New:)

ggirl2001

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : My assumption, just like everyone else's assumptions, were based on opinions.  Do I think that someone who is in or about to be in a military lifestyle would respond and be so hurtful and negative the way many were?  No.  But apparently I was wrong.  I wasn't asking for opinions about my choices.  Asking if I had considered these thoughts would have been different. I don't NEED a big day...I think I made that clear.  However, I would like a day to celebrate with my family and friends.  Do I expect anyone to come to the shower or bring a gift to the wedding?  Not at all.  I wouldn't expect that anyway.  Your approach is essentially all we were asking of our guests in the beginning.  We are trying to be as accomodating as possible to everyone considering they're coming from all over. I am not sure if I referred to it as our "real" or "big" wedding.  If I said real, that is not what I meant.  Big is what we are calling it...or church ceremony.  I am not looking to offend anyone.  As I have said over again, call it what you want...and I'll do the same:)
Posted by Anastasia723[/QUOTE]
Here's the kicker, when you post on a message board, you don't get to choose what people say. You can choose to be offended, or you can choose to move past it KWIM? You are going to find people on both sides of this issue, and chances are there are some people in your life who are on both sides, but because they love you, might not say anything, and that's ok too. I also know that you didn't say you needed it, I just put that in there for lurkers and such too.  A lot of brides come on here stating that they "deserve" the big PPD. I see that you know that its not true, and I respect that you want the church ceremony as well.  

USMCBride90

Thanks Cab!! I am IN LOVE with the ideas that I have right now. I'm thinking my bridesmaids will be in shorter/summery coral dresses. I showed FI some groomsmen ideas - khaki pants, a white button up with the sleeves rolled up, black shoes/belt - and he loved it. Laid back but still looking sharp.

Sammy0709

What does KWIM mean? I've been wondering that for a while?

ggirl2001

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : Please don’t Sweetheart me… That is condescending and rude. True the first comment was a bit snarky, but the second post was a tip on how to get people to like you here. You aren’t special…everyone has had problems with the military and we make choices on how we handle those problems. You chose to get married and you must own up to it. You can have a big party… no one is telling you not to..but don’t call it a wedding..it is a VR. You are not the only woman to ever come across here with the exact same story. It is just a fact that you will NOT be liked here until you call it a VR.
Posted by AmandaSC1988[/QUOTE]
Here's the thing. As long as the person understands that they are already married, aren't trying to lie to people or cheat the system, and recognize that their JOP was important, and the party is just that, I don't care if they call it a wedding. I just don't want people who didn't have a party and just a JOP to feel belittled. It's all in the phrasing, and the person's understanding of the situation. (aka, they don't feel any less married because they haven't had a  PPD yet, KWIM?)

ggirl2001

KWIM-know what I mean

amh04

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[QUOTE]Thanks Cab!! I am IN LOVE with the ideas that I have right now. I'm thinking my bridesmaids will be in shorter/summery coral dresses. I showed FI some groomsmen ideas - khaki pants, a white button up with the sleeves rolled up, black shoes/belt - and he loved it. Laid back but still looking sharp.
Posted by USMCBride90[/QUOTE]

That's going to look AWESOME! I love coral (then again I'm biased because its one of mine)

amh04

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[QUOTE]Wow - work really has a way with keeping me out of the good stuff. All I am going to add to this - is that you were given great advice, the same advice every other bride on here or wife in your case is given. 1. If having a religious ceremony was that important to you, you wouldn't of gotten married in a civil ceremony. I've been in situations that have costed me thousands of dollars - and could have easily costed me nothing had we done a civil ceremony - but having 1 wedding and having our relgious ceremony is more important than the extra cash, and the insurance. 2. You got defensive - these girls were just trying to give you some pointers in doing a proper VR. 3. <strong>You don't match a uniform - ever - it's just tacky.
</strong>Posted by amh04[/QUOTE]

Just to clarify my point behind this remark. To me a Military Uniform is something that shouldn't be matched. Anyone can rent a Tux/Suit - but a Military Uniform is earned - blood and sweat. I just don't understand why someone would want to take away the pride behind a uniform to make it matchy matchy with dresses/tux's. Now - complimenting it with colors like pink (sammy mentioned) is something totally different.

CAB1217

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[QUOTE]Thanks Cab!! I am IN LOVE with the ideas that I have right now. I'm thinking my bridesmaids will be in shorter/summery coral dresses. I showed FI some groomsmen ideas - khaki pants, a white button up with the sleeves rolled up, black shoes/belt - and he loved it. Laid back but still looking sharp.
Posted by USMCBride90[/QUOTE]

LOVE that!

