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Wedding Woes
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Monday blues
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My weekend was nice- got my grading out of the way on Friday, tried my first ever grocery store pickup order (went well, i definitely saved money), the kids got a kick out of seeing exH cross the finish line.
The Halloween party at my parents’ was fun but hectic/chaotic. My sisters and I are kind of annoyed bc it’s eight kids between the ages of 21mos-9 years, it’s going to be loud due to the sheer number of cousins. None of them jump on the couch, run inside the house, anything naughty…it’s just loud. (And the eight adults are louder, volume-wise, than the kids.) Our brother brought a ton of candy (which is fine, it’s Halloween), brought a fog machine, was blasting music, and kind of led the accusations along with my mom in our family text that the party was too crazy. Like…let’s just not do it again? I was just a bit irked the next day at the complaints, and I’m thankful to have two sisters to side text with. And feel stressed about Thanksgiving together with. /vent over
The Halloween party at my parents’ was fun but hectic/chaotic. My sisters and I are kind of annoyed bc it’s eight kids between the ages of 21mos-9 years, it’s going to be loud due to the sheer number of cousins. None of them jump on the couch, run inside the house, anything naughty…it’s just loud. (And the eight adults are louder, volume-wise, than the kids.) Our brother brought a ton of candy (which is fine, it’s Halloween), brought a fog machine, was blasting music, and kind of led the accusations along with my mom in our family text that the party was too crazy. Like…let’s just not do it again? I was just a bit irked the next day at the complaints, and I’m thankful to have two sisters to side text with. And feel stressed about Thanksgiving together with. /vent over
Re: Monday blues
Weekend was good. I chopped all my hair off on Saturday. I don't know what I had stored up in that hair, but I was crying happy tears to get it off my head when he brought out the shaver and started buzzing it off. I feel so much better in my skin now. Sunday I was supposed to WFH, but I decided I was annoyed instead and just chilled out at my place. Harley is definitely going through some attitude growing pains and finally broke something. It was a cool little garden sculpture I had that I did really like.
Back to the work grind. This week and next week are moving prep and moving. I'm looking forward to the new space and I'm just ready to be there.
Years ago when Chiquita was 1 we had a Friendsgiving at our house. It was not quiet and DH and I went to bed finding wooden blocks stuffed in our pillow cases. I'm with you - if a Halloween party for kids makes the house too loud then...maybe next year no party. Kids with costumes and candy are going to be amped up.
Was it inside or outside?
The get together at IL's was actually really fun. I think it was the absence of one SIL and one of H's cousins who are usually the instigators of the very loud conversations and gossip. Kids got to meet some 2nd cousins and had a lot of fun playing. It will be even better when our kids are old enough to not have one of us following them pretty much all the time - especially when it's usually me.
Yesterday I think the boys were just out of control bc they held it together with no outburts and good manners all day saturday. I ended up taking N for a bunch of errands with me then to the park while H was with G all afternoon. It worked out nicely and was fun to have some solo time.
My previous job had some toxic elements. Me and one of my coworkers became good friends. It definitely made it easier to survive having someone who understood and to complain with.
I'm sorry you witnessed a bad accident on the way to work. Take it easy on yourself today.
@VarunaTT, I'm glad you like your new haircut! I've had long hair my whole life and, up until a couple years ago, would never have dreamed of cutting it. But I've started thinking about it. I would never cut it short, I think that style would look horrible on me. Maybe shoulder length? I at least need a new style, but something easy to maintain. But it's hard to take the plunge.
I didn't do much purging around the house over the weekend like I had wanted to. But we had a busy day grocery shopping yesterday and trying to find me a desk chair. Didn't see anything I liked, so back to the internet I went. I found a great one on Amazon for $40, free shipping, and it will be here on Wednesday. It has 60K positive reviews. Where was it the other gazillion times I looked over the last couple weeks? Ugh! But at least I finally found a good choice and made a decision.
There was a gaming/office chair at Costco for $170 that was NICE. So comfy. Very tempting. But an office chair is the kind of thing that might get left behind if there isn't room in the future moving truck, so I had to be responsible and get something cheaper. Good adulting can be such a drag, lol.
The "pet" version of this. When we first brought our dog Izzy home, we knew our cat Nip would not be pleased and might be upset and scared. She was the only pet for years. We were very diligent in those first few weeks to "tsk" at Izzy if she approached Nip and trained her to leave the cat alone.
