Wednesday crickets?

VarunaTT

I started to ask if I had infected all of you with my hatred of Tuesday, only to realize it's Wednesday.

Not too much to report.  Just working away.  I think upping my Lexapro is really helping things, I feel so much better and have so much more energy, that I'm kind of at a loss.  

Alamo is showing all of the Matrix movies and all of the extended Lord of the Rings movies, so I have a load of movies to go see in the next month.  I feel like there's something wrong with seeing all of these older movies in theatre, but they are movies I love and deserve the big screen.  Otherwise, SSDD.

CharmedPam

Ha! And it’s slow as molasses here, so I should have checked the boards sooner.  I wanted to see a movie on NYD, but nothing really piqued my interest.  Maybe Wonka but I don’t know if it’s worth bundling up and going out for.
My nutrafol shipment should be here today. I ordered it on the 24th and it feels like it took forever even with the two holidays in there. Says this prime member used to getting things in 2 days or less. I heard good things about it so I’m going to give it a try. Wish me luck because I can’t wear hair extensions for the rest of my life!
my friend got me into diamond painting.  Look it up. Basically a “paint by number” with sparkly beads. I don’t know why it’s so addicting, but it is.  I did a lot of that last night while watching “Natalia Grace speaks”.  Don’t even get me started on that! 

Other than that, SSDD here too. 

charlotte989875

I would love to see the LOTR movies in the theater @VarunaTT. Nothing wrong with that! They absolutely deserve the big screen again. I’m currently rereading the series now and wish I could watch them on a big screen when I’m finished. 

kerbohl

@CharmedPam I've done those diamond painting!  I still have one I haven't started.  My aunt is really into it.  I've completed one, but it takes up a lot of room.  I want to get a frame for the one I did but haven't gotten around to it, and then I don't know where in my house I would put it.

@VarunaTT LOTR in theaters again?  Sounds like so much fun, especially the extended editions.  I really should rewatch them, it's been a year or two.

People have finally returned to the holidays, so now begins the joy of catch up.  It was nice to have some quiet days at work for a little bit.  New Years was great.

charlotte989875

Not a lot of sleep last night so trying to nap if/when J naps. We’re pretty much figuring everything out day to day. Or really hour to hour. 

short+sassy

@VarunaTT, I hardly ever go to the movies.  But if it is an older movie and that might be my only chance to see it on the big screen, I do!

@CharmedPam, I was just complaining to myself how COLD it is today.  But compared to the Chicago area, I'll count my blessings.  I haven't heard of diamond painting, but it sounds neat.

SSDD.  Glad it's WFH, but not much else interesting going on.  I was a little frustrated this morning.  I was back to my normal diet yesterday.  I even got back to drinking all the water I'm supposed to.  I downed 104 ounces!  I know I've been flaking on that for the last month.  

I was excited to get on the scale this morning.  Thinking there was a good chance I'd lost at least a few tenths of a pound, now that I'm back on track.  Nope, I gained a pound.  What?  Argh!  Maybe my body was shocked by all the water input again and it's just water weight, lol.

CharmedPam

What’s the age difference between M and J again, @charlotte989875? I bet it’s going to be a sleep schedule adjustment! 

kerbohl said:

@CharmedPam I've done those diamond painting!  I still have one I haven't started.  My aunt is really into it.  I've completed one, but it takes up a lot of room.  I want to get a frame for the one I did but haven't gotten around to it, and then I don't know where in my house I would put it.

This is my problem too! Well, with my finished work but also any piece of art I find and love. My walls are filled.  I need a bigger place with more wall space, obviously. 

CharmedPam

short+sassy said:

@CharmedPam, I was just complaining to myself how COLD it is today.  But compared to the Chicago area, I'll count my blessings.  I haven't heard of diamond painting, but it sounds neat.

And it’s been averaging 35 here.  Really not that bad.  But it takes a lot for me to get up and out of my warm comfy house in the winter.  That’s another thing.  No one else has their house temperatures to my liking.  I think I’ll be a hermit till April. 

charlotte989875

CharmedPam said:

What’s the age difference between M and J again, @charlotte989875? I bet it’s going to be a sleep schedule adjustment! 

kerbohl said:

@CharmedPam I've done those diamond painting!  I still have one I haven't started.  My aunt is really into it.  I've completed one, but it takes up a lot of room.  I want to get a frame for the one I did but haven't gotten around to it, and then I don't know where in my house I would put it.

This is my problem too! Well, with my finished work but also any piece of art I find and love. My walls are filled.  I need a bigger place with more wall space, obviously. 

M is 3.5 and has been sleeping beautifully for the last 2 years so this is DEFINITELY a big adjustment lol. 