Anastasia723

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : Here's the kicker, when you post on a message board, you don't get to choose what people say. You can choose to be offended, or you can choose to move past it KWIM? You are going to find people on both sides of this issue, and chances are there are some people in your life who are on both sides, but because they love you, might not say anything, and that's ok too. I also know that you didn't say you needed it, I just put that in there for lurkers and such too.  A lot of brides come on here stating that they "deserve" the big PPD. I see that you know that its not true, and I respect that you want the church ceremony as well.  
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

<div>I know how some brides are...and I think I said that I wasn't that at all (I know you aknowledged that, just pointing it out).  I am not looking for sympathy (I don't know why I would), acceptance, or anything else.  My only reason for posting an about me was because I've been on here more and posting more, and I thought that rather than every time explain that I'm already married and having a party/VR/church ceremony/my big awesome day/whatever with the same man, that I post it here.</div>

crownsuperstar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : Just to clarify my point behind this remark. To me a Military Uniform is something that shouldn't be matched. Anyone can rent a Tux/Suit - but a Military Uniform is earned - blood and sweat. I just don't understand why someone would want to take away the pride behind a uniform to make it matchy matchy with dresses/tux's. Now - complimenting it with colors like pink (sammy mentioned) is something totally different.
Posted by amh04[/QUOTE]

As always very sound advise.  H and the groomsmen wore their blues.  The color I choose was called clover (light green) similar to the color of "The Bump" tab.  It didn't get matchy matchy but still looked good next to the blues.  In my opinion, I would not try to matchy my ball dress to his blues or mess dress so I am not going to match the wedding colors too it.  I think the dress uniform stands out alone and only need to be complenented and not matched. 

BinxRose

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[QUOTE]People did give you advice. Granted, some of the advice given was given prematurely such as telling you not to lie to your guests. That probably shouldn't have been said unless you told us that was your plan. That seems like assuming something to me. Good luck if you need opinions from someone with similar experience I'm happy to butt in.
Posted by Sammy0709[/QUOTE]



Actually Sammy, if you would've read my post, I said that I was assuming her family knows she's already married.

melbelle24

Wow at the drama in this post. It ended up being some good entertainment on my lunch break...

OP, good luck with planning your "big wedding". I'll be honest and say that I agree with most of the advice you've been given on this board, but most of all I think you came out way too defensive because you didn't get the replies you were looking for in the beginning. As far as matching dress blues, you can if you want, but for me personally, I would be much happier with planning my wedding the way I wanted it and envisioned it than with changing everything just because the groom will be in his uniform. It takes a lot to earn the right to wear such a uniform, and you should be proud of it, not try to hide it in the middle of all the other colors and decorations.

Sammy0709

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) :

Actually Sammy, if you would've read my post, I said that I was assuming her family knows she's already married.
Posted by BinxRose[/QUOTE]



If you assumed that then it should not have been mentioned and that is my point.

LetsHikeToday

I leave for the morning and the board goes to shiit. Just kidding. OP- I don't know you or your situation, I just hope you understand that we get this question a lot here. I think frustrations about that probably came out in responses.

mehgank

Anastasia - Another reason that people don't react well to this type of situation, is that it tends offend the women whose weddings were a JOP ceremony. Yes, it was their choice to have their wedding at a courthouse, but it's as if you're saying that's not good enough.

CAB1217

**THREADJACK MODE** Mehgan, your shoes are HOT!

crownsuperstar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : I thought of a pale green...I love it.  I think next to the blues, it is very pretty.  I really love bright colors though...does anyone have any ideas for those?  I was in love with blue and orange until I saw some blue and orange weddings that I was not in love with.  Right now I'm leaning towards a bright yellow.  I also liked pink (like the deeper pink in peonies). Before getting engaged, I always thought I'd have gerbera daisies, with my girls in different bright colors.  Personally, I don't love the way the multi bright colors look with blues, though.  Although I'd be open to ideas and opinions.  I was thinking yellow, pink, green, blue, and/or orange.
Posted by Anastasia723[/QUOTE]

I am morally opposed to Orange/Blue/Purple combination of any kind. It goes against my fiber since those are the colors of two universities that should not be named but are both tigers!  Just kidding of course...well sort of!  :)

I do like bright colors though and I think they look really great!

