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KendallR10KendallR10 member
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A vow renewal is less important or less special than an actual wedding?

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  • Sammy0709Sammy0709 member
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    edited December 2011
    No one is trying to tell you it is less important or less special.  A vow renewal is most certainly a very special occassion and I know lots of people that have had them.  Everyone knew they were already married and, from what they have said, a vow renewal was just as amazing as what they had imagined a wedding would be.  Their events were a lot less formal and included less traditions but they were still special to them.

    I will caution, though, a JOP and then a vow renewal is not for everyone.  For some people, having a JOP would make a vow renewal less special in their minds.  You will find that many of the brides on here have that opinion.  I'm probably one of those people.  I had a JOP and do not plan on having a vow renewal because I just don't like big fancy events or being the center of attention so a JOP was perfect for me and about as special as it gets.

    ETA:  I also really think this topic is getting beat to death.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    I was only asking because I don't want people (our guests) saying "Well its only a vow renewal so it isn't important"
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  • Sammy0709Sammy0709 member
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    People will come and enjoy themselves whether its a vow renewal or the first time you say your vows.  Most of the people that attended our friends' recent vow renewal were thrilled to share in something that was so special to them.  Aren't those the people you want to be there for something that is so important to you anyway?
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    I just would rather be disapointed now rather than later
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  • shan87shan87
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    People want to celebrate you both finding love and committing a lifetime to each other. Whether if physically happens in front of them I think is arbitrary. I think the important aspect you seem to be missing is the deceit. The deceit is the issue not the VR itself.

    We have people skipping our wedding and showing up just to the reception. Whether it was a VR or Wedding some people are just like that. You are never going to please everyone when planning whether it be a childs birthday party, wedding, VR, shower etc. The people who love you and matter will be there and that should be who you want there. :)
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  • Sammy0709Sammy0709 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:9f115ddc-d6bb-4c10-b547-b13118ccc22b">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>People want to celebrate you both finding love and committing a lifetime to each other.</strong> Whether if physically happens in front of them I think is arbitrary. I think the important aspect you seem to be missing is the deceit. The deceit is the issue not the VR itself. We have people skipping our wedding and showing up just to the reception. Whether it was a VR or Wedding some people are just like that. You are never going to please everyone when planning whether it be a childs birthday party, wedding, VR, shower etc. <strong>The people who love you and matter will be there and that should be who you want there. :)
    </strong>Posted by shan87[/QUOTE]
    This is what I was trying to say in my second post but shan said it better.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:9f115ddc-d6bb-4c10-b547-b13118ccc22b">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]People want to celebrate you both finding love and committing a lifetime to each other. Whether if physically happens in front of them I think is arbitrary. I <strong>think the important aspect you seem to be missing is the deceit. The deceit is the issue not the VR itself</strong>. We have people skipping our wedding and showing up just to the reception. Whether it was a VR or Wedding some people are just like that. You are never going to please everyone when planning whether it be a childs birthday party, wedding, VR, shower etc. The <strong>people who love you and matter will be there and that should be who you want there. :)</strong>
    Posted by shan87[/QUOTE]
    We are telling people. It will now be a vow renewal. Lets move past this issue<div>
    </div><div>Thank you :]</div>
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    edited December 2011
    Kendall, seriously, if your main concern is how excited people would be at your vow renewal instead of how hurt your family would be to know they were lied to, then I really have nothing to say to you.  

    Why on earth do you need to continue to make posts trying to justify your secret JOP.  You're not going to change anyone's mind here that it's immoral and wrong, and just looks like you're coming up with every lame excuse you can think of as to why you need to do it.  

