My sister and I got engaged the same year, only her wedding didn’t happen since she was caught cheating. She also lost her job and got blacklisted from her field since her boss was her fiancé’s mother.
I lost what little sympathy I had because of her behavior when she got even a whiff about my wedding plans—scoffing, sighing, sniggering, and slamming doors. Everyone expected me to walk on eggshells around her, but her behavior went on for months and months. She threw a fit when I didn’t ask her to be my maid of honor. She threw another fit when I did because “it was too much” for her to deal with. At my wedding, she got drunk and made a huge scene where she insinuated my husband and his best female friend were secretly screwing around. She had to be escorted out. Her apology to me was that she was sorry she had too much to drink. I told her I didn’t want her in my life until she got professional help. She called me a smug bitch.
It has been three years and we haven’t spoken since. She isn’t getting help, and she is getting worse—she has gotten fired twice, been sued by her roommate for missing rent, and gotten caught shoplifting. Our parents keep bailing her out, but they are retired and on a fixed income. She moved in with them but under strict rules: She had to get a part-time job and go to therapy.
Only my parents want me to pay for it!
While my husband and I both work, we have college loans and a mortgage to think of. We aren’t exactly looking through the couch for loose change, but our savings are slim. My parents are guilting me—my sister is finally doing what I have always wanted and I can’t support her? She is sick and hurting, why can’t I support her?
My husband thinks we should offer to pay for a session or two as a peace offering. I am tired of playing peacemaker; I did that for months and my sister ruined my wedding as a reward. My parents have spent thousands of dollars on my sister, I know they are tapped out.