So I'm totally excited that our wedding is finally around the corner after an 18 month engagement, but now I'm getting bumbed thinking about our long distance marriage after the honeymoon. I just started a new job as an RN as a new grad (so I basically had to beg for it) and I need to stick around until at least the one year mark if I hope to get another job wherever we're stationed...which is 3 months after the wedding and thats if I can get another one right away. We've already been long distance for 2 years while he gets his Masters degree (5 hours away). The wedding is the week after his graduation and the then we go on our honeymoon, and then he has to report to his ship, which likely will be in Alaska (I'll be coming back to my job on the east coast)! Just finding it hard to get excited about being married, apart, oh, and still living with my parents. Just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat?
Re: Long distance marriage??
I've been in a long distance marriage since January 1st. We've been married for 10 months and have spent 2 weeks together (Our HM, and then the week between Christmas and New Years). I'm this boat, and it's not easy. I mean, I live with my parents, I work, I'm in school so I keep pretty busy. It's not Ideal, but you gotta do what you gotta do. My H is stationed in Japan, but he comes home in Feb of next year, so I'm kind of in the home stretch. Some days are harder than others (Holidays, Birthdays, when you have a bad day or get bad news), but As long as you have good communication skills, and a good stable relationship, You'll be okay. The board keeps me sane. These ladies are like my best friends, and I've never even met any of them. We're there for each other and when your SO is deployed, or away from you for whatever reason, it sucks, but I know that when I'm excited, or upset or whatever, these Ladies have my back. Definitely stick around if you can!
H and I are long distance and have been for a long time. We would spend the weekends together and when ever he/me had time off. We debated on weather I should move after we got married but then we found out he was getting deployed and it just didn't work for us for me to move and leave all of the support and job I have now. We are a the bottom of a long hill climb but with skype (when it works) and e-mail we are making it through.
I am not going to lie, it sucks sometimes. I will have a pitty party for one on some days when I see other people out shopping, dinner or movies with their SO. I have a glass of wine or bowl of ice cream or both and let myself feel a little sad for awhile but then I put on my big girl panties and get back to life. It is only like a few hours.
Stick around! I have learned a lot here and have "met" some pretty wonderful people.
[QUOTE]H and I are long distance and have been for a long time. We would spend the weekends together and when ever he/me had time off. We debated on weather I should move after we got married but then we found out he was getting deployed and it just didn't work for us for me to move and leave all of the support and job I have now. We are a the bottom of a long hill climb but with skype (when it works) and e-mail we are making it through. I am not going to lie, it sucks sometimes. I will have a pitty party for one on some days when I see other people out shopping, dinner or movies with their SO. <strong> I have a glass of wine or bowl of ice cream or both and let myself feel a little sad for awhile but then I put on my big girl panties and get back to life.</strong> It is only like a few hours. Stick around! I have learned a lot here and have "met" some pretty wonderful people.
Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]
Chardonnay float!!!!!!!!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Long distance marriage?? : Chardonnay float!!!!!!!!
Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
No but I like where you mind is this morning!!! HA! I say the best of both worlds!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Long distance marriage?? : Chardonnay float!!!!!!!!
Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
Baileys and ice cream!!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Long distance marriage?? : No but I like where you mind is this morning!!! HA! I say the best of both worlds!
Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]
I have a bottle of water with me at work (Quartz water.. it's from GA), and it's a hexagon bottle and the ladies at work thought I was drinking Vodka from the bottle. The ABC store is right next door and I said "Yep!, and it looks like I'm almost out, I'm gonna run across the street real quick!" They were all like "WHHHHAAATTT?!" Hilarious!!!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Long distance marriage?? : I have a bottle of water with me at work (Quartz water.. it's from GA), and it's a hexagon bottle and the ladies at work thought I was drinking Vodka from the bottle. The ABC store is right next door and I said "Yep!, and it looks like I'm almost out, I'm gonna run across the street real quick!" They were all like "WHHHHAAATTT?!" Hilarious!!!
Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
HAA!!! That is awesome!
its okay to have a pity party for a while, but don't get sucked into my life sucks doom.
Our wedding was very anticlimatic because we were LD for 6.5 years and didn't start living together until 3 months later. I had moved back home to save money before this move so I hear you there.
Do you know for sure it would be hard to find a RN job in Alaska? I ask because there are a ton positions open here.
http://www.browneyedbaker.com/2011/03/14/irish-car-bomb-cupcakes/
I'm really itching for a reason to make these besides the whole "I miss my FI and chocolate will make it better" thing...
Just a thought. Maybe something to think about? You could start job hunting right before/after the wedding, and if something pops up then you can move!
Is this Chardonney float thing fo realz?
Because I need to try this if so..
[QUOTE]wait wait wait... Serious question: Is this Chardonney float thing fo realz? Because I need to try this if so..
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
I saw it on Desperate Housewives last Sunday. Lynette and her sister had this huge fight, which caused her sister's FI to walk out, so then they were having a pity party and Lynette plopped some ice cream into a glass of wine and called it a "Chardonnay Float". I'm not sure if it's a real thing or not... but that's where I heard it!!