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Just wondering if anyone else is seventeen and getting married.. My fiance is a Marine and he and I have pushed my parents to allow us to get married before I'm eighteen and it worked!! :)  Just wanting people to talk to about it or to see if anyone else is in the same boat.(:
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    I am not in that boat. 
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  • VeryContrary247VeryContrary247
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    What's the hurry?
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  • ESquared423ESquared423 member
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    edited December 2011
    Nobody should be 17 and married. Sounds like a bad MTV reality show.
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  • SarahP787SarahP787
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    edited December 2011
    Good luck to you guys. What made you decide to make it legal - before *you're* legal? (Sorry, couldn't help the pun!)

    Many people on this board suggest going through a deployment together before getting married. Getting through the challenges of a deployment is definitely a growth experience for your relationship!
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  • iluvmytxrgriluvmytxrgr member
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    No, I'm not and it makes me very sad that your parents are being so irresponsible. 
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  • kara811kara811 member
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    No I'm not in that boat either. Are you even out of high school yet?
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  • firsttimersluckfirsttimersluck member
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    ohhhh wrong board to start that one up with... haha..
    no. not so much. I am certainly able to drink champagne instead of cider at my wedding
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  • alanna91alanna91 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hmm.. not in that boat.
    I'm nineteen and stil waiting a couple more years.
    Not because I don't think we'll last, but because there's a lot that goes into a wedding and a marriage. Expenses, legal stuff, papers... all when you're still just seventeen? I'll have to second a prior post- what's the rush?
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  • PhotoFanPhotoFan
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    edited December 2011
    You're way too young to get married but that's just my opinion.  You can't even vote yet!!  Guess you'll be joining the kids in a cider toast huh? Tongue out

    I am also wondering along with PP what the heck is the rush?
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  • megmac24megmac24
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    edited December 2011
    I'm also wondering what the rush is? 
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  • greeneke2greeneke2
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    edited December 2011
    Yea, there should be no rush.  I know getting married seems so important now but you should really think hard about this before you do it.  I know if I married my boyfriend at 17 I would be divorced now.
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  • firsttimersluckfirsttimersluck member
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    OH YES greeneke. I remember when I was 17 I was "engaged" haha.. yeah right.. that one ended quickly.. :P
     I'm 22 and would feel too young myself, if I weren't dating such an old man:P (28) I always thought I would get married at like.. 30 or so... I guess him being close to that age makes up for it haha
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  • greeneke2greeneke2
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    edited December 2011
    firsttimer your man is not old!!  I'm 21, my fiance is 29 (30 in August!)  I tell him his old and getting grays all the time =]  It's all fun and games though!  I always wanted to get married "young"  but when I thought young I thought like 25 haha. But I guess our average age is around 25 too! lol
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  • firsttimersluckfirsttimersluck member
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    haha too funny, mine turns 29 in aug :) I know I call him my old geazer and I'm his young whipper-snapper hahahaha. I have always had a bit of an old sole and those men never grow up anyway so the 7 year diff doesn't seem like it even exists, I'm sure you guys are the same. Those old men like us youngins ;)
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_underage-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:c673eb92-3f97-40e9-9aa6-f03d20eec213Post:9ed85df8-5d4f-400a-be0f-1dc1843e467d">Re: Underage Marriage</a>:
    [QUOTE] I have always had a bit of an old sole 
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    <div>Buy new shoes! ;)</div>
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  • firsttimersluckfirsttimersluck member
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    ACK I'm such a loser... This is what I get to studying for my greek mythology final and reading about achilles
    SOUL SOUL SOUL />_< LOL!

    That's it... I give up on life of the internet and studying for the night... haha night green and stan.

    good luck seven.teen.year.old. :P
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  • greeneke2greeneke2
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    Its sooo true!  Most people think he is 25-26 or even younger!!  He is young at heart and so am I!  But like you said they never mature and I am an old soul too!!  I love when people try to tell me he is too old for me only after I let them know our ages!  Silly people!

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_underage-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:c673eb92-3f97-40e9-9aa6-f03d20eec213Post:7fc897a7-3b4c-4183-b75d-64146a996134">Re: Underage Marriage</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Underage Marriage : Buy new shoes! ;)
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    This is too funny!
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  • jamie5482jamie5482
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    edited December 2011
    Um, yea, I couldn't be farther from that boat if I tried. I don't even think getting on that boat was ever, ever a consideration for me. FI is 30 and I'm 29 and I was not ready to get married before now. I can't imagine how much of mess my life would have been if I had married ANY of my exes. Ew.

    I hope that you'll both put a lot more thought into this - you change SO much from 17 to 27 (or even 20 or 22...) that it's very difficult to know what you will want in a few years and if you'll even be the same sort of people you are now. Trust me, there should never be a rush to get married and it would probably do you a lot of good to wait a couple of years.
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  • shan87shan87
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    edited December 2011
    OP I was dating my H at 17 but my gosh were we both immature considering where we are today. We took a couple breaks and somehow we managed to grow up on similar paths which allowed us to be where we are today. But no way in hell would I have made such a huge decision at that young of an age. IMO I regard marriage is one of the most serious decisions you'll make. ESPECIALLY to a service member. It sets up the rest of your life, are you really prepared to make this decision right now?

