Vents?

lrh17

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vents? : No worries! I am going to Nicaragua with my H for a mission trip. He will be doing his dental thing, and I will be a translator/hygenist. It's gonna be very, very awesome! I just found out today that I will need to get a ton of shots for the trip :/
Posted by CAB1217[/QUOTE]


Bummer about the shots but that sounds really cool!  My bucket list isn't very long yet, but going on a mission trip is definitely on there.  My brother actually just got back from Nicaragua this week!  I haven't talked to him about his trip yet, but it sounded like it was going to be pretty neat.

CAB1217

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vents? : Bummer about the shots but that sounds really cool!  My bucket list isn't very long yet, but going on a mission trip is definitely on there.  My brother actually just got back from Nicaragua this week!  I haven't talked to him about his trip yet, but it sounded like it was going to be pretty neat.
Posted by lrh17[/QUOTE]


Will you fill me in on his experience? I'd love to know how it went for him out there!

lrh17

Will do!

kara811

Cab: many women actually do this. Just make sure to book it in your maiden name. I changed my name, took a while to changey license and I still haven't changed my passport and I've been travelling with it.

CAB1217

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[QUOTE]Cab: many women actually do this. Just make sure to book it in your maiden name. I changed my name, took a while to changey license and I still haven't changed my passport and I've been travelling with it. ;)
Posted by kara811[/QUOTE]

Ok perfect! Thank you!!!

AmandaSC1988

new vents.... first, rsvp's....I invited a friend because he beggggggged to come. even offering to pay his way...we are fairly good friends so I told him not to worry he was already on the list. I got his rsvp abck.....no. wtf? I don't rally care....but I'm annoyed he made such a big deal and responded no. 

second, gas prices...I work for a gas company so I shouldn't be complaining because it is paying my paycheck....but COME ONN....$3.69??? it is tooooo much.

CozyHeart13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vents? : I love her movie choices.  I hope she feels better soon!
Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]

She never acts sick and hates that she can't take the medicine whenever she wants. She's with her dad tonight and this weekend, so he is stuck watching hours of Strawberry Shortcake. I love that my munchkin loves the Disney classics, and the new Disney Princesses as much as I do. It's a great excuse. Ok, back to drinking my wine. Cozy Out!

CAB1217

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[QUOTE]new vents.... first, rsvp's....I invited a friend because he beggggggged to come. even offering to pay his way...we are fairly good friends so I told him not to worry he was already on the list. I got his rsvp abck.....no. wtf? I don't rally care....but I'm annoyed he made such a big deal and responded no.  second, gas prices...I work for a gas company so I shouldn't be complaining because it is paying my paycheck....but COME ONN...<u>.<strong>$3.69???</strong></u> it is tooooo much.
Posted by AmandaSC1988[/QUOTE]

Add a dollar to that, and welcome to California :/ I ain't going NOWHERE this weekend because of that.

RachelStarfish

SamiJoe- He isnt entirely ok with the wedding still. And it might be the fact that I will be alone with my FI in another state meaning I would be open for sex. 

ggirl- it's not the fact that he asked me to wait to get married that i consider him a jerk. He is technically my step-dad, but the only dad I know and it is the fact that If I do anything he doesnt like, it's an automatic I get kicked out... I don't understand how a parent could do that. And maybe I'm not as mature as most people when they get married, but I am more mature than most girls my age. 

Hike- My dad isn't paying a cent for my wedding. 

CAB- sounding like a parent is always helpful, thank you. I am sorry your day was so horrible. 

Irh- Yeah, I'm pretty much done with my first year of college, and Yeah, I still have a curfew lol. Also I am one of the most impatient people ever, so waiting is a torture for me, but family means everything to me, so even if dad wanted me to wait 3 more years, I would wait. And your friend ditching you was pretty terrible. I'm sorry that happened to you.

Sammy0709

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vents? : Add a dollar to that, and welcome to California :/ I ain't going NOWHERE this weekend because of that.
Posted by CAB1217[/QUOTE]

Ugh...so glad I'm in PA right now.  Gas prices in CA were always a killer.  I'm like rich now, especially since I have a Sheetz savings card and I get 3 cents off per gallon.  I'll be a millionaire soon.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

Sammy0709

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[QUOTE]SamiJoe- He isnt entirely ok with the wedding still. And it might be the fact that I will be alone with my FI in another state meaning I would be open for sex.  ggirl- it's not the fact that he asked me to wait to get married that i consider him a jerk. He is technically my step-dad, but the only dad I know and <strong>it is the fact that If I do anything he doesnt like, it's an automatic I get kicked out...</strong> And maybe I'm not as mature as most people when they get married, but I am more mature than most girls my age.I don't understand how a parent could do that.   Hike- My dad isn't paying a cent for my wedding.  CAB- sounding like a parent is always helpful, thank you. I am sorry your day was so horrible.  Irh- Yeah, I'm pretty much done with my first year of college, and Yeah, I still have a curfew lol. Also I am one of the most impatient people ever, so waiting is a torture for me, but family means everything to me, so even if dad wanted me to wait 3 more years, I would wait. And your friend ditching you was pretty terrible. I'm sorry that happened to you.
Posted by RachelStarfish[/QUOTE]

Maybe he thinks if you are old enough to make your own decisions and make your own rules then you should also be old enough and mature enough to support yourself and live on your own.  My parents' rule of thumb was always, "if you live under our roof you live by our rules." 

