Dear Prudence,
I recently visited my oldest childhood friend at his house, and was dismayed and disgusted by the uncleanliness—literal piles of dog hair everywhere, a bathroom that clearly had not been cleaned in years, etc. He is 54 and has been in a relationship with a sweet woman for 10 years. They agreed to move in together after their kids were all in college. That day has come, but she is dragging her feet and he is very frustrated by it. I have a hunch that it’s because of how gross his house is, but she was not there when I visited and I don’t know her well enough to speak with her about it. I will never visit him there again unless he does something about it, but thankfully, we don’t see each other that often and he is always willing to come to me. Do I say anything to him about getting his house cleaned?
—Trying to Be a Good Friend