Kendall (and anyone else interested)

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]Good for you. Well if you asked then it's not legally wrong.. Just morally. If you're so in love, why are you so willing to lie about being married? I could NEVER deny my H, maybe it's because I'm older and got married for the right reasons. Not for insurance, or whatever else.
Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]

<div>We wouldn't be lying. </div><div>We wouldn't not be volunteering information. If someone asked we would say yes we are married but if not they don't need to know</div>

Beachy730

Just so you know, anytime you refer to him as your FI and not your H you will be lying. And really, you're just going to hold your breath and pray for a year that nobody asks you if you're married?

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]Just so you know, anytime you refer to him as your FI and not your H you will be lying. And really, you're just going to hold your breath and pray for a year that nobody asks you if you're married?
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
Only online do I call him FI. <div>He's met most of my family so that wouldn't be our problem</div><div>
</div><div>Nope. We were going to tell anyone who asked. If they asked they asked</div>

ggirl2001

Kendall- I read in your previous message that you couldn't get ADHD meds/depression meds. If you get linked with a community mental health center they will set you up with a psychiatrist to get medications. You do not need to go tyour PMD but you will need to attend counseling a few times a month. I know in SC some clinics just have med management appts, which means you wouldn't even need counseling.

ggirl2001

Also, so when your parents call him your FI, you won't correct them?? That's lying by omission. Because the RIGHT thing would be to say no he's my husband not my fiance. Seriously, Kendall, you are absolutely ridiculous. I have been nice up to this point. But you are trying to screw the system. You clearly don't care about lying to family and friends. There are other options for your meds other than getting married. I work in a community mental health center so I know what I'm talking about. Oh and I see people who don't have insurance. Ya know what happens? Our psychiatrist gives them samples of the meds they need. FFS go ahead and get married but be F*CKING HONEST ABOUT IT! How can you conceivable think it is ok to lie to your family and your FI's family? What kind of effing morals were you raised with? Or did you just lose them along the way because thats what it sounds like?  You are pathetic and apparently value money over love and trust of family and friends. Good luck with that.

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]Also, so when your parents call him your FI, you won't correct them?? That's lying by omission. Because the RIGHT thing would be to say no he's my husband not my fiance. Seriously, Kendall, you are absolutely ridiculous. I have been nice up to this point. But you are trying to screw the system. You clearly don't care about lying to family and friends. There are other options for your meds other than getting married. I work in a community mental health center so I know what I'm talking about. Oh and I see people who don't have insurance. Ya know what happens? Our psychiatrist gives them samples of the meds they need. FFS go ahead and get married but be F*CKING HONEST ABOUT IT! How can you conceivable think it is ok to lie to your family and your FI's family? What kind of effing morals were you raised with? Or did you just lose them along the way because thats what it sounds like?  You are pathetic and apparently value money over love and trust of family and friends. Good luck with that.
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

<div>If you wanna bring up my morals. I just dumped a best friend for hanging out with drug dealers. Thats the kind of morals I was raised with. The ones that know legal from illegal. I didn't want to get mixed up in her sh!t so I got rid of her. And if that makes me a bad person? Fine</div>

SamiJoeB

I'm now breaking my promise to myself to just ignore your existance, by ONCE AGAIN pointing out your ignorance Kendall.

It's like you pick out one point that someone makes, do you read any of our posts in their entirety?, or do you just choose to base your argument on one sentence. Good for you, You don't do drugs. That doesn't make you a morally wise person. Just because your parents taught you that hanging out with druggies is wrong, doesn't mean that you grasped the concept of lying. Clearly, thats something that you DON'T understand. You think that by only telling people is they ask, that you're legally not responsible for your omission. You are. You are LYING BY OMISSION. I'm so frustrated by your presence on this board because you have your head stuck so far up your ass that you can't possibly know which way is up or down. Maybe if I bold this you'll understand it: IF YOU GET MARRIED BY A JOP, YOU ARE LEGALLY MARRIED. IF YOU DON'T TELL PEOPLE THAT YOU ARE MARRIED, YOU ARE LYING BY OMISSION. IF YOU ONLY TELL PEOPLE THAT ASK YOU POINT BLANK "ARE YOU MARRIED?", THATS MORALLY WRONG. IF YOU LOVE YOUR FI SO MUCH, HOW COULD YOU EVEN KEEP UP A LIE LIKE THAT AND STILL FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF? IF YOU CHOOSE TO HAVE A VR GO FOR IT. IF YOU DON'T TELL ANYONE THAT YOU ARE MARRIED BEFORE YOUR VR YOU ARE WRONG. YOU ARE INVINTING THEM UNDER FALSE PRETENSES.

