Dear Prudence,
My fiancé has always been close to his sister, “Becky.” They text each other daily and frequently talk on the phone. They’re twins, and I thought I understood their bond. However, we went to his family’s house for Thanksgiving, and I met Becky for the first time—she’s been working abroad for the past two years and only moved back to the U.S. last month—and to be honest, I was a little freaked out about their closeness. Becky and my fiancé finish each other’s sentences, giggle at their private jokes, and are often physically affectionate. Hugging, kissing on the cheek, holding hands. At one point, Becky even sat on my fiancé’s lap and pretended he was “Santa.” Apparently, it’s an old joke of theirs. I have two brothers, but I’ve never behaved like that with them.
On the drive back from his family’s house, I told my boyfriend that I found the way he interacts with Becky “icky.” He blew up and accused me of having a dirty mind. I apologized, feeling that I overreacted. However, now that we’re back home, I keep thinking about Becky and I do think it’s icky. Should I talk to my fiancé about the ick factor again? I don’t know if I can stand to see Becky sitting on my fiancé’s lap giggling and baby talking at future family functions. It’s too disturbing. I’ve even thought about proposing a tropical vacation instead of the next visit so we can be away from his family. This is the perfect man if he didn’t have that weird dynamic with his sister!
—Too Close for Comfort
Re: This is an episode of Friends.
This is the LW's hangup. She can get over it and privately roll her eyes. Or she should break up with her fiance, because it isn't like he'll never see his sister again. And he also shouldn't have to change his perfectly fine, if a bit odd, behavior for her.
I don't remember a Friends episode like this. Though I do remember that Phoebe had a twin sister (Ursula) and their dynamic was not what you expect with twins because they hated each other and were NC.
I was pretty sure Flowers in the Attic came out before then, so I looked it up. It is even older than I thought. It was one of her first novels and it came out in 1979.
Now I feel betrayed by my online discoveries. She died in 1986. Which I was initially confused about because tons more of her books came out after her death, including ones my friends and I had been excited about for their release.
Apparently, her family hired a ghost writer (Andrew Neiderman) to finish her manuscripts.