**divine**

LetsHikeToday

I didn't want my post to get lost in the qotd post.

Thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate how strong you had to be then AND now.

divinemsbee

Thank you. I will say that more people on the internet know than in my real life, ah, the joy on anonymity, I was always someone who said that I was pro-choice, but i could never terminate a pregnancy myself, but the second I found out that I was pregnant, I absolutely knew what I would do. It's weird the way that just crystallized my feelings totally.

Also, to anyone who reads this, I would definitely be on anyone's list of people who shouldn't be "allowed" to have one. I wasn't abused (we had been dating about 3 months at this point, continued to date another 9 after--we were just really incompatible, but he's a good guy), I wasn't raped, it definitely wasn't incest. My BCPs failed after some antibiotics and we weren't as careful about using condoms as back-up as we should have been. My boyfriend at the time was totally supportive of the abortion, and I am grateful for that every day.

I just like to bring myself up as an example, because lots of people don't know someone (who admits) that she has had one, and I like them to see that's it's not just a faceless issue. And I know there are many women who do struggle with their decision and fall into depressions afterwards or have medical complications, but more often than not this was a fully informed decision  and many women do not havethose side effects. I don't.

That got long-sorry. Also, Hike, I saw that you recommended TCOYF, I'd love to know more about that. FI and I have been talking about it, my BCPs have started to have some very weird side effects this last year.

LetsHikeToday

You should definitely read it. We are trying for babies right now, that's why I read it but they have chapters dedicated to natural birth control. I learned so much throughout that book. It blew my mind!