Just so I understand you correctly, YOU think it's right to get married for the insurance, But its wrong to do drugs. YOU think it's okay to lie to your family and friends, and everyone but the people paying for your insurance, but it's wrong to serve your country honorably and then use your GI Bill. YOU think its legal to just not volunteer the fact that you're married, and YOU think it's okay to talk sh!t about people on other wedding forums, and then apoligize for being "rude", when really you should be apoligizing for being a ridiculous, stupid, ignorant, child.. GROW THE FU*K UP. I'm sorry that you still don't grasp the concepts of whats right, and wrong. Whats MORAL and what's IMMORAL. Pull your head out of your ass, and wake up.

katelyn26

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Kendall (and anyone else interested) : I stand by what I said. You are an idiot. And you don't have any concept of grammar. I'm registered to vote too. I didn't ask for a cookie when I did so. I bet you just vote for which ever candidate your parents did, I bet thats how you chose your political affilations too. My point, is that you clearly lack the maturity and life skills to make sound decisions. And, as I was telling another knottie tonight, You make people your age look stupid. Unfortunatly for me I'm closer to your age, than to other girls on here. I get inadvertantly lumped in with young immature brides making a mockery of marriage, and of being a military spouse, just by being in my early 20's. You posted, online that you were getting married for insurace. Grow up, get a job, and pay for it yourself! When I was 19, I was serving my country. I was and still am an HONEST, and respectable person. What have you done in 19 years? Graduated high school and found a man who'll put up with and support you. To go on another forum and post about us, that was stupid. And you only did so because you didn't think you'd get caught. And every lie you've been caught in on this board you run away from. Give it up, You could have listened to everyone's advice and said "Hey, maybe you all are right, maybe I should consider my options before I decieve my loved ones, and see if maybe there's a better option", but no, you are bound and determined to make an even bigger ass of yourself by staying on here.  I think the best thing in the world would be for you to join a real branch of the military and serve your country for 4-6 years, then maybe you'd be mature enough to handle a marriage. See if after that you'd still be so willing to lie and jepordize your mans career for your insurance. But I'm sure you have some sort of medical condition like your ADHD, or Depression, or lack of birth control or whatever excuse for not being able to do that.  I'm sure that you'll spend your H's money to get a degree, halfway to college graduation you'll get pregnant, give up and be a "Stay at home Mommy". Your H will be forced to either stay in to support you, or get out and work 2 jobs to support you who never finished college and your growing family. Marriage is hard. A military marriage is harder. It's not playing house. It's not spending your H's hard earned money. It's not having babies on the militaries dime. It's not "a song to dance to alone in your home with your FI" (that is my favorite of your stupid lies to cover up your idiocy). You think we're all judgemental b!tches who have it out for you... Newsflash, We might be judgemental b!tches, But I think I can speak for most of us when I say we don't give 2 sh!ts about you. I know that what I say won't make you leave, but I can't wait for the day that you do.
Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
I'm sorry I have to say SamiJoe you're completely out of line here. I'm sure I'm going to get some crap for this but this whole paragraph was way out of line. She responded that she has tried to join and has certain medical problems she needs help with. She's a hardworking young girl and paying for her way through college. That's not easy because I'm also doing it. I think you owe her an apology for what you said because you accused her of many hurtful things. She's doing the opposite of what you accused her of and she wouldn't marry him if she didn't love him. I'm not trying to cause drama but I felt the need to defend her when she had valid answers to your rant.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Kendall (and anyone else interested) : I'm sorry I have to say SamiJoe you're completely out of line here. I'm sure I'm going to get some crap for this but this whole paragraph was way out of line. She responded that she has tried to join and has certain medical problems she needs help with. She's a hardworking young girl and paying for her way through college. That's not easy because I'm also doing it. I think you owe her an apology for what you said because you accused her of many hurtful things. <strong>She's doing the opposite of what you accused her of and she wouldn't marry him if she didn't love him. </strong>I'm not trying to cause drama but I felt the need to defend her when she had valid answers to your rant.
Posted by katelyn26[/QUOTE]

