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calindi

Ladies, as I'm done with the last post, I'm done with this one.  I choose not to engage in pissing contests.  Post as you want, but I'm done.  I only went over there in the first place because several people had emailed or Facebooked me to tell me I was getting roasted to pieces.  As I said in that post on NEY, thanks to those who are defending me, but please don't fuel this dumb fire anymore.

SeaTea, if you didn't do it, I apologize for the claim.  But I still think you were a bit too enthusiastic to defend whoever did.  My FI deleted the email before I could do anything, which came to his school account, and the school wouldn't recall the email. I don't see a "solution" to bullying except to not engage with bullies.  So I left.  As I'm doing now.

firsttimersluck

whyyyy No more fighting on a board that is meant for support.
It's done and over with. Things were said, people were hurt/offended/pissed. We don't know one another. I have never met any of you ladies IRL, and I'm guessing many of you haven't met each other.
This stuff is meant for happy time wedding planning.. Not making enemies that we have never met and stalk them through the boards to check up on them (and that goes multiple ways.. not putting that on Calindi, or SeaTea, or whomever else has been part of this) and make sure they are 1. miserable or 2. talking trash.

LADIES. Let it go (if you can't let it go, just ignore each other).. and if you can't handle girls, go make guys friends and join the world of warcraft chatrooms... way more entertaining..

mob2689

I have a couple of baby aspirins for those who are hurt.

firsttimersluck

omg mob.. your math skills are hilarious! I just now read that haha *late*

desertsun

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_test-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:431ea120-1bd4-4c42-b06d-36624a9d5153Post:82f77181-85b3-4bcb-971a-a8469e857d6d">Re: Test</a>:
[QUOTE]She asked why I might be banned... I explained.  Seriously, Desert, you're only proving my point.  Why did you feel the need to come over here in the first place? I am being the bigger person -<strong> I left and haven't badmouthed anyone specifically</strong>, which I can't say for<strong> you</strong> or most people on NEY. "Nitwits" and "vultures" is tame compared to what I was called. As you know, it's a public forum, and I can continue posting where I want and what I want as long as it doesn't violate the rules. So live and let live. 
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_test-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:431ea120-1bd4-4c42-b06d-36624a9d5153Post:72651846-4650-4328-aaa5-e1807fd46bfa">Re: Test</a>:
[QUOTE]Ladies, as I'm done with the last post, I'm done with this one. <strong> I choose not to engage in pissing contests.</strong>  Post as you want, but I'm done.  I only went over there in the first place because several people had emailed or Facebooked me to tell me I was getting roasted to pieces.  As I said in that post on NEY, thanks to those who are defending me, but please don't fuel this dumb fire anymore. SeaTea, if you didn't do it, I apologize for the claim.  But I still think you were a bit too enthusiastic to defend whoever did.  My FI deleted the email before I could do anything, which came to his school account, and the school wouldn't recall the email. I don't see a "solution" to bullying except to not engage with bullies.  So I left.  As I'm doing now.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

Right, this is my issue. You want to stir the pot and poke at an entire board, but then you try to act like you're taking the higher road by not responding to what people say to you.

You want to play Little Miss Martyr. I think it's BS.

We both know that you didn't have to do this "test" thread. You could have posted about anything and just waited to see if people responded. When people asked about KA warning you, you could have said, "I don't want to re-start the drama." THAT would have been being the bigger person or taking the high road.

So what if you didn't specifically call anyone a name? It's WORSE to belittle an entire board. I might have taken issue with things that you said in the past over there. I pointed it out when I thought you were being hypocritical. But I never once called you a miserable person, a nitwit, a vulture, immature, or juvenile -- all things that you have generalized to apply to posters, myself included, on NEY.

I don't see how this could possibly be interpreted as being the better person or taking the high road:

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_told-back-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:aa6c3668-6ab8-4095-ab09-2a9b334d946cPost:ab5a0324-8c9b-4a6b-9323-34fbad24e9e1">Re: Told to go back to NEY</a>:
[QUOTE]So glad to see most of you are still the same trash-talking immature nitwits that I was used to.  And so awesome to see this is how you spend your time, nearly 2 months after I chose to leave. Good luck to you all... misery loves company, and I'm just sick of being around miserable people. Those who stuck up for me - thank you, best wishes to you!  Please don't waste your time or energy arguing with people who have their heads stuck too far in the dirt to listen.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

You are coming across as very angry and bitter still, and all I was trying to say was that you should get over it and let it go.