But then Nip got used to Izzy and we could tell was comfortable around her, so we stopped correcting the dog. Nip would even deign to play chase games with her sometimes. Izzy would be super excited if Nip acknowledged her at all, even to hiss at her, lol.
We have a weird opening between our living room and the rest of the house. It's a "doorway", but you can't put a door there because one side of it goes to an open closet instead of a wall. So we hang a blanket there to help with heating/cooling.
Their chase route was often through that doorway. Nip would slow way down as she navigated going through the curtain. And Izzy who was excitedly right at her heels, would stop. And wait for 20-30 seconds for Nip to finish going through the curtain. Then start up the frantic chase again. It would make me laugh and warm my heart every time!
Weekend was low key. Saturday was soccer photos and then as we got into the car for Chiquita's game it was canceled. She met some friends at the local Starbucks and then we had a quiet afternoon. I've started to make headway going through kids old toys and think by Thursday I should have two garbage bags of stuff to toss and a few more things to throw on Buy Nothing.
Sunday we had a double header game for Chiquito starting at 9 and then 11 and his team won both. DH still battles with the effects of antibiotics and the NP he saw likes how his foot looks. If there's no improvement by mid week he's calling and insisting on seeing the original doctor pushing that this is now going on close to 4 weeks off and on. He's WFH today.
I woke up when DH woke up in the middle of the night which didn't help sleeping so some calming tea is in order before bed. Chiquito wants to play basketball this winter so we have try outs tonight.
@VarunaTT yay new hairs!
@Casadena, glad your party went well too!
Had a low key weekend. Drama pursued on Friday night with meetup members and honestly it’s all highschool sh!t I’m too old for. Saturday I went to a small town for local boutique shopping with another meetup. My friend took some pictures of me around town (they had fall and halloween backdrops set up) and I noticed my coat is ridiculously small. Last year adding “cuffs” worked to the arms, but I need a jacket made for someone with freakishly long arms. I tried the Long Tall Sally site , American Tall site but actually Eddie Bauer won out with their 50% off sale. Someone once mentioned their Tall’s were good for arm length. So fingers crossed they work!
Sunday the weathers was awesome. I went shopping for a bit and then saw Haunting in Venice. I came home to do a dry run of my costume. It technically takes two people to get into, it’s best with four hands on deck. I think I did it pretty well with 2 though. I think it’ll work!! If not, I’ll ask the hostess for some help the day of. I’m pretty excited for it!
I've just been doing stuff around the house today. I'm knitting snowmen for my kids and grandkids. That's a total of five and I have about half the pieces knitted. Then I need to stuff them and put them together. I've bought snowman decorating pieces (tiny hats, scarves and buttons)so that will be a craft project with the grandsons.
H is fixing crab cakes for dinner and I'm doing the Brussel sprouts. That should all be yummy.
The rain stopped a couple of hours before the party so we all had our kids in rain boots and raincoats, as much of it was outside as possible. It's a pattern- gatherings most of spring and all summer are outdoors. Once it begins to cool off and we are inside more than out, the reality of "wow, there are 16 of us" hits.
Unrelated to this weekend but my family definitely has a weird all or nothing vibe. I'd love to bring my kids by to have a nice visit with my parents on a Saturday without my mom calling my sisters and brother to have them too. The four of us totally understand our parents wanting their down time, they don't want one set of grandkids Saturday morning and another Saturday afternoon and another Sunday morning and my brother (who is well-meaning but has a larger than life presence that the rest of us feel, strongly) has a standing Sunday-night-dinner at their house each week. My middle sister and I are extremely close and her older two are close in age/good friends with my kids, and we live near each other...sometimes we try to have a simple playdate where we catch up and the kids can go play...if other family gets wind of it it becomes us excluding them. All to say there's a lot of love but also a lot of things to roll my eyes at.
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My sister and mom live about 45 minutes away from each other. There are also times where all of us will spend time together. Usually my sister coming to our mom's house.
I love my mom and enjoy spending time with her but she can be...a lot. I'm definitely more relaxed and really enjoy just spending time with my sister and her family.
Or we had made plans for them to come over a couple months ago and SIL ended up in labor a couple days before so they had to babysit their 18mo old. Totally fine we can reschedule, but they had the gall to invite us over to BIL/SIL's house the day they were coming home from the hospital with their new baby. Um, excuse me? No. Not your house to invite people to and certainly not the time.
They're lovely and generous and totally clueless sometimes.
Like, most kids don't see a smoke machine and just want to silently break out into the Thriller dance. Add any layer of something different and the kids are getting closer to off the walls antics.