VarunaTT

@CharmedPam well, I won't do those diamond paintings, but I'm probably a weird outlier.  I've been involved with drag artists for forever.  I'm a pretty good rhinestone designer and have made/worked on loads of costumes for folx.  So, when I see those diamond paintings, they seem like work to me.  But if you really love it, I'm sure there's some drag queens/kings/royalty who would LOVE to put you to work "stoning".  We also called it "gemming" (like a "gemstone" but as a verb) b/c a friend we roped into helping didn't know what to call it and said gemming and we all loved it.



ETA:  I did order some paper quilling kits recently that I'm really interested in. They should be here soon.

banana468

Oh @charlotte989875 I hope there's some care for M so you can get the bonding time with J and some naps.  Congratulations to you new mama part deux!  That newborn phase is new and exhausting. 

short+sassy

charlotte989875 said:

M is 3.5 and has been sleeping beautifully for the last 2 years so this is DEFINITELY a big adjustment lol. 

My sister and I are about 3.5 years apart.  I always thought that was a nice age gap.

We were close enough in age to play together as little kids.  But far enough apart that we had our own friends and weren't really in school together.  Only elementary school, but the lower/higher grades had different recesses and lunches so I didn't usually see her.

STARMOON44

VarunaTT said:

@CharmedPam well, I won't do those diamond paintings, but I'm probably a weird outlier.  I've been involved with drag artists for forever.  I'm a pretty good rhinestone designer and have made/worked on loads of costumes for folx.  So, when I see those diamond paintings, they seem like work to me.  But if you really love it, I'm sure there's some drag queens/kings/royalty who would LOVE to put you to work "stoning".  We also called it "gemming" (like a "gemstone" but as a verb) b/c a friend we roped into helping didn't know what to call it and said gemming and we all loved it.



ETA:  I did order some paper quilling kits recently that I'm really interested in. They should be here soon.

Same! My friends are into it and I’m like can you not just come over and help me stone a dance dress lol?

mrsconn23

OMG, I was so glad that SIL and nieces finally left after two weeks that I just tried to close DefConn in the pantry thinking I was the one who'd left it open.  LOL  

That's not to say that we didn't enjoy their visit, but I'm exhausted by being around people and having them in my space.  Like, I need one of those quiet retreats where you only hear a sound bowl or something. 

I'm so glad I took yesterday off.  I slept in, got stuff done around the house, but mostly got to relax and work on stitching.  

Work is in full-swing.  It's our busy season.  Plus I have reviews and a hiring process to get through. 

The kiddo let us know about a month ago that his on-again, off-again gf is pregnant.  She's due at the end of July (actually on my grandma's bday, I think).  It's been a lot to process and it was really hard to do so on top of the holidays.  It wasn't a secret from the family, so we were all openly talking about it.  DH and I have been able to have some really honest conversations about it all and we're on the same page.  

DH interviews tomorrow with HR for the promotion.  He should have the big interview next week or early the following week.  He's already being pulled into higher level stuff and has the support of the last 2 people who held the position.  

SOoooo...Happy effing New Year, y'all.   

ei34

I love already-seen movies in the theater @VarunaTT. Some of the recent kid movies that we’d enjoyed straight to home release due to the pandemic (Soul, Red Panda, Luca) are being released in theater over the next couple months, the kids and I are so going. Just a different experience. 

@CharmedPam diamond painting sounds so cool!
@charlotte989875 new mama exhaustion hugs your way, the beginning is so hard. Glad you guys are home from the Hosp again. 

@m@mrsconn23 hugs and vibes your way too, that’s a lot. Glad you and your H are on the same page and have the house to yourselves again too.

 ExH is getting on my last nerve. The kids just had ten days off for Christmas break and it was complete radio silence on seeing them (they haven’t seen him since October and would enjoy it, not to mention i wouldn’t mind a few hours to myself once in a while). Since Monday has been texting me to “bring the kids by for a quick visit”. Umm…they’re busy after school? And have homework? And bedtimes? Not to mention they deserve more than a quick visit, why don’t you take them for this chunk of time Friday, or these 6-8 hours on Saturday OR on Sunday. But nope. Instead I got accused of withholding the kids last night, all for him to text me today that he has Covid and is on his death bed and in and out of the hospital and can they at least drive by to see him “one last time” and can I bring soup and fluids and DayQuil. I don’t believe he’s sick but we are going to drive to him tonight at 6:30 after religion class and hopefully be home not too much past bedtime. The kids aren’t going inside and are masking. He’s so Fing annoying 😖

VarunaTT

@ei34 you're not taking him anything thought, right?  I know he's your kids' father and all, but he's an adult who has to take care of himself now.  