<div>This is the only part I'm going to comment on.  Do you have any idea how many sham marriages there are in the military?  We aren't just full of crap when we say the military looks down on marriages for benefits.  There are people all the time who get married for reasons other than love, like the extra BAH, or getting out of the bricks.  So to make a comment that she wouldn't marry into the military if she didn't love him is just naive.  THose are the marriages that give JOP's a bad name, because they do secret JOP's and don't tell anyone, live as single people, and collect the married benefits.  One of the guys in H's shop was just joking about how he needs to find someone to marry so he can get BAH and move off the ship, and he willl pay her $200 a month just to be his wife.  He was joking, but it  really happens all the time.</div>

katelyn26

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Kendall (and anyone else interested) : This is the only part I'm going to comment on.  Do you have any idea how many sham marriages there are in the military?  We aren't just full of crap when we say the military looks down on marriages for benefits.  There are people all the time who get married for reasons other than love, like the extra BAH, or getting out of the bricks.  So to make a comment that she wouldn't marry into the military if she didn't love him is just naive.  THose are the marriages that give JOP's a bad name, because they do secret JOP's and don't tell anyone, live as single people, and collect the married benefits.  One of the guys in H's shop was just joking about how he needs to find someone to marry so he can get BAH and move off the ship, and he willl pay her $200 a month just to be his wife.  He was joking, but it  really happens all the time.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I know but if she was just doing it for the benefits don't you think she would have by now? If she was just doing it for the benefits why even get an account on the knot to help her plan and do a wedding/vow renewal later? That's just my thought.

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Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Kendall (and anyone else interested) : I know but if she was just doing it for the benefits don't you think she would have by now? If she was just doing it for the benefits why even get an account on the knot to help her plan and do a wedding/vow renewal later? That's just my thought.
Posted by katelyn26[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree.  Most people who get married solely for the benefits don't care about a PPD.  I'm just saying that it's not always love that makes people marry.</div>

katelyn26

Yeah I know and that's sad I just think maybe we can give Kendall a break that's all

SamiJoeB

Maybe if Kendall had handled herself like you did Katelyn, she would get a break. YOU argued with all of us and refused to see our point of view. I don't know if you apologized because you wanted everyone to like you, or if You really did think about it and decide that there are point of views other than your own, and that women older and with more experience than you could be right. Most importantly, YOU put your big girl panties on and apologized. That is why everyone cut you a break. That is why I don't say anything every time you post something that I think shows your age, your naivety, or that I just plain disagree with. All that Kendall has done is continually made excuses for why she was justified in lying, talked about us on another board, acted like a child, kept bringing this ridiculous issue up and then finally apologized but only for being rude. Which she was. Am I rude? Yes. Am I harsh? Absolutely. Do I know what I'm talking about, YES. I have been in the military. Not just married to it. I have seen marriages fall apart faster than the bride could even get her name changed. I have seen first hand people go to a disciplinary review board for committing fraud by getting married for the benefits. I have seen them get put on restriction, have their pay docked, I've seen everything but then get processed out. I've seen children (18-19 year olds) get married, cheat on each other at the first hint of deployment, ruin cars, credit, homes, barracks rooms. I have seen it. Maybe Kendall didn't realize how wrong what she wanted to do was, Maybe she was being naive. I wish that I could give her the benefit of the doubt, but she has shown on this board, and on the other board that she doesn't deserve that. She thrives on the drama that she's creating, and if she doesn't you'd think she'd just stop. Does she have a right to post here, of course, as do I. Will I apologize to her because You think I should, No. I will apologize do her if/when I feel that I have crossed a line, which I haven't. She said, point blank she was getting married for the insurance. She belittled my service to my country by ASSUMING that I was using my GI Bill to pay for college, which FYI, I'm not, and by implying that I was somehow in the wrong for doing so.. I'm saving my GI Bill for my children, and going to school with money that my grandparents left me, and the money that I make by working. So don't play the poor poor pitiful working college student card with me, it wont get any sympathy from me. It is unfortunate that Kendall has these medical issues, but hey, So do I (not the same ones, but I have medical issues of my own), so do alot of people and they don't get married to screw the system. They find another way to figure out their problems. Kendall will get a break when she deserves one, and as far as I'm concerned, she doesn't.

