ADVICE PLEASE!!!

jnarnold27

Ok, so both myself and my fiance are in the military (I'm Air Force, he's Navy). And we're now having trouble picking a location for the wedding. His family lives in Ohio, and mine are in Texas and Florida. I wanna make this as easy as possible for everybody, but I'm just not seeing a solution. Any opinions, thoughts, and ideas are welcome. Please and thank you.

kelty24

I'm kind of in the same boat.  My FI and I are in Alaska, his family is mostly in Northern Cali and Southern Oregon and most of my family's in Oklahoma.  We've decided to have it in Oklahoma because I have a lot more family then he does.  We were going to find a location in between, but we've decided on Oklahoma. 
So I would look at your guest list and figure out which side would have more people traveling or pick a location in the middlle so everyone has to travel.  I know you want to make it easy on everybody, but you can't make everyone happy and it's your day.  So pick a place where you want it to be and everyone who is important will be there. 

calindi

The problem is that there's no easy solution.  You guys have to decide what's most important to you - it might be that one family is more mobile than the other.  I would write down a list of VIPs - people YOU absolutely need at your wedding.  Figure out a location that the biggest amount of those people can attend.

Some choose to do a destination wedding so it's fair, and then invite everyone but expect larger decline rates, and then have a casual barbecue or something at each location to celebrate with those who couldn't make it to the wedding.  That's probably what I would do.

jnarnold27

We both have pretty big families, haha. So we were thinking maybe somewhere in the middle, like Tennessee. It's just better when you actually know the area you're planning such a big day in. Thanks a lot for ya'lls help.