I'm mad for you.  

CharmedPam

Woah, @mrsconn23, was this your life changing news you mentioned awhile ago? It sure is! Life changing. Good luck to the H tomorrow but I’m still not over that first part of it yet lol.
and double woah to that POS ex @ei34. One last time. Pffft.  Pour on the drama, will you? I’d almost like to see hospital receipts on this one. I’d also say “well if you had covid it’s a good thing they didn’t spend time with you yesterday”. 

short+sassy

@mrsconn23, GL tomorrow for your H!  Though I'd guess the HR interview is more a formality and it's the other one that's the deciding one.  Exciting stuff and I'm crossing my fingers for you all.

Congrats to the kiddo!  I can understand that must have been surprising.  It's a lot of responsibility and suddenly for young adults, but I'm sure they'll do great.

short+sassy

CharmedPam said:

short+sassy said:

@CharmedPam, I was just complaining to myself how COLD it is today.  But compared to the Chicago area, I'll count my blessings.  I haven't heard of diamond painting, but it sounds neat.

And it’s been averaging 35 here.  Really not that bad.  But it takes a lot for me to get up and out of my warm comfy house in the winter.  That’s another thing.  No one else has their house temperatures to my liking.  I think I’ll be a hermit till April. 

Okay!  Our low today is 40, so not too far off from that.  But it became a more tolerable low 50s as the day wore on.

My problem is more an old house with no HVAC system.  It was built for hot summers, not the cold.

There are two coal fireplaces inside the interior wall, lol.  I'm annoyed at whatever previous owner walled them in.  Most people didn't.  It stole a little square footage from each side of my duplex and they're cool architectural pieces.

ei34

@VarunaTT no I’m not bringing him anything. Partially on principle and partially bc yes I have some cans of soup in but there for the kids, and juice isn’t on sale right now. But mainly bc yeah he’s an adult. Ha good point @short+sassy although I don’t think he’s actually sick 

banana468

Ugh @ei34 I know so little about divorce decrees and parental visitation but I hope there's a way to say, "No it makes no sense for your visitation to be from 7:00 - 7:45 PM where you don't do anything."  

charlotte989875

banana468 said:

Oh @charlotte989875 I hope there's some care for M so you can get the bonding time with J and some naps.  Congratulations to you new mama part deux!  That newborn phase is new and exhausting. 

M is back at daycare so we can rest and bond with M. A fair amount of mom guilt about that but the routine is good for him and he’s got a lot more to do there!  

kerbohl

CharmedPam said:

Woah, @mrsconn23, was this your life changing news you mentioned awhile ago? It sure is! Life changing. Good luck to the H tomorrow but I’m still not over that first part of it yet lol.
and double woah to that POS ex @ei34. One last time. Pffft.  Pour on the drama, will you? I’d almost like to see hospital receipts on this one. I’d also say “well if you had covid it’s a good thing they didn’t spend time with you yesterday”. 

I would say the exact same thing.  But then I'd also quote that as to why we aren't driving by to visit while you are on your death bed apparently.  I'm sorry @ei34, that is some nonsense and a half.  He had ten days and suddenly now that it is on his schedule you have to rush.  And going straight to "withholding kids" accusations - really?

charlotte989875

Wow @mrsconn23 that’s a lot of news. The baby and H’s interview. Hoping all goes well on both fronts! 

charlotte989875

short+sassy said:

charlotte989875 said:

M is 3.5 and has been sleeping beautifully for the last 2 years so this is DEFINITELY a big adjustment lol. 

My sister and I are about 3.5 years apart.  I always thought that was a nice age gap.

We were close enough in age to play together as little kids.  But far enough apart that we had our own friends and weren't really in school together.  Only elementary school, but the lower/higher grades had different recesses and lunches so I didn't usually see her.

That’s what we’re hoping! M is excited and curious but also wants to do his own thing now so it’s been okay so far! 

ILoveBeachMusic

charlotte989875 said:

banana468 said:

Oh @charlotte989875 I hope there's some care for M so you can get the bonding time with J and some naps.  Congratulations to you new mama part deux!  That newborn phase is new and exhausting. 

M is back at daycare so we can rest and bond with M. A fair amount of mom guilt about that but the routine is good for him and he’s got a lot more to do there!  

You should have no mom guilt about that! DD had her nanny come for the twins on the normal days (she works 2days/week) within a week of the youngest arriving. It kept them on their schedule and gave her time with the baby. The twins are almost 3 years older than their brother so not too far off from yours. They loved seeing their friends in their nanny share situation.