calindi

I'm so sick of trying to talk some sense into whiny self involved children who don't see the forest for all the trees. Kendall, you're a child. 18, 19 are semantics. Both are incredibly young to be getting married. More importantly, you act like a child. You lash out, are overly defensive, and have that "I do what I want" attitude. I don't have to be a fortune teller to know this is going to end badly for you one way or another. You are very likely to be divorced by 25 years old, and so I choose to feel bad for you for being so naive and immature. And now I'm done with you. Katelyn, what was said to Kendall was tough but fair. I wouldn't have worded it how Sami did, but I agree with the sentiment. Telling someone to apologize makes you look like a kindergarten teacher. You aren't well liked around here either.

katelyn26

I understand that and I really meant my apology because I was out of line but telling someone they'll be divorced I don't agree with.

calindi

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[QUOTE]I understand that and I really meant my apology because I was out of line but telling someone they'll be divorced I don't agree with.
Posted by katelyn26[/QUOTE]

I don't hope she'll be divorced. I said she is likely to be divorced. That is fact. Statistics, my dear Watson, indicate that marriages under the age of 21 are more likely to end in divorce at a failure rate of around 65%. Marriages that begin without the support of families are also more likely to fail. Military divorce rates are sky-high, especially among younger service members. Mental math, she probably has about a 75% chance of being divorced within 10 years, and I know a disproportionate amount of people who married young were single again by 25. Thus why she is likely, especially with her confrontational nature and temper tantrum like reactions to conflict, going to be divorced by age 25.

KendallR10

I'm so glad that none of you have faith in me. It just makes me want to prove you all wrong. Which in fact I will. I will not ever be getting divorced. 

calindi

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[QUOTE]I'm so glad that none of you have faith in me. It just makes me want to prove you all wrong. Which in fact I will. I will not ever be getting divorced. 
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

Good luck. You'll need it. The way you can give your marriage the best shot is to wait a few years, get through school yourself, get financially stable, and then get married. But you aren't going to do that, so you're fighting an uphill battle without the skills and experience and solid footing you need to succeed. You'll be scrambling to keep it all together. So yes, you'll need luck.

SamiJoeB

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[QUOTE]I'm so glad that none of you have faith in me. It just makes me want to prove you all wrong. Which in fact I will. I will not ever be getting divorced. 
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

I'm pretty sure that everyone who gets divorced says this.. I said it. Divorce was discussed 3 months into my marriage. I couldn't find a job, and wasn't looking very hard if I'm being honest with myself. My H said that if I didn't get my act together that was the road we were heading. That was a huge wake up call for me. I begged for the job I have now (a job I just gave notice too, but I already have a job lined up in NC)  A wake up call that you Kendall, might not wake up too. You overreact about almost everything. You think that everyone is out to get you, when we're not. We're really trying to look out for you, and actually give you good advice, but you don't see it that way. You think we're all bitter hags that "bully" you. Please, prove us wrong. Doubtful that many of us will still be on the knot for 7 more years.. I mean I don't know... but I hope we're wrong about you. C and I would say this about any 18 year old couple getting married. You will be so much different in 5-7 years. I am. The odds are not good. Most marriages entered in to by people under the age of 21 will end in divorce. Every marriage with the exception of 1, that I encountered in the military, ended in divorce. And that 1 exception, was an open relationship (something that I do not understand, but they were allowed to sleep with other people while on deployment). We don't say these things to be mean, we say these things because they are facts. Of course you think that you will be the ones who make it work.. you're 18.

Sammy0709

I had a similar situation as Sami.  After being rejected for my Naval Flight Officer application I was being mopey and whiney about not being able to find a job as well (not really a personality trait DH had ever seen me have in the past 12 years).  He was not thrilled and we discussed sending me home and looking in to divorce or me sucking it up and acting like an adult about my job situation.

