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Classic: Stop making plans with her

Q. Am I overreacting? For the third time, a friend of mine decided to go ahead with the plans we made that she canceled on me the night before. She’d canceled because she said it was too far for her to walk, she did not want to get on a bus and meet up there, and it might rain. This contradicts her so much, as this is the way we most often get around when we hang out. Well, lo and behold, her Instagram posts showed she went anyway. My guess is she got her brother to drive her, like all the other times she pulled this. I have hung out with them both before, and he always asks when we can all hang out again. We make tentative plans that usually fall through because he ends up having to work, or they show up hours after an event starts, causing me to miss parts of it. Should I just stop initiating plans with her and block her posts so I don’t get annoyed and say something to her I may regret?

Re: Classic: Stop making plans with her

  • Yup. I would.  Stop making plans that is

  • Do not make plans with this person.  Either she's not that into you or she's super flaky or both but it's not worth it unless it's "Are you free in 15?" 

  • Not overreacting, but I would definitely start handling this friend differently.  As in, no longer relying on her for my plans.  If she can make whatever event I'm going to, great.  If not, that's her loss.

    The LW seems to think the brother is nice to hang out with.  Maybe start developing that friendship, outside of his sister.
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  • Stop making plans with her. I have a friend that is sort of similar in the sense that she's constantly asking me I'm doing on a certain night, and then always has an excuse of why she can't do anything. I've honestly just stopped responding to those requests and change the subject. 
  • ei34ei34 member
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    Ditto everyone else.  Stop making plans with this friend...especially events you're excited for / have a start time / are unable to enjoy solo.
  • Good lord, LW.  This is 'fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me." (and as Bush says, "If you fool me, you can't get fooled again", LOL. Kills me every time.)   

    I also agree with making an end-run around the friend and going to the brother.  If he's a fun hang and will show up, leave flaky friend out of it.  Makes one wonder if LW starts going to directly to friend's brother that friend will all of sudden not be so quick to cancel. 

    But in any event, this is not a person who can be relied upon and LW should stop trying unless their kink is to be constantly disappointed. 
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