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Break up with him.

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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Dear Prudence,

I am dating a brilliant but traumatized man who is also an alcoholic. I find that I can no longer deal with the person he becomes when he drinks too much. Among the reasons why he needs to see a therapist, he has abandonment anxiety. He has not taken the necessary steps to address his issues, and I am on the verge of breaking up with him but still love who he is at heart. What should I do?

—Ready for a New Chapter

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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    You should break up with him. 
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    The LW answered their own question.  They "can no longer deal with the person he becomes when he drinks too much."  That's a fair and valid reason to break up with him.

    People can love each other, but not be right for each other and this guy isn't the right person for the LW.  They need to cut their losses.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    You can tell him that you're breaking up with him not because of his drinking problem but for his refusal to do anything about it. 

    He's not in a place to be in a relationship.  Make that decision for him. 
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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    You two are on different pages.  Bye boy.

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