    You still never answered my question from the other day...  If the whole reason for your PPD is because it's important to your grandfather to see you get married (since you said you wouldn't have one if he passed away before then), then how can you care so little about lying to him and leading him to believe he is witnessing your actual wedding?  
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:77f7fdfa-47bc-4bf5-9e2d-e28af2731bd7">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]Kendall, seriously, if your main concern is how excited people would be at your vow renewal instead of how hurt your family would be to know they were lied to, then I really have nothing to say to you.   Why on earth do you need to continue to make posts trying to justify your secret JOP.  You're not going to change anyone's mind here that it's immoral and wrong, and just looks like you're coming up with every lame excuse you can think of as to why you need to do it.   You still never answered my question from the other day...  If the whole reason for your PPD is because it's important to your grandfather to see you get married (since you said you wouldn't have one if he passed away before then), then how can you care so little about lying to him and leading him to believe he is witnessing your actual wedding?  
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

    <div>What part of "we are telling people after." isn't making sense? </div><div>We are choosing to do something in secret and then telling people the next day. Would it change things if we invited our families?</div><div>
    </div><div>We have decided to tell. Its not that I don't care but I really don't want to be looked down upon because We choose to do something .</div>
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    Well if that's what you are really doing, then I apologize.  I thought you said you weren't telling people until the VR.  

    And yes, honestly, I think you should invite the people important to you to the JOP.  You don't need to, but if it's important to them and to you for them to see you get married, then what's the harm in inviting them?
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:0410fd0f-cc09-4cb7-8fe0-ce4f302d2760">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]Well if that's what you are really doing, then I apologize.  I<strong> thought you said you weren't telling people until the VR. </strong>  And yes, honestly, I think you should invite the people important to you to the JOP.  You don't need to, but if it's important to them and to you for them to see you get married, then what's the harm in inviting them?
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

    <div>That was to original plan. But we have changed our minds.</div><div>
    </div><div>Its not the one we want people to remember</div>
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    They will remember both.  I really have no problem with your plan as long as you really are telling everyone now, so whether or not you invite people to the JOP is up to you.  I know personally, my parents would rather see H and I say our original vows than just wear a dress for a party.  I'm not saying they won't appreciate your PPD, I'm just saying they could remember both with happy thoughts.  Only you know your family though.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:b97a5c7c-b2d5-41ae-ae4f-5dc073637ec0">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]They will remember both.  I really have no problem with your plan as long as you really are telling everyone now, so whether or not you invite people to the JOP is up to you.  I know personally, my parents would rather see H and I say our original vows than just wear a dress for a party.  I'm not saying they won't appreciate your PPD, I'm just saying they could remember both with happy thoughts.  Only you know your family though.
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

    <div>We haven't fully decided if we aren't inviting family. </div><div>
    </div><div>A vow renewal for us is more than a party. Its us rededicating our love to each other in front of our friends and families.</div><div>
    </div><div>What is PPD? </div>
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    PPD = Pretty Princess day.  That's what I generally call VR's because 9 times out of 10 brides do them just to get to wear the white dress and feel like a princess.
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  • Sammy0709Sammy0709 member
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    PPD is Pretty Princess Day...I think.

    If your vow renewal is more of a party for you guys to celebrate the fact that you are married, would just having a reception for your family and friends be more appropriate?  Family friends' of my parents got married 5 or 6 years ago in Vegas.  Because their families could not attend due to the cost involved they had a reception with dinner and dancing and what not a few months later.  Everyone really enjoyed themselves from what my mom said.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:f526cbd5-a1bc-4fbb-b50b-e0f0e70355db">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]PPD is Pretty Princess Day...I think. If your vow renewal is more of a party for you guys to celebrate the fact that you are married, would just having a reception for your family and friends be more appropriate?  Family friends' of my parents got married 5 or 6 years ago in Vegas.  Because their families could not attend due to the cost involved they had a reception with dinner and dancing and what not a few months later.  Everyone really enjoyed themselves from what my mom said.
    Posted by Sammy0709[/QUOTE]

    <div>Wow typo. that was supposed to say its more than just a party for us. </div><div>
    </div><div>Our vow renewal is going to be just like a wedding. Ceremony & reception</div>
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:ede9d7b3-b157-477b-acff-8b31ed3d8b41">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]PPD = Pretty Princess day.  That's what I generally call VR's because 9 times out of 10 brides do them just to get to wear the white dress and feel like a princess.
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
     whats the other 1 day?
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:ef84072c-c2b6-4503-909d-a0fbdb9e603e">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you think :  whats the other 1 day?
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