    You're parent's need help to, BTW.
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  • LuluP82LuluP82 member
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    edited December 2011
    Nope not on that boat at all. I'm 29 and H is in his 30s. What's the rush?

    On a related tangent, I just went to the dr and had a conversation with both the doctor and the nurse about how sad it is that around military bases there are a bunch of KU 18 year olds who are overwhelmed by the fact they're having a baby and not excited at all. So if you insist on this (I agree  your parents need help) at least use your Tricare benefits to get some BCPs.
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    edited December 2011
    I would never put myself in that boat.
    I'm 23, and my H is 26...

    You haven't answered anyone's question about why you're rushing. You're WAYYY to young to get married. You can't even get a tattoo, buy cigarettes, drink, sh*t you can't even join the military yourself. That is absolutely ridicuolous
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  • greeneke2greeneke2
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_underage-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:c673eb92-3f97-40e9-9aa6-f03d20eec213Post:47c77513-d3df-4de4-b64b-3ffe96edc107">Re: Underage Marriage</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would never put myself in that boat. I'm 23, and my H is 26... You haven't answered anyone's question about why you're rushing. You're WAYYY to young to get married. You can't even get a tattoo, buy cigarettes, drink, sh*t you can't even join the military yourself. That is absolutely ridicuolous
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    </div><div>I'm sure she hasn't answered anyone's question because none of us "understand" her situation and that she "loves" him and they are so ready to get married and age doesn't matter.  That is the argument I would foresee if she came back. haha.</div>
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  • SarahP787SarahP787
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_underage-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:c673eb92-3f97-40e9-9aa6-f03d20eec213Post:657f3edc-bf97-4483-b330-a48219d83e00">Re: Underage Marriage</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Underage Marriage : I'm sure she hasn't answered anyone's question because none of us "understand" her situation and that she "loves" him and they are so ready to get married and age doesn't matter.  That is the argument I would foresee if she came back. haha.
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    Fact. Everyone is just being honest, but I imagine the comments will be percieved as attacking/we don't understand. And, to be fair, we really don't know much about her situation! But people do tend to be resistant when others tell them they're wrong, and few people would ever change their minds unless they come to the conclusion themselves.
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  • greeneke2greeneke2
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    Sarah, you are right but I think that comes with being younger.  I know when I was 17, I couldn't take constructive criticism without just assuming everyone was attacking me and not on my side.  I really hope she rethinks getting married this young and I really hope her parents make her wait.   
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_underage-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:c673eb92-3f97-40e9-9aa6-f03d20eec213Post:55c782cd-620a-4ab7-8897-b4a074e336ec">Re: Underage Marriage</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Underage Marriage : Fact. Everyone is just being honest, but I imagine the comments will be percieved as attacking/we don't understand. And, to be fair, we really don't know much about her situation! But people do tend to be resistant when others tell them they're wrong, and few people would ever change their minds unless they come to the conclusion themselves.
    Posted by SarahP787[/QUOTE]
    You're right, we don't know much about her situation, only what she told us. And, based on what she told us, I think the advice everyone has given is pretty valuable. I hope that she at least thinks about what everyone has said instead of dismissing it immediately. 
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    edited December 2011
    I strongly reccomend going through a deployment, or at least being separated for more than just bootcamp before marriage. Boot Camp will change him alot and it'll take a while before he's back to himself, I say if you don't wait until after a deployment, you should at least wait until he's been in the fleet for a while..
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_underage-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:c673eb92-3f97-40e9-9aa6-f03d20eec213Post:57738bba-8c39-423b-b10a-401bdde0c87a">Re: Underage Marriage</a>:
    [QUOTE]If the girl is getting married, then she's getting married. This is for support not critiscm . She's living her life how she pleases. Stop trashing her. She isn't you at seventeen for all you know she could've had a completely differnet life. I mean, SUPPORT. She asked for help, not to be ridiculed.
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    <div>Negative. Supporting someone when they're making a very poor decision enables that poor decision. And I don't care what her situation is, there is no one who should get married at 17.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_underage-marriage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:c673eb92-3f97-40e9-9aa6-f03d20eec213Post:57738bba-8c39-423b-b10a-401bdde0c87a">Re: Underage Marriage</a>:
    [QUOTE]If the girl is getting married, then she's getting married. This is for support not critiscm . She's living her life how she pleases. Stop trashing her. She isn't you at seventeen for all you know she could've had a completely differnet life. I mean, SUPPORT. She asked for help, not to be ridiculed.
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    <div>First of all, I'm guessing that this poster is MUD, which wouldn't at all surprise me with everything that has happened in the past month or so.  </div><div>
    </div><div>Second of all, serial rapists and murderers live their life "how they please."  Do you support them, and give them tips and advice for how to go about with their plans?  No, you don't, because it's not a good thing to do.</div><div>
    </div><div>Getting married at 17 is not a good thing to do either, so I won't "support" it.  </div>
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  • alleybeealleybee
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    edited December 2011
    Well, just because you don't support something doesn't mean you should speak so ill of it. If she is going to do it anyways then she is. It's her decision. Not yours. I was raised in the south so I suppose that's why I'm the way I am but usually if I don't have anything nice to say I don't say at all. I respect your opinion just as much as I respect hers. I just don't see the point in trying to make her feel bad about it when in reality, she'll do what she wants in the end. That's all. I'm not going to be rude to any of you because I see it better fit to just shut my mouth and be supportive.
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