ILoveBeachMusic

@ei34 what a load of crap from your ex-H! You are so much nicer than I would be. Yeah, it is a good thing the kids weren't around him the day before. Your kids will so appreciate you when they are older (I'm sure they do now but probably don't say it).

@mrsconn23 good luck to your H with his interview. Wow that is a bombshell from the kiddo. I hope all works out well. Kiddo is around 20 right? - hard to keep up with ages. My oldest godson was in a similar situation at 21. His son is now almost 16. It has been a process. Because of a variety of reasons GS had custody of him most of his life. Good luck with all that.

I've still been organizing and putting away things. I got an organizer for under my kitchen sink. It is ridiculous how happy I feel having things organized there! Tomorrow I hope to hit the laundry room cabinets. We shall see. I leave out my Nativity sets until after Epiphany but the Santas and nutcrackers are tucked away. 

I'm having lunch with a friend tomorrow. She just became a first time grandmother so I am looking forward to hearing about the baby. Her DIL is a piece of work though so I'm sure I will hear about that too.

short+sassy

@ei34, I can't believe he didn't make any time to see his kids over the holidays!  "On his death bed".  What a drama llama.

You should send him a link to Instacart, lol.

mrsconn23

ILoveBeachMusic said:

@mrsconn23 good luck to your H with his interview. Wow that is a bombshell from the kiddo. I hope all works out well. Kiddo is around 20 right? - hard to keep up with ages. My oldest godson was in a similar situation at 21. His son is now almost 16. It has been a process. Because of a variety of reasons GS had custody of him most of his life. Good luck with all that.

He turned 23 last month and he has a decent job, so he has a lot going for him.  But they're still emotionally immature and a bit of a mess.  They're going to need a lot of support/guidance, but there's not much that can prepare you for the slap in the face that having a baby is.  I was 29 and got intentionally pregnant and was in my kitchen crying at my husband 2 weeks pp that I'd screwed up DefConn already so we had to have another in order to do it 'right' the next time.  So...yeah.   *sigh* 

banana468

mrsconn23 said:

ILoveBeachMusic said:

@mrsconn23 good luck to your H with his interview. Wow that is a bombshell from the kiddo. I hope all works out well. Kiddo is around 20 right? - hard to keep up with ages. My oldest godson was in a similar situation at 21. His son is now almost 16. It has been a process. Because of a variety of reasons GS had custody of him most of his life. Good luck with all that.

He turned 23 last month and he has a decent job, so he has a lot going for him.  But they're still emotionally immature and a bit of a mess.  They're going to need a lot of support/guidance, but there's not much that can prepare you for the slap in the face that having a baby is.  I was 29 and got intentionally pregnant and was in my kitchen crying at my husband 2 weeks pp that I'd screwed up DefConn already so we had to have another in order to do it 'right' the next time.  So...yeah.   *sigh* 

It's a shocker when they're young!

@mrsconn23 my late cousin's son is expecting his 1st any day now.  He is also about the same age as the kiddo (I think a year older) and I think he may have a more level head on his shoulders than his dad, it's still SO MUCH to parent a newborn when you don't exactly have a great foundation under you and unless you lived a life surrounded by babies, you're clueless as a first time parent. 

mrsconn23

banana468 said:

mrsconn23 said:

ILoveBeachMusic said:

@mrsconn23 good luck to your H with his interview. Wow that is a bombshell from the kiddo. I hope all works out well. Kiddo is around 20 right? - hard to keep up with ages. My oldest godson was in a similar situation at 21. His son is now almost 16. It has been a process. Because of a variety of reasons GS had custody of him most of his life. Good luck with all that.

He turned 23 last month and he has a decent job, so he has a lot going for him.  But they're still emotionally immature and a bit of a mess.  They're going to need a lot of support/guidance, but there's not much that can prepare you for the slap in the face that having a baby is.  I was 29 and got intentionally pregnant and was in my kitchen crying at my husband 2 weeks pp that I'd screwed up DefConn already so we had to have another in order to do it 'right' the next time.  So...yeah.   *sigh* 

It's a shocker when they're young!

@mrsconn23 my late cousin's son is expecting his 1st any day now.  He is also about the same age as the kiddo (I think a year older) and I think he may have a more level head on his shoulders than his dad, it's still SO MUCH to parent a newborn when you don't exactly have a great foundation under you and unless you lived a life surrounded by babies, you're clueless as a first time parent. 

Exactly.  And my concern is more about her than him since her family is not stable at all.  But then it sends me down the rabbit hole of, "We're still raising a 12 year old and have FT jobs.  We also really like sleep and money."  

This is why DH wants this promotion so bad.   If the baby is here (with at least one of its parents), we can't do much about sleep...but it will help the money issue.