It's not personal for me. It never was. I just think that, regardless of what happened in the past, it doesn't justify your actions now. You're not doing the right thing for yourself or for either board.

I do hope this is the end of it.

firsttimersluck

If it's not personal to you, then why did you follow her over here to check up on her? I don't understand... You aren't affiliated with the military in any way right? So you have never posted here before, no? THen why did you come over here? just to see her? Because I think you are also "stirring the pot" then

And maybe I am as well. I haven't always gotten along with Calindi and I'm sure there will be more times that she and I disagree, but I don't see how you can come HERE to a board you NEVER post on to tell her that SHE is stirring the pot.

Please keep in mind that I don't know you, any of the ladies of the NEY board (I actually like msjenna ), nor do I know Calindi very well, but this is a public forum (which I'm sure is your excuse for having the right to post here.. fair enough) and I have a right to call BOTH of the kettles black when I, an unbiased bystander, sees it.
ugh.. ok mob. I could use that baby aspirin now

SeaTea02

Someone from our board who is associated with the military and lurks here told us about these posts. We didn't say "Hey, I wonder what Cate/Calindi is doing?"

And very good point by Desert... you claim not to be pointing anyone out.. but while my name was absent it was very clear you were talking about me. I would prefer if you didn't continue to discuss or talk about me, and I will do the same for you. If you have something to say or ask me, please do it directly instead of accusing me of attacking you and your FI to an entire board. I know I have said things about you that were not direct either, but I will stop if you will. 

And if you want to come around the Sept 2012 board, by all means. I am not going to fill those girls in on the drama.. that is really more your style anyway. 

firsttimersluck

aw I see.. That makes more sense having someone that is/was part of this board. I'm not TK literate enough lol.. I just found my "month board" a month ago a liiiittle on the late side -_-

mob2689

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_test-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:431ea120-1bd4-4c42-b06d-36624a9d5153Post:4d754cd8-3b7e-4ea4-8cb8-cb17a5d26642">Re: Test</a>:
[QUOTE]ugh.. ok mob. I could use that baby aspirin now ;)
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
 First, I only have like 4-6 of them, I am sure you are big enough for Tylenol<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

desertsun

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_test-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:431ea120-1bd4-4c42-b06d-36624a9d5153Post:4d754cd8-3b7e-4ea4-8cb8-cb17a5d26642">Re: Test</a>:
[QUOTE]If it's not personal to you, then why did you follow her over here to check up on her? I don't understand... You aren't affiliated with the military in any way right? So you have never posted here before, no? THen why did you come over here? just to see her? Because I think you are also "stirring the pot" then And maybe I am as well. I haven't always gotten along with Calindi and I'm sure there will be more times that she and I disagree, but I don't see how you can come HERE to a board you NEVER post on to tell her that SHE is stirring the pot. Please keep in mind that I don't know you, any of the ladies of the NEY board (I actually like msjenna :) ), nor do I know Calindi very well, but this is a public forum (which I'm sure is your excuse for having the right to post here.. fair enough) and I have a right to call BOTH of the kettles black when I, an unbiased bystander, sees it. ugh.. ok mob. I could use that baby aspirin now ;)
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

What Sea Tea said.

I actually had multiple people point out Cali's posts over here to me. I don't generally follow her around on TK, promise. :)

Let me put it this way: If someone who was a long time MB poster left your board in a blaze of drama, and then started shittalking about MB on another board, would you enjoy that? Would you sit back and not say anything?

I just don't think that it is healthy or constructive for anyone, so I would like for it to stop. My way of handling that is to approach that poster directly instead of just reporting the posts. Maybe reporting would have been better in this situation. Idk.

I've said my piece, so I will take my own advice and just...stop talking now. :)

LetsHikeToday

If you are upset that Cali wrote this thread then I'm assuming you'd be upset with Ms.Jenna too? I don't have anything against either one but both instances threads were on other boards about other things that happened.

I think this needs to be dropped. Obviously you guys need to agree to disagree.

kara811

WTF happened to this thread and what's with this drama about msjenna? Clearly I need to back up on the thread posts!