RachelStarfish

This is true. He does say that often. 

calindi

Beach, I hear you on the phone!  My company is fairly new - I got hired in July, they set everything up in June - and we still get collections calls, at least 1 per day, for one of two people, both with hispanic names.  No, I am not "Raul Gonzalez" and no, this is not "Antonio Jimenez".  And most certainly no, I will not be paying their bill.  But they keep calling!  And now, apparently our company has been registered in the "new business" log for the city, so we get about 20-30 calls per day from people trying to sell us stuff - mostly merchant services (credit card machines), some software, a lot of security products.  I really should just start hanging up on them, but I've been in tele-sales before so I tend to be nice but very blunt.  It's annoying, and I'm the only person in my office so I'm the only one to pick up those calls otherwise they clog up our inbox.

calindi

Oh, and Rachel, I like you better after your last reply.  You own your age and don't seem to make excuses or get angry that we suggested you wait.  I would be frustrated in your situation, too, but I also would probably parent a 19 year old the same way, if that makes any sense right now.

FI and I were only allowed to sleep in the same bed at my parents' after we started living together since my Dad realized that was a silly rule to keep up, and just resulted in more laundry.  I was 24 years old at the time, FI was 26.  He turns 29 tomorrow!

ggirl2001

Rachel you definitely explained yourself better this time, but my advice is the same as the girls. My parents had the same rules at 19. Their rules or I'm out. I get that you might be mature, but in their eyes you are still a teenager ya know?

Zimsgirl

@Rachel. I'm also 19 and getting married in 3 months. Our parents are very supportive of us getting married at this age and we're paying for our whole wedding. My mom said she will contribute some eventually but my older sister is graduating college and my younger brother is graduating high school and she's had some other stuff come up. I never asked for any money and if she doesn't give us any that's perfectly fine too. We always planned on paying for the wedding ourselves. We live together and go to school and when we go home we stay separately at our parent's houses. After we're married we'll probably stay at FI's parents but we'll see.

divinemsbee

My parents were never my-way-or-the-highway type people, my dad was never Mr. I've-got-a-gun-and-a-shovel., he just wants me and my sister to be happy and respected in our relationships, he doesn't care about the whole purity myth thing. So, this is a hard dynamic for me to relate to.  I cannot imagine being kicked out or being threatened with being kicked out of either of my parents' houses. I cannot imagine being in a position where my mom would let her husband kick me out of her house (and a threat like that, if carried through, would seriously damage relationships) because I did something he didn't like. It doesn't seem protective, at this point, it just seems controlling and more than a little manipulative. I mean, yeah, you're 19 and live at home, but that doesn't mean you're 16 and live at home. I lived in my mom's house for a few months when I was 26, and while I tried to be considerate, I was also an adult, I didn't revert back to 17, nor did I have the same rules. 

I may be sensitive about this kind of thing because I saw it happen with a dear friend of mine's girlfriend, she was 20 at the time, but still. Her stepdad was and is almost creepily overprotective and she eventually ended up cutting ties with him and her mom because of it. Now, granted, he was/is pretty emotionally abusive and an all-around jack-wad. Your step-dad just sounds like he's having trouble letting go and letting you grow up. 

I do think there is something to be said for mutual respect. I also think that when you live with someone, be it parent or roommate, you do have to follow the rules and do your best to make everyone more comfortable with the arrangement.  FI and I slept in the same bed at my mom's house when he visited New Year's  before last because there was absolutely nowhere else for him to sleep and it was actually her husband's idea. I'm still not sure she was entirely comfortable with it, but she was a good sport. When we visit my hometown we stay with my grandmother. We absolutely do not share a room. She knows we live together, and she'd probably be okay with it, but it's a respect thing, 

Jack2012

Grrrr.. yep that's me growling   Here's my vent moment for the morning

  Our 2013 drill dates were posted at work on Friday and my 2 weeks of fun Annual Training is Aug 1-15th.. my WEDDING= the 10th.   Oh and to top it off it's in IOWA...  Annoyed yep quite a bit. 

I don't have to change my date or go but it's still a bummer because that's 10 people I was planning to invite who I'm really close with who aren't going to be able to go. Yay Army I love you soooo much today.