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Casadena

Dear Prudence,

A few months ago, I started dating a wonderful man. He’s funny, supportive, and smart. He’s also pretty active so when he broke his leg a few weeks ago, he was pretty mopey until he somehow found crocheting. He loves it. He’s ordered so many supplies and found so many online tutorials to fill his time that he’s not mopey anymore. I’m really happy for him, but the thing is, I don’t like crocheted items. I think they look messy and old fashioned and I’ve just never liked them. His formerly nice, clean, modern apartment is filled with his creations. We have to mostly go to his apartment because it’s harder for him to move around. He’s also started giving things to me. I’m a minimalist and I thought he was too until this new crocheting fantasy. I’m starting to see some addictive personality traits in him that worry me on their own too. I really don’t want to rain on his parade, I think it’s good for people to have hobbies that make them happy, but I feel like I’m dating a mess. And then I feel like crap for thinking these things. Do you have any advice?

CharmedPam

but he won’t be like this forever? He’ll eventually get back on his feet and his normal life.  Buy a storage bin.  Throw them in there until that happens.  Five years from now, chuck them.
i’m also not a fan of crocheted items - but I do know how hard it is to find love, and he sounds worth staying for!

banana468

There's a few things to address.  One is: tell him what is and isn't your taste. 

Do you hate all crochet?  That's....a lot of stuff.  Can you look up a pattern to see if there may be something you like?  A hat? A scarf? A blanket?  If you can't tell I crochet and it's not all granny squares and chevron pattern blankets from the 70s.

But also talk to him about activities and things to do.  The broken leg time will end...so see if you can talk about other things to do so he doesn't turn into asking for the latest Vanna White book. 

STARMOON44

Just break up with him! Because you don’t like him

CharmedPam

I didn’t detect that LW stopped loving or liking him.  I’m sure LW was annoyed with him, we’re all annoyed with our SO’s at one time or another? But I can’t imagine the conversation to follow;
”What happened to end your last relationship?”
”He started to crotchet.  A lot”.

charlotte989875

You can just stop seeing people you don’t want to date anymore. 

STARMOON44

CharmedPam said:

I didn’t detect that LW stopped loving or liking him.  I’m sure LW was annoyed with him, we’re all annoyed with our SO’s at one time or another? But I can’t imagine the conversation to follow;
”What happened to end your last relationship?”
”He started to crotchet.  A lot”.

“I feel like I’m dating a mess” to me is a sign the relationship needs to end. 

ei34

"A few months ago.." "a few weeks ago" it's all so new for a heavy prudie letter.  Agree with the PP who lean towards breaking up, you don't sound compatible (and that's okay).

short+sassy

I assume the LW isn't sure if she wants to break up with the guy.  The crocheting seems like a minor and possibly temporary hobby.  She should mention she doesn't care for crocheted items and doesn't want more.  Find if there are organizations that would appreciate donations like that and redirect his efforts.