I've been getting weird looks when I tell people I wont see FI until all of our Wedding Festivities... they keep telling me, but thats over 4 months away. Yeah ... so? Is usually my response.
I get even MORE weird looks and cause for concern when people realize FI and I wont been living together until 3 months AFTER the wedding.
I think the fact that I am 1. not really bothered by any of this and 2. actually excited to be moving within 4 hr drive of FI (instead of 11hrs) after the wedding means I have officially adjusted to life in the Miltary. haha
To Be Honest, we have been LD for the majority of our relationship and I am more concerned about adjusting to living with him then bothered by living apart. Nevertheless, I can't wait to actually start our lives together.
Re: Adjusted to Military Life?!?! hehe
If it doesn't bother you then don't worry. Some people just don't get it. Military life is really hard to understand. Keep your head up, and good luck on everything working out.
Good Luck to my Fellow Military Fiances and the wedding planning process. I have been planning this wedding for a year and I am ready for it to be here already!!
[QUOTE]It doesn't bother me but it is getting old explaining whats going on. It will be nice to move and get settled in more of Military environment, where people understand the situation a lot more. I have a sinking feeling that right when we get settled he will get deployed but that is just something I'll have to deal with when the time comes! We have been very lucky thus far, and I know it can't keep up forever! ;) Good Luck to my <strong>Fellow Military Fiances and the wedding planning process. I have been planning this wedding for a year and I am ready for it to be here already!!</strong>
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</div><div>Same here! We're getting down to the wire, just 43 more days! We definitely can't wait. Our engagement has been too long! Good luck to you too! ;) </div>
[QUOTE]It doesn't bother me but it is getting old explaining whats going on. It will be nice to move and get settled in more of Military environment, where people understand the situation a lot more.<strong> I have a sinking feeling that right when we get settled he will get deployed but that is just something I'll have to deal with when the time comes</strong>! We have been very lucky thus far, and I know it can't keep up forever! ;) Good Luck to my Fellow Military Fiances and the wedding planning process. I have been planning this wedding for a year and I am ready for it to be here already!!
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<div>Yep, that's exactly how it happened for us. We were a LDR up until we got married, but luckily it was just over a 2 hour drive so we got to see each other every weekend. We lived together for a month and a half after the wedding before our PCS across the country. Then we were here just shy of 2 months, got all settled in and adjusted to our new life, and then he was deployed. </div><div>
</div><div>People who are non military really don't get it. But TBH being a LDR is making this deployment so much easier. You are already used to being apart for extended periods, and clearly are independent enough to survive deployments, and that is huge. There are so many wives that can't deal with it, and just complain how lonely it is. </div><div>
</div><div>Just tell these people you are getting lots of practice being alone for when he is deployed. </div>
However, we just found out that he'll be gone all summer for his internship with a Marine JAG Officer in Parris Island. It's great for him to get a chance to see what it's like, and to integrate a bit more into the military lifestyle (he went straight from OCS to law school, so he had a bit of cultural whiplash). I'm a little sad that I won't see him for 3 whole months, but I'll be busy with work at that time and probably starting to plan our wedding (!!!). Last year when he first planned to do this, I got rather sad and down in the dumps for a few days. Now that I've lived here a year and have a great network of friends, I'm not worried at all. I'll miss him for sure, but as I told my Mom, if I can't handle this with a smile on my face, I have no business considering becoming a military spouse.