded I agree with you. My point in it is that if there is any legislation that is passed that criminalizes abortion but does not address any form of financial cost involved in having a child then that law is doing exactly what you said and does NOTHING to respect or help the lives affected.
Pregnancy is expensive, especially if someone is high risk and doesn't "qualify" for a medical exemption. Daycare is expensive. Babies/children are expensive to take care of. Working at a low paying job with no sick/vacation time and minimal or no health care? And all of that is exponentially more difficult. Which is why some women wouldn't be able to travel 500+ miles away to another state in order to have an abortion, in the first place (if that was what they wanted).
Someone on the NOLA sub-Reddit was estimating that, once you consider the states that already have trigger laws and the ones mostly likely to make abortion illegal, the closest place a woman would need to travel from our area is southern Illinois. a 600 mile and 9-hour drive away, and that's only one-way.
I'm not worried about myself. I'm 48 and take BC and, although I haven't gone through menopause yet, it's super unlikely I could pregnant even if I were trying. But I'm worried about my fellow women who may not have the resources to leave, but don't have the resources to raise a child either.