    <div>Usually destination weddings who do an at home reception, or people who did a JOP and just make it a picnic or really low key party.  If you're already married and for a vow renewal you wear a bridal gown and do all the traditions of a wedding, then it's a PPD.  </div>
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:c0cb71dd-db45-47c3-8f9b-8ca0c1d46540">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you think : Usually destination weddings who do an at home reception, or people who did a JOP and just make it a picnic or really low key party.  If you're already married and for a vow renewal you wear a bridal gown and do all the traditions of a wedding, then it's a PPD.  
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

    <div>I already bought my dress and I would never wear it to a JOP. So I'm wearing it to the VR</div><div>We're doing a lot but not all the things of a wedding. </div><div>
    </div><div>I'm not just doing it to be a princess though</div>
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    It's just a way to refer to the day, especially because so many people like to refer to it as their real wedding because they get to wear the dress.  It wasn't a term made to refer to you specifically.
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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    Kendall, I'm glad to see what you are doing and have thought it through. I know it's been harsh for you here but you have withstood it and have actually taken into consideration what people have said.It might have taken you a while, but you did listen.  Kudos to you on that. Everyone here wants you to start off your marriage with love and honesty which is what you will be doing now. 
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:7e7443a8-cb0c-4aab-8f7c-0d8084b16304">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's just a way to refer to the day, especially because so many people like to refer to it as their real wedding because they get to wear the dress.  It wasn't a term made to refer to you specifically.
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

    <div>I know its not a real wedding. I LOVE the dress I'm wearing to our real wedding. </div><div>
    </div><div>But I see the point. Like that girl on coming home..</div>
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:9f3f30bf-9149-4368-8ff6-9dbf987fe77d">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]Kendall, I'm glad to see what you are doing and have thought it through. I know it's been harsh for you here but you have withstood it and have actually taken into consideration what people have said.It might have taken you a while, but you did listen.  Kudos to you on that. Everyone here wants you to start off your marriage with love and honesty which is what you will be doing now. 
    Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

    <div>I don't back down easily and anyone who thinks they can bully me in to submission is on something</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:f4f102d7-5b08-4228-90ff-cce3c4e99859">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you think : I don't back down easily and anyone who thinks they can bully me in to submission is on something
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

    there's a difference between bullying someone into submission and considering other viewpoints. You didn't get bullied into (I know thats not what you're saying) and you are demonstrating that you actually did listen. Don't confuse backing down with realizing that things can be seen from another viewpoint. It's completely ok to change your mind and agree with someone you have been disagreeing with. Because, well, sometimes we're wrong. I've done that many times in arguments with people. I remain stubborn until I realize I'm being stupid and need to fix it. Always be flexible when it comes to things. Because as 100% you think you're right, the other person equally thinks 100% that they are right and thats why arguments can go on for soooo long.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:36ee6b40-febf-4847-85f4-94f542e0fb73">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you think : there's a difference between bullying someone into submission and considering other viewpoints. You didn't get bullied into (I know thats not what you're saying) and you are demonstrating that you actually did listen. Don't confuse backing down with realizing that things can be seen from another viewpoint. It's completely ok to change your mind and agree with someone you have been disagreeing with. Because, well, sometimes we're wrong. I've done that many times in arguments with people. I remain stubborn until I realize I'm being stupid and need to fix it. Always be flexible when it comes to things. Because as 100% you think you're right, the other person equally thinks 100% that they are right and thats why arguments can go on for soooo long.
    Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

    <div>I'm not talking about me changing my mind. Some of the things that we're said we're them bullying me. </div>
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  • LuluP82LuluP82 member
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    I don't really think so. We had a vow renewal, a blessing, whatever you want to call it. But, frankly, until I got on the Knot to plan my "wedding" I didn't realize it was a big deal here. I grew up in Latin America, and that's what everyone does-- sign papers in the civil court, because you have to; and then have a "wedding" with the pretty dress, the party, etc.  Usually the "wedding" (which I'm putting in quotes because it's not when you're legally married) is a religious thing, but not always.

