hey girls im new to posting but not sure what else to do. My fiance and I have been engaged for about a year now and together for 5. Im in law school in ky and he is stationed in ks. He is set to deploy this may and we want to get married before he leaves but wont have the time for a big wedding. we have thought about doing a jop first or eloping, then ceremony when he returns. i have mixed feelings about the jop and then the wedding when he comes home because its not how I/we had it pictured and out family and friends arent really sympathetic. How have you all dealt with this dilemma? Have you regreted having the two seperate events?