Me and my fiance have been engaged for a few months now and are having a hard time setting up a date because he'll be going to basic and to tech school, and he doesnt know exactly how long his tech school will be. Has any other military bride had issues with anything like this? If so how are yu dealing with it?
Re: Having a problem setting a FINAL date
The alternative is to do it on a big holiday weekend, like the day after Thanksgiving or Christmas Eve or Fourth of July or something, as he's more likely to have that time off. Just be super certain to have military clauses in each of your contracts that says that if for any reason he can't attend due to his military commitment, that the vendor will move the deposit to a mutually agreeable date or refund your money. Just in case, ya know?
The other thing you could do is plan something small and intimate - that takes no time at all! Our friends just decided last weekend that they don't want to wait any longer, so they're getting married in 1 month! Yep, they're planning in one month. Having the ceremony in a beautiful park overlooking the ocean, and then renting out a room at a local restaurant for around 30 family and friends to eat (which they're hosting) and then head out to a bar/club to dance the night away. It's not the whole big pomp and circumstance, but I think it'll be lovely! She's wearing a beautiful white dress (just a bit simpler, she bought it from White House Black Market so it's around $200), they're having a cake, a first dance, etc. Then next summer, they're going to have a big barbecue back home to celebrate with family and friends, much more casual and low-key.
That could be much more difficult if you're trying to get married in the Catholic church, which requires Pre-Cana classes before you get married. But still, you could do the Pre-Cana classes and then pick a date a few weeks out. It's different, but it's do-able!
We didn't struggle with picking a date. H picked it last year and was dead set on it. (we vendor shopped asap to make sure we could find a place that still had it open because he was NOT budging on that date!)
the USN DID, however, try to send him away during our wedding. bullies :P
I will agree with PPs that, while I know you guys are in loooove and want to be hubby and wifey, it may be your best bet to just wait until training is done. We picked out date to be as far away from deployments as possible so that those wouldn't get in the way (since we all know how easily those dates change).
Part of the military lifestyle is working with what you have, and appreciating it when you have it.
I know it's a total pain, but if he's worth it, then it's worth it.
My suggestion is to start planning the stuff that you CAN plan without needing a date, such as colors, decor/theme, gown and BM attire, little things like your card box , etc. Also, the guest list and gettings those addresses take FOREVER to work out, so start that!
When he gets into tech school he will know how long he will be there, and that's when you can start finding vendors and pick the date. (although I suggest you wait until he gets to his first station).
GL OP! Let us know how things go.