CAB1217

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : Your picture made me giggle. 
Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]

:) I have another one, but I am saving it for a very special moment. Stay tuned.

calindi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : I would like to point out that this post of yours was the nicest and still the most direct to the point that I think you've posted.  And I appreciate your comment.  I think in my past couple posts I have been trying to get across that I understand where you're all coming from, and yet I'm still met with criticism and snarkiness by some.  I've pointed out where we're doing this differently or the same and asked for advice.  I said we spent a long time on save the dates and invitation wording, and even other little things to ensure people know what is going on (which they all do).
Posted by Anastasia723[/QUOTE]

I'm so glad you feel the need to point out when you do and don't like advice.  And that you only listen to the advice you like.  You can pay someone to follow you around and tell you that you're always right, and say things only in the way you like to hear them.

It's your attitude more than what you're doing that has resulted in us all disliking you.  Binx's first post was intended to be informative and helpful, based on what you wrote, and you snapped back.  And have continued being snotty, self-righteous, and demeaning towards others on this board.

I don't disagree with how you're handling things for your VR - for what you're doing, you sound like you're doing it pretty well.  I still don't see the point, but that's neither here nor there - it's your life.  But you could have said that in response to Binx's comment, and you would have likely received a far different greeting here.  Even when we disagree with people, we're typically respectful as long as they are.

mehgank

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : I would like to point out that this post of yours was the nicest and still the most direct to the point that I think you've posted.  And I appreciate your comment.  I think in my past couple posts I have been trying to get across that I understand where you're all coming from, and yet I'm still met with criticism and snarkiness by some.  I've pointed out where we're doing this differently or the same and asked for advice.  I said we spent a long time on save the dates and invitation wording, and even other little things to ensure people know what is going on (which they all do).
Posted by Anastasia723[/QUOTE]

In my first reply, I was simply trying to illustrate the flip side of the coin, where there are posters out there that had a JOP wedding and were satisfied. Or they had a JOP wedding, and then a marriage blessing/VR later on down the road. But they were honest about it. On their invitations, they said something to the tune of "Together with their families, Jane Doe and John Smith invite you to celebrate their convalidation ceremony on Such-and-Such date at Such-and-Such time. Dinner, drinks and dancing to immediately follow". That sort of thing. They didn't call it a wedding, because that's not what it was.

And a word to the wise: you might want to grow some thicker skin. If you consider sound advise from the women on this board to be 'snarky', god forbid you venture to other boards.

SamiJoeB

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) :<strong> I really don't like the blue/red/gold schemes that Marine weddings often go for.  They do look beautiful, but I just don't like red in weddings.  </strong>The only reason I was open to the blue was that I really liked the color to begin with.  I came across coral a couple times when looking at colors and I think it's beautiful!
Posted by Anastasia723[/QUOTE]

You're really battin 1,000 here aren't ya?  What you think about certain colors as wedding colors should probably be kept to yourself.  But thanks for insulting my wedding colors!! I guess I was just another silly Marine Bride without a thought in my silly little head. I'll be sure to repay the favor soon enough.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : I was about to respond to that next, so thank you for clarifying...as<strong> I've been called tacky more times today than ever before</strong>.
Posted by Anastasia723[/QUOTE]

Perhaps this is just the first time people are actually being upfront and honest with the tackiness of your plans.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : I will call it what I want, and others can call it what they want, as I've stated in almost every post.  That is what it is to me and those involved.  If it helps YOU, call it what you wish:)  <strong>And be happy that the military lifestyle (that I'm assuming you're apart of) has not put you in any sticky situations yet, because if it's something you think you will be apart of for a while, it will:)</strong>
Posted by Anastasia723[/QUOTE]

I realize that I'm more than late to this ball game, but ARE YOU EFFING KIDDING ME?!! From what you've said you don't have the first IDEA of the military putting you in "a sticky situation"  Seriously!? I planned my wedding with my then FI IN ANOTHER COUNTRY.  I planned my wedding in 5 months while AD and deployed myself! Get the eff outta here with your high and mighty self righteous bullshiit.

crownsuperstar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : :) I have another one, but I am saving it for a very special moment. Stay tuned.
Posted by CAB1217[/QUOTE]

Great, it is distracting me from my school work that I am doing at work.  So neither is getting done! YAY! I will stay tuned!

CAB1217

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : In my first reply, I was simply trying to illustrate the flip side of the coin, where there are posters out there that had a JOP wedding and were satisfied. Or they had a JOP wedding, and then a marriage blessing/VR later on down the road. But they were honest about it. On their invitations, they said something to the tune of "Together with their families, Jane Doe and John Smith invite you to celebrate their convalidation ceremony on Such-and-Such date at Such-and-Such time. Dinner, drinks and dancing to immediately follow". That sort of thing. They didn't call it a wedding, because that's not what it was. And a word to the wise: you might want to <strong>grow some thicker skin</strong>. If you consider sound advise from the women on this board to be 'snarky', <strong>god forbid you venture to other boards.
</strong>Posted by mehgank[/QUOTE]
Truth. Even a Pinterest post resulted in snarks. I'm surprised you haven't gone back and given them the wrath. I still think weddingbee.com is a better fit.

