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KendallR10KendallR10 member
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I'm planning on sending a new friend a care package when he deploys soon. 

Idk what to send

Is it wrong that I'm sending a package to a guy that isn't FI?
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  • Sammy0709Sammy0709 member
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    edited December 2011
    I like to think there shouldn't be a problem since they all serve together, you're supporting the cause, etc. DH and I sent some together to guys from his old battalion. Granted he was friends with them too but, if your FI is home, why don't you ask him to help pick stuff for in it and you can both send it together. Then there's less chance for hard feelings. Other than that, DH's favorite thing was baby wipes.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_care-package?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:b0844f1c-8356-4029-9bdb-a2156e050b54Post:2832f603-f9e4-4bc7-a6d6-4360b8e8d171">Re: Care package</a>:
    [QUOTE]I like to think there shouldn't be a problem since they all serve together, you're supporting the cause, etc. DH and I sent some together to guys from his old battalion. Granted he was friends with them too but, if your FI is home, why don't you ask him to help pick stuff for in it and you can both send it together. Then there's less chance for hard feelings. Other than that, DH's favorite thing was baby wipes.
    Posted by Sammy0709[/QUOTE]
    FI isn't his friend nor has FI ever been deployed. So should I just ask FI what he would like if he was deployed?
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  • tattooedbride&groomtattooedbride&groom member
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    edited December 2011

    Comforts from home that we cannot get while deployed are always appreciated. Junk food is a personal favorite. Also, magazines, and personal hygiene items (to include baby wipes) are always great. Don't worry about sending something that he may not like, usually, when a package comes in, everyone shares anyway.

    On a side note, I think it is great that you are sending something, and as long as you talk to your FI about it, I do not see why it would be an issue.

    -Tia

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  • alanna91alanna91 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_care-package?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:b0844f1c-8356-4029-9bdb-a2156e050b54Post:c07468b2-bf1a-4ded-9de6-ca276dfce129">Care package</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm planning on sending a new friend a care package when he deploys soon.  Idk what to send<strong> Is it wrong that I'm sending a package to a guy that isn't FI?</strong>
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

    No! Not at all. I've sent stuff to people I've never even met, and atleast you're friends with this person :P
    I think it's really nice of you to think of him. Care packages are huge morale boosters and would be greatly appreciated.
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  • megmac24megmac24
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    edited December 2011
    Send him snacks that he can't get over there. Junk food and candy are very much appreciated, according to my fiance. That's all he wants. No chocolate. I usually send my fiance beef jerkey, sunflower seeds, Sour Patch Kids, Goldfish crackers, Teddy Grahams, and any other snack foods I know he likes. I also always send baby wipes since they use them for EVERYTHING, haha. 

    Just think of things that you think he'd like. And about your FI, just talk to him about it. I'm sure he'd be fine with you sending a care package to someone.
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    edited December 2011
    Use the Military Newleywed FAQ Button, there's a link on that page about care packages!

    As long as your FI is okay with you sending a care package to another dude.. My H can get super jealous so that's definetly something I would ask him, but if your FI isn't like that just call him up.. or go see him, or whatev!!
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  • calindicalindi member
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    edited December 2011
    I always think care packages are a nice thing to do! 

    And my FI would not be my FI if he had a problem with something like that... most of my close friends are guys, and when I visit the cities they live in, I tend to stay with my guy friends.  Now that's something most guys probably wouldn't be okay with, but my guy is very confident and trusts me 100%.   I personally can't handle irrational jealousy in a relationship, and I'd never give a guy a reason to be reasonably jealous.  I'm not a particularly jealous person myself.

    Anyway, I've never understood weird boundaries like that.  He's your friend, he's deployed, and you want to send him a care package.  It's not like you're sending him love letters, or treating him better than you treat your FI.  Still, make sure he's aware of what you're doing so it doesn't feel sneaky or anything.

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  • Sammy0709Sammy0709 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think when you ask if it's bad you need to talk to your FI though. DH will support any SM but he would still flip if I personally and not in conjunction with him in some way sent a care package to a guy he didn't know. But of course that is my husband and not your FI.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    I only asked because I don't wanna be seen as a wh0re or a tag chaser
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  • eandngallowayeandngalloway member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto everything above-

    Also, my FI said he loved getting the little Chef Boyardee cans.  His reasoning was that when you can't stand food at the dfac (dining facility) anymore, you can just pop one open and eat it without having to warm them up.

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  • divinemsbeedivinemsbee member
    1000 Comments Third Anniversary 5 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_care-package?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:b0844f1c-8356-4029-9bdb-a2156e050b54Post:d623084e-7d99-4b1a-a98d-220249a51716">Re: Care package</a>:
    [QUOTE]I only asked because I don't wanna be seen as a wh0re or a<strong> tag chaser</strong>
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

    My personal fave pejorative is "Barracks Bunny."

    Not that I am saying you are even in the same universe as being one, at all, that's just my favorite term I've heard for that type of laydee so far.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_care-package?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:b0844f1c-8356-4029-9bdb-a2156e050b54Post:7446dcc2-9dab-445d-834d-4a7ce96e5519">Re: Care package</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Care package : My personal fave pejorative is "Barracks Bunny." Not that I am saying you are even in the same universe as being one, at all, that's just my favorite term I've heard for that type of laydee so far.
    Posted by divinemsbee[/QUOTE]
    If we lived on or near a base I would have totally used that. But the nearest base is like 4 hours from here
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    nevermind the care package. this guy is a tool
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