    Anyway, I had just (stupidly, I know) thought that this was done here as well, since I hadn't been to many weddings. Since generally no one is invited to the paper signing portion in my country, I just assumed people did that secretly and all, since I never actually saw paper signing. Regardless. DH and I went, signed papers (we didn't have to say vows in our state or have witnesses). And then we had a priest do a blessing ceremony in front of everyone. Our invites very clearly invited people to a blessing and religious ceremony, and everyone knew during the few months that we'd been legally married, because, well, we told them.

    I think we had the same reaction we would have had regardless...I did skip showers and bachelor bachelorette parties and such, but otherwise, it was a traditional Catholic ceremony and reception-- dad walked me down the aisle in my dress, we had a bridal party, we had a fancy dinner and cake and dances and such.

    So no, I don't think it's worth lying to everyone just to make your PPD (Beach, that's what everyone in my family calls it too, even though we all had one...because let's be honest, no one needs the pretty dress and party) more "special."
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:541263f4-1ec7-4eb7-860f-1f9c986c98dc">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you think : I'm not talking about me changing my mind. Some of the things that we're said we're them bullying me. 
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

    we're? I'm seriously NOT trying to be a bitch here, so consider this a life lesson and not Sami being a bully.Like you said people spelling your name wrong is a pet peeve, people using bad grammar is mine. We're is implying we are, so knowing that your response makes no sense. "some of the things that we are said we are them bullying me", I think you mean "Some of the things that were said were them bullying me". End of that rant.

    Okay. Now for that comment. You were not be bullied, you were being talked to like an adult. Read up on cyberbullying and then if you can honestly say that you felt that you were being bullied, I will be the first to apoligize.

    Now for your original post, When you JOP, in my opinion, you are taking the risk that some of your guests will view your VR as less important and opt to not come. Thats just a chance that you have to take. I mean, I'm sure that if your family is not invited to your JOP, then they will still attend your VR. People realize that some people won't come to a VR, and IMHO, I think this is why so many couples try to lie about thier JOP.
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  • calindicalindi member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:f4f102d7-5b08-4228-90ff-cce3c4e99859">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you think : I don't back down easily and anyone who thinks they can bully me in to submission is on something
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

    See, statements like this make me think of low-class uneducated teenagers. All this could be easily solved by just having the day you get married be your big wedding day.

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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:c4d16e43-7108-45b7-998e-dd2682c146b4">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you think : we're? I'm seriously NOT trying to be a bitch here, so consider this a life lesson and not Sami being a bully.Like you said people spelling your name wrong is a pet peeve, people using bad grammar is mine. We're is implying we are, so knowing that your response makes no sense. "some of the things that we are said we are them bullying me", I think you mean "Some of the things that were said were them bullying me". End of that rant. Okay. Now for that comment. You were not be bullied, you were being talked to like an adult. Read up on cyberbullying and then if you can honestly say that you felt that you were being bullied, I will be the first to apoligize. Now for your original post, When you JOP, in my opinion, you are taking the risk that some of your guests will view your VR as less important and opt to not come. Thats just a chance that you have to take. I mean, I'm sure that if your family is not invited to your JOP, then they will still attend your VR. People realize that some people won't come to a VR, and IMHO, I think this is why so many couples try to lie about thier JOP.
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
    Sorry it was a typo. 
    Military Brides December 2011 Siggy. Holiday picture with your SO. We suck and don't have one :/ Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_think-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9ccb177b-ce55-41a9-b1ec-1c78bdc2edc4Post:a647d5b7-2472-44cd-bc50-122fd24c68cf">Re: Do you think</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do you think : See, statements like this make me think of low-class uneducated teenagers. All this could be easily solved by just having the day you get married be your big wedding day.
    Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
    And we're choosing to not wait that long
    Military Brides December 2011 Siggy. Holiday picture with your SO. We suck and don't have one :/ Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter.
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