BinxRose

Oh gosh CAB, your picture made me laugh so hard :-)

crownsuperstar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : hahaha  Well everyone told me that blue and orange were Syracuse colors.  I wasn't thinking of those shades, but after looking at weddings with those two colors, I just didn't like them.  I think for a beach wedding, they could be gorgeous.  But for us, just not ok.  I love lighter colors in pictures, but I just love the pop of bright ones against the dresses and our venue!
Posted by Anastasia723[/QUOTE]

One of the many reasons we choose clover.  It didn't want it to look like any color of any university either H or I didn't like.  Yeah we have problems.  When we decieded on a date we chose spring since it was not football season and lucky for us it worked out since H was deployed shortly after we got married. 

Ours is a mixed marriage.  USC (gamecocks) and UGA (dawgs) so no shade of orange for us for many reasons. HAA

Oh and I had two red heads, two brown haired, and one blonde so you see not much color choice for me there.  Clover looked good on everyone!

mehgank

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : You're really battin 1,000 here aren't ya?  What you think about certain colors as wedding colors should probably be kept to yourself.  But thanks for insulting my wedding colors!! I guess I was just another silly Marine Bride without a thought in my silly little head. I'll be sure to repay the favor soon enough. In Response to Re: New:) : Perhaps this is just the first time people are actually being upfront and honest with the tackiness of your plans. In Response to Re: New:) : I realize that I'm more than late to this ball game, but ARE YOU EFFING KIDDING ME?!! <strong>From what you've said you don't have the first IDEA of the military putting you in "a sticky situation"  Seriously!? I planned my wedding with my then FI IN ANOTHER COUNTRY.  I planned my wedding in 5 months while AD and deployed myself! Get the eff outta here with your high and mighty self righteous bullshiit.
</strong>Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]

Tell me about it, dude. I had to reschedule our wedding not once, not twice, but three friggin' times due to both of our deployment schedules (thank you, BP Oil Spill, for one of those). The third time, it only took me 6 days to push everything back. Thank God for military clauses in our vendor contracts, but I still went through 4 different photographers, and lost a $500 deposit on one of them.

Been married 7 months and still no honeymoon, either. I've seen my H maybe 3 out of those 7 months, if that. But, I've accepted it. We can HM in our backyard if we have to. Our fences are high enough.

Anastasia723

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : In my first reply, I was simply trying to illustrate the flip side of the coin, where there are posters out there that had a JOP wedding and were satisfied. Or they had a JOP wedding, and then a marriage blessing/VR later on down the road. But they were honest about it. On their invitations, they said something to the tune of "Together with their families, Jane Doe and John Smith invite you to celebrate their convalidation ceremony on Such-and-Such date at Such-and-Such time. Dinner, drinks and dancing to immediately follow". That sort of thing. They didn't call it a wedding, because that's not what it was. And a word to the wise: you might want to grow some thicker skin. If you consider sound advise from the women on this board to be 'snarky', god forbid you venture to other boards.
Posted by mehgank[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks for the excellent suggestion.  I said we'd already decided, but I like your wording too.  (I'm being serious, not nasty).  I'm calling it a wedding in everyday life, as everyone knows we're married and what I'm talking about:)</div><div>
</div><div>My question about snarkiness is not the level of rudeness, but why it continues when (I thought) I've made peace.  I've been trying to move on for a number of posts now!</div>

CAB1217

Moving on=Stop responding.

Anastasia723

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New:) : One of the many reasons we choose clover.  It didn't want it to look like any color of any university either H or I didn't like.  Yeah we have problems.  When we decieded on a date we chose spring since it was not football season and lucky for us it worked out since H was deployed shortly after we got married.  Ours is a mixed marriage.  USC (gamecocks) and UGA (dawgs) so no shade of orange for us for many reasons. HAA Oh and I had two red heads, two brown haired, and one blonde so you see not much color choice for me there.  Clover looked good on everyone!
Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]

<div>haha  My BMs are from all over, so I have to keep in mind what colors are going to look good on them.  I have two blondes and two brunettes, so my biggest fear is washing them out in the colors.</div>

mehgank

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[QUOTE]Moving on=Stop responding.
Posted by CAB1217[/QUOTE]

You are wise like Yoda.