Tuesday

MissKittyDanger

VarunaTT said:

Weirdly, TikTok would be helpful here.  There's lots of creators sharing their "hacks" for getting around things like (what it sounds like here) executive dysfunction.  Basically, you just can't make a decision; you may have done all of the work to make the decisions (i.e. his list), but now it's all overwhelming and that last little step is just not going to happen, no matter how much you want it to.

The big thing is to try and work with the things, not against it.  One of the routines I saw that I liked was that someone took a big laundry basket and put their cleaning supplies in it.  Went into the room they wanted to clean.  If something is in that room that actually belongs in room B, they just throw it in the laundry basket.  Why?  B/c if someone with ADHD goes trotting to room B to put away that thing, they get distracted, will start doing something in Room B, realize they've left Room A half done, got trotting back to Room A, rinse and repeat until every room in the house is half cleaned and now it's all messy.  I do something similar, but I'm able to leave the thing at the door of the correct room...most of the time.  I recognize the pattern, so I just make myself leave it there and walk away, reminding myself I'll be back (which actually plays quite well into doom piling, but I'm ooookkkaaayyy at handling that...most of the time.  Just don't look at my dining room table right now.  I cleaned the one at the top of the stairs this weekend).

M & I both have executive dysfunction and our clutter issues are 90% doom piles lol


Apparently, M finds putting on music easy to "over ride" the executive dysfunction.

I on the other hand will do the trot back and forth until eventually it's all clean or I give up.
Note: I did this yesterday with my kitchen and dining room. Kitchen got finished, dining room half done but then I screwed up and sat down.

levioosa

The older I get the more convinced I have ADHD too. The struggle with walking into another room while cleaning and getting distracted by something else is real. Doom piles are my nemesis. I’m great at organizing once I get to it but until then….doom pile of mail to file in the closet…which is stacked on top of the shoes I need to put away….which is stacked on top of the vacation items that I sometimes use and haven’t put away….which is next to a pile of something else I can’t remember. Most of the time the house looks clean and organized, but that’s only if you don’t open any closets or drawers. Lol. 

banana468

My husband has saved Pepsi cans with Star Wars characters on them.

From the late 90's.  

A friend of his greeted me at his 20th HS reunion asking how I felt about him not throwing anything out.   We have a Rubbermaid container of power supplies for you know...when you might need to take a plug from something you don't use to make into something else.  

He's handy and functional and a wonderful person and is NOT minimalist.

I'm not minimalist either but I can part with things easier.   

VarunaTT

levioosa said:

The older I get the more convinced I have ADHD too. The struggle with walking into another room while cleaning and getting distracted by something else is real. Doom piles are my nemesis. I’m great at organizing once I get to it but until then….doom pile of mail to file in the closet…which is stacked on top of the shoes I need to put away….which is stacked on top of the vacation items that I sometimes use and haven’t put away….which is next to a pile of something else I can’t remember. Most of the time the house looks clean and organized, but that’s only if you don’t open any closets or drawers. Lol. 

I try really Really REALLY hard not to let them happen, but there are 2 spots that I almost always have them.  The dining room table and the upper loft.  And they are definitely "out of sight out of mind" piles.  Which is why I'm super glad that the state DMV has finally gotten online so that those reminders are now on my email, which I look at multiple times/day.  It's a lot harder to avoid/forget/put in a pile of mail I might look at again in a few months.

MobKaz

ILoveBeachMusic said:

I know it is bad form to delete (and I've already been quoted) but realized I shouldn't have vented on here. I hope that no one knows DD and relays to her what I wrote.

 There is another avenue your DD can explore if they do not think the current play therapy is effective.

If behaviors continue to escalate, they may want to consider seeing either a neuropsychologist and/or an occupational therapist that has SPECIFIC training in sensory proccessing difficulties.  Many children do not register their sensory experiences in a typical manner.  They can be assessed to determine whether they might be a low or high registration kid.  A kid determined to be low registration would require MORE input for proper/efficient processing, while a high registration child would require less. 

The downside to all intervention at these younger ages is that there is a strong burden on the parents to be consistent in practice.  It is not easy but can and will pay off, but it is not a quick fix by any means.  Just thought I would offer a different perspective.

ILoveBeachMusic

MobKaz said:

ILoveBeachMusic said:

I know it is bad form to delete (and I've already been quoted) but realized I shouldn't have vented on here. I hope that no one knows DD and relays to her what I wrote.

 There is another avenue your DD can explore if they do not think the current play therapy is effective.

If behaviors continue to escalate, they may want to consider seeing either a neuropsychologist and/or an occupational therapist that has SPECIFIC training in sensory proccessing difficulties.  Many children do not register their sensory experiences in a typical manner.  They can be assessed to determine whether they might be a low or high registration kid.  A kid determined to be low registration would require MORE input for proper/efficient processing, while a high registration child would require less. 

The downside to all intervention at these younger ages is that there is a strong burden on the parents to be consistent in practice.  It is not easy but can and will pay off, but it is not a quick fix by any means.  Just thought I would offer a different perspective.

Thanks. He is in OT in addition to the therapist. Their pediatrician said at this age anxiety can be a big driver and that OT can help with that. Of course, he is too young to be diagnosed with anything. I don't know if he has been assessed to see if he is low or high registration. They have been pleased with the OT but they haven't decided yet for the other therapist.