Wedding moments that guests secretly hate!

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Hi everyone!!  Our editors are working on something fun and want to hear all about the moments you hate as a wedding guest!

According to our Instagram followers, some of the biggest complaints from wedding guests include long speeches, group dances, long bar lines, confusing schedules, slow food service, and having to witness the garter toss.😆

What are some wedding moments that you hate as a guest? Any "wedding pet peeves" that drive you crazy?

Thanks for sharing - we love including real insights directly from our couples! 💕

ILoveBeachMusic

I agree with all of those listed. I also don't appreciate officiants who make inside jokes about the bride and groom - not appropriate. Along with slow food service I would also add having hot food served at cold temperatures!

banana468

Anything presented to the guests that is deliberately designed to be an inside comment - whether it's the priest or the maid of honor toasting keep the inside stuff for events outside the wedding. 

short+sassy

If the wedding ceremony and reception are too far from each other, like 30-45+ minutes.  But the closer the better and under 20 minutes is ideal.  I especially like it when the ceremony and reception are at the same place, though totally understand that is not always possible.

downtondiva

100% agree on the long speeches. I don't need to hear every single memory or inside joke you have with the bride or groom. 

Not a big fan of the bouquet toss even if it isn't as bad as the garter toss. 

charlotte989875

Any sort of trivia or “who knows the couple” games especially if you’re just watching the bride and groom play. I don’t want to sit quietly at a table watching two people have inside jokes about each other. 

CharmedPam

charlotte989875 said:

Any sort of trivia or “who knows the couple” games especially if you’re just watching the bride and groom play. I don’t want to sit quietly at a table watching two people have inside jokes about each other. 

Unless they’ve already served the cake, and cake eating is involved 

banana468

Speaking of that, I dislike when guests get a different dessert from what the couple eat.   I've been given a cake pop when the couple had cake.  Not the same thing!

short+sassy

banana468 said:

Speaking of that, I dislike when guests get a different dessert from what the couple eat.   I've been given a cake pop when the couple had cake.  Not the same thing!

SIB:
Or anything like that.

My mom planned my wedding because I was traveling back to my hometown for it.  She told me over the phone about this great champagne she'd recently found and had already bought a case of it for my wedding.  Okay, cool.  Until she describes it as a pink champagne with notes of raspberry.  Pink=sweet, which is not something I care for in a wine (sigh).

I was sorely tempted to buy a couple bottles of a champagne I would like a lot more, but I refrained because that would be rude to my guests to have something different from them. 

banana468

short+sassy said:

banana468 said:

Speaking of that, I dislike when guests get a different dessert from what the couple eat.   I've been given a cake pop when the couple had cake.  Not the same thing!

SIB:
Or anything like that.

My mom planned my wedding because I was traveling back to my hometown for it.  She told me over the phone about this great champagne she'd recently found and had already bought a case of it for my wedding.  Okay, cool.  Until she describes it as a pink champagne with notes of raspberry.  Pink=sweet, which is not something I care for in a wine (sigh).

I was sorely tempted to buy a couple bottles of a champagne I would like a lot more, but I refrained because that would be rude to my guests to have something different from them. 

Agreed!  

Also, on that note - treat your guests the same as much as possible.  It's harder if your reception is in a place with tiered seating (like upstairs and downstairs) or multiple rooms but please do your best to treat them all the same and definitely have the same food for everyone!

MesmrEwe

When some guests are treated differently than others/B-Listing... 

Inviting some guests only to parts or pieces instead of the whole event, some guests getting a different meal/dessert option (that's not something like a plated meal choice situation)...  I realize when there were severe capacity restrictions in place during 2020-2022 this couldn't be avoided, barring that situation outside of couple/venue's control, it's simply bad planning if a site or venue is chosen that can't accommodate the total number of guests invited.  Or, if some guests are given a plated higher end meal/dessert than the rest of the guests...  While the couple cuts into a filled delicious cake that is then served to some guests and the rest of the guests are served an icing lacking piece of flat pan sheet cake, or big box cupcakes...

banana468

MesmrEwe said:

When some guests are treated differently than others/B-Listing... 

Inviting some guests only to parts or pieces instead of the whole event, some guests getting a different meal/dessert option (that's not something like a plated meal choice situation)...  I realize when there were severe capacity restrictions in place during 2020-2022 this couldn't be avoided, barring that situation outside of couple/venue's control, it's simply bad planning if a site or venue is chosen that can't accommodate the total number of guests invited.  Or, if some guests are given a plated higher end meal/dessert than the rest of the guests...  While the couple cuts into a filled delicious cake that is then served to some guests and the rest of the guests are served an icing lacking piece of flat pan sheet cake, or big box cupcakes...

YES!  

I don't care if you cut into a pretty cake and I get sheet cake IF the flavors are the same and the sheet cake is just a cost effective way to plate the same flavor combo.  Don't cut into a chocolate ganache passion fruit mousse and serve me yellow cake with white icing.

Casadena

I hate the bridal party intros into the ceremony where each person or couple has their own song, etc. They certainly don't hurt anything, but no one cares about your 7 best friends dancing to silly songs for 10 minutes. I'm always mortified to have to do it, and I cringe with second hand embarrassment watching others do it. We're there to see the bride and groom - get announced and move on.