I consider myself in the young married person age bracket as I'm sure do many other people.  I am 23 and was 22 when we got married last July.  I said that we would never get divorced but, there I went acting like a child and it almost happened.  Fortunately I was able to settle for a part time job (which I actually hate) and find other ways for me to potentially use my degree.  I started being the motivated and positive person I had been my whole life.  DH got his wife back (or at least the woman he dated for the past 5 years) and I got my dreams of serving my country and using my degree back.  I still may never serve my country but I have the idea and the plan in place and I am okay with it if I don't.

I agree with Sami.  I'm a pretty relaxed person and I over-reacted but was able to come out of it.  What happens to someone like you who has this victim mentality that everyone is out to get you and has a tendency to over-react?  That's a genuine concern, not either of us trying to attack you.

Beachy730

Nobody ever heads into a marriage expecting to divorce.  At least they shouldn't.  But things happen.  And Calindi is giving out facts, not her opinion.  

Kendall, Katelyn, and anyone else under 21 who cares to read this, we aren't just bitter hags out to get young military brides.  We speak from experience.  Some of us have already been married and divorced, others just have other life experiences.  I can tell you that at 21 I was with a guy who I thought was my future husband.  I was fiinishing my degree, and thought i knew everything about myself.  Now when I think back at my 21 year old self, I laugh at how little I really did know.  I'm a completely different person than I was at 18, 21, even 24 when I met H.  I can guarantee you if I married my BF at 21, I would be divorced now, even though I "knew we were meant for eachother" and yadda yadda yadda that all young lovers say. 

Young military marriages go through divorce everyday.  I'm not saying that H and I are guaranteed success, but we were both 26 when we got married, and knew exactly where we were in our lives and what we wanted.   I did not know that at 21.  I thought I did, and was completely wrong.  All we are trying to say is that nothing bad can come from waiting a few years, finishing your degree, and being a little older before you get married.  However there is a whole lot of bad that can come out of it.  18, 19, even 21 is not old enough to handle being married, regardless of what you might think.

katelyn26

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[QUOTE]Nobody ever heads into a marriage expecting to divorce.  At least they shouldn't.  But things happen.  And Calindi is giving out facts, not her opinion.   Kendall, Katelyn, and anyone else under 21 who cares to read this, we aren't just bitter hags out to get young military brides.  We speak from experience.  Some of us have already been married and divorced, others just have other life experiences.  I can tell you that at 21 I was with a guy who I thought was my future husband.  I was fiinishing my degree, and thought i knew everything about myself.  Now when I think back at my 21 year old self, I laugh at how little I really did know.  I'm a completely different person than I was at 18, 21, even 24 when I met H.  I can guarantee you if I married my BF at 21, I would be divorced now, even though I "knew we were meant for eachother" and yadda yadda yadda that all young lovers say.  Young military marriages go through divorce everyday.  I'm not saying that H and I are guaranteed success, but we were both 26 when we got married, and knew exactly where we were in our lives and what we wanted.   I did not know that at 21.  I thought I did, and was completely wrong.  All we are trying to say is that nothing bad can come from waiting a few years, finishing your degree, and being a little older before you get married.  However there is a whole lot of bad that can come out of it.  18, 19, even 21 is not old enough to handle being married, regardless of what you might think.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I can truly say I am ready to be married. As you know as a military wife, you're separated a lot. That can make or break a relationship. It has made mine stronger. We were going to get married last summer but decided to have the big wedding. I know I am young but we are ready for marriage. 

