Dear Prudence,
Lately, I have been feeling strangely strong feelings for wanting to be in love. I have been single most of my adult life, somewhat by choice. Earlier this year, I broke up with a long-term boyfriend. It wasn’t sad, I just didn’t see a future with him. Part of that was because I had developed long COVID and had gotten another major medical diagnosis. It has taken a long time, but I finally found a good doctor and am slowly recovering. My ex was not supportive. When I broke up with him, I was relieved to be able to focus on my health and try to build the life that I want. I am still not where I want to be. I realized I want a different career and want to move but won’t be able to until I get my health issues resolved, which will most likely not be for another six to 12 months. For the time being, I’m working on my health, networking for new positions, and trying new hobbies.
A couple of weeks ago, I was suddenly hit with the overwhelming desire to be in love, deep love. Not just date, but find someone who just makes you incredibly happy. I’ve never felt like that nor have I ever had a relationship like that. I don’t know where this is coming from. Every night, I keep having dreams about being in very romantic relationships and it’s a little unnerving. It’s not like there is anybody I feel a strong connection with. It’s also not a good time, as I am barely well enough to do the things I’m doing now and I am actively trying to move. I’m in my late-30s and after my last breakup, the idea of being single my entire life started to seem nice. I feel really out of sorts here. Do you think I should try dating and maybe stop trying so many hobbies? Should I just wait until I move? What do you think?
—Lingering Love