We are having a terrible experience w/ USPS in even getting our save the dates out. Sent out in Oct. some people still haven't received them. I've also heard many stories about the actual invitations never making it to some people or arriving far too late. Our wedding is Black Tie Optional and I'm seriously considering doing a digital invitation. Thoughts on this? Will this in time be the new norm?
Re: Digital Invitations? Yay or Nay?
I also echo both @ILoveBeachMusic and @MobKaz that black tie optional is not an actual "thing". Your wedding is either black tie which requires a specific dress from your guests but moreover, requires more work on your end or formal. Only if your event is actually black tie would you state that dress requirement. If it is not, dress code is never actually mentioned. And if you're having a formal wedding with all the bells and whistles noted then the formal invitation with hand calligraphy on the envelopes needs to follow suit.
A digital invitation would be fine for a more casual event, provided you make some accommodations for people who don't receive digital correspondence. If you're trying to skew more to the formal side, even if you're not black tie formal, you should still go with the traditional paper. Digital is becoming more common, but it still sends the message that an event is casual.
It's a huge NAY from me on the digital invitations However, if you want to do a digital option for the RSVP in addition to mailed or phone contact as an option, go for it - I get it, it's 2023, but the reality is not everyone has access to reliable internet, especially in rural areas (there are still places in the US that are dial-up for internet even to this day!) and there is still a sizable amount of the population that doesn't own a computer.
As for the issues you're having with the USPS - Use your regional service hub to send the invitations out instead of going to your local post office. Essentially you're taking out the middle location and while it may be out of the way and farther, it may cut down on some of the other problems you had.