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Beachy730

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Kendall (and anyone else interested) : I can truly say I am ready to be married. As you know as a military wife, you're separated a lot. That can make or break a relationship. It has made mine stronger. We were going to get married last summer but decided to have the big wedding. I know I am young but we are ready for marriage. 
Posted by katelyn26[/QUOTE]

<div>And what I'm trying to tell you is that what you THINK you know at 18 is completely different than when you're older and wiser.  I'm not saying that I hope your marriage fails, but the blinders that you have on, insisting that at 18 you kmow everything, is very off putting.  Like I said, at 21 I was positive that I was ready for marriage.  I know now that i was an idiot at 21 and nowhere near ready for marriage.  Love isn't enough for a marriage.  It takes maturity as well.  While I think you are working your way on improving that here, your complete lack of maturity and class in your thread on SB defeats anything you've done. </div>

SamiJoeB

I'm sure that you think you are. I thought I was at 18 and my BF was a thief who sold things he stole on ebay, an alcholic and a drug dealer who used to hit me and pee the bed when he got drunk. Imagine what my life would be like if I were married to him.

I'm not suprised that you think you're ready, and you (Katelyn) may be more ready than most 18 year olds, you've been through a deployment, and a bad one at that. But other 18 and 19 year old brides have no clue. It will more than likely end badly for them.

Beachy730

Katelyn what we are trying to tell you is that almost all of us have THOUGHT we were ready at the time.  Most 18 and 19 year olds in love KNOW they are ready.  It takes a mature ADULT to know that what they think isn't always true.  Yes you have been through more with your FI than most 18 year olds, but it still doesn't qualify you as being ready for marriage.  

Beachy730

Katelyn, also the fact that you refuse to admit or believe that the odds are stacked against you shows me that you are too young or immature to get married.  I fully admit that the odds are stacked against H and I just for being a military couple.  Being a young military couple makes them stacked even higher for you.  A mature adult would be willing to accept and understand that, not just argue how you're sooooo ready.

katelyn26

I know I don't know everything and yes I know the odds are against me but my fiance and I are ready to fight the odds. I know it won't be easy being a young, military couple and in school but I'd rather be married than just waiting you know? You all give great advice and I really do appreciate it but we are getting married next summer. We decided this before he got deployed and are sticking with it. Thank you for the advice though

calindi

Katelyn - best of luck, and it sounds like you acknowledge there will be challenges. As your fI has already been deployed, and from the sounds of it earned a Purple Heart, you do know this isn't all sunshine and rainbows and probably have a good idea what you're getting into. Just keep communication open, always try to learn something new about yourself and how to keep a healthy relationship, and be prepared for 'better or worse'. That's all any of us can do, but older brides tend to have their eyes a bit more open and have a bit more experience in their tool belt.

katelyn26

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_kendall-anyone-else-interested?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:e2022e26-b73f-4361-8d31-2dcc3337cd87Post:85c87285-9f65-49fb-8f05-55e3505a308c">Re: Kendall (and anyone else interested)</a>:
[QUOTE]Katelyn - best of luck, and it sounds like you acknowledge there will be challenges. As your fI has already been deployed, and from the sounds of it earned a Purple Heart, you do know this isn't all sunshine and rainbows and probably have a good idea what you're getting into. Just keep communication open, always try to learn something new about yourself and how to keep a healthy relationship, and be prepared for 'better or worse'. That's all any of us can do, but older brides tend to have their eyes a bit more open and have a bit more experience in their tool belt.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
I know and I really do appreciate everyone's concern. I know marriage won't be easy as a young military couple but we're going to go for it. Thanks everyone :) I appreciate your advice

Beachy730

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_kendall-anyone-else-interested?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:e2022e26-b73f-4361-8d31-2dcc3337cd87Post:85c87285-9f65-49fb-8f05-55e3505a308c">Re: Kendall (and anyone else interested)</a>:
[QUOTE]Katelyn - best of luck, and it sounds like you acknowledge there will be challenges. As your fI has already been deployed, and from the sounds of it earned a Purple Heart, you do know this isn't all sunshine and rainbows and <strong>probably have a good idea what you're getting into. </strong>Just keep communication open, always try to learn something new about yourself and how to keep a healthy relationship, and be prepared for 'better or worse'. That's all any of us can do, but older brides tend to have their eyes a bit more open and have a bit more experience in their tool belt.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

<div>But the big question is.... does her FI know what he is getting into?  </div><div>
</div><div><a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_intro-6">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_intro-6</a></div><div>
</div><div>Definitely not a quick read, but she has managed to piss off that entire board, calling them cvnts, bragging about being better than them since her FI is in the Army and theirs aren't, and much much more.  </div>