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    SKP82SKP82 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:8659ef9d-76d7-4af6-9091-412f70c233b8">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:cb4729bc-3cdc-418e-a419-78858b894a7e">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:8f649187-e846-451f-a67a-8872b418bcd5">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : It's one of my favorites. 
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    It is a total epic win :)
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    OMG basset hounds! DED
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    cde, your sig creeps me the f out. 

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    SKP82SKP82 member
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    Ugh.  I forgot what DED means.  Halp?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:8c2ea224-4a42-414a-8eed-c4feb581aa18">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ugh.  I forgot what DED means.  Halp?
    Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]

    Basically died laughing. :)
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    JayPlusKayJayPlusKay member
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    Damn, you gals are serious about this. 

    It is my personal opinion that when boy gets down on knee and asks girl to get married and presents her with shiny object (aka ring), that hereby makes boy and girl engaged (or boy and boy or girl and girl...whatever floats your boat). 

    That being said, my boyfriend and I have set a wedding date and been ring shopping a few times. I have it on very good authority that the proposal is coming this summer (best friends can't keep secrets!) I do not consider myself engaged in any way, shape or form. However, being practical people who don't want to go nuts with last minute planning, we have begun the planning process. When it began, I swore I wouldn't put any money towards it until the ring was on my finger, but the venue that we so desperately want is filling up fast and our date is the last one available in that month...so I am going to begrudgingly put a deposit on it (from the wedding acconut that we've been working on) and hope that my best friend is right!!!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:6a38168c-670f-43bc-9cce-9f8704c3498b">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Damn, you gals are serious about this.  It is my personal opinion that when boy gets down on knee and asks girl to get married and presents her with shiny object (aka ring), that hereby makes boy and girl engaged (or boy and boy or girl and girl...whatever floats your boat).  That being said, my boyfriend and I have set a wedding date and been ring shopping a few times. I have it on very good authority that the proposal is coming this summer (best friends can't keep secrets!) I do not consider myself engaged in any way, shape or form. <strong>However, being practical people who don't want to go nuts with last minute planning, we have begun the planning process. </strong>When it began, I swore I wouldn't put any money towards it until the ring was on my finger, but the venue that we so desperately want is filling up fast and our date is the last one available in that month...so I am going to begrudgingly put a deposit on it (from the wedding acconut that we've been working on) and hope that my best friend is right!!!
    Posted by JayPlusKay[/QUOTE]
    <div>But that's exactly what the engagement period is for... Planning.</div><div>
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    bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:6a38168c-670f-43bc-9cce-9f8704c3498b">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Damn, you gals are serious about this.  It is my personal opinion that when boy gets down on knee and asks girl to get married and presents her with shiny object (aka ring), that hereby makes boy and girl engaged (or boy and boy or girl and girl...whatever floats your boat).  That being said, my boyfriend and I have set a wedding date and been ring shopping a few times. I have it on very good authority that the proposal is coming this summer (best friends can't keep secrets!) I do not consider myself engaged in any way, shape or form. <strong>However, being practical people who don't want to go nuts with last minute planning, we have begun the planning process. </strong>When it began, I swore I wouldn't put any money towards it until the ring was on my finger, but the venue that we so desperately want is filling up fast and our date is the last one available in that month...so I am going to begrudgingly put a deposit on it (from the wedding acconut that we've been working on) and hope that my best friend is right!!!
    Posted by JayPlusKay[/QUOTE]

    Practical people would realize that once engaged they could easily pick a date that was far enough out for them to plan without being too stressed. Pre-planning is not practical. Putting down what is probably a lot of money for a venue before a guy has proposed is not practical. Nothing about the last half of your post is practical at all.


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    JayPlusKayJayPlusKay member
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    Okay, you got me. I never thought of it that way. I guess I'm just getting a bit stir crazy because I know it's coming and I hate waiting. And because I know that once it does come, we will have so much to do so, to me, it seems silly to just sit back and let it wait. But you guys are right, of course. I appreciate the dose of honesty. I'll be the first of my friends to be engaged and it's kind of daunting to know that I have no one to talk to about this stuff. So, I guess these boards are a blessing, no matter how often I make myself look stupid on them.
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    bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:eeb63468-8e11-426a-a998-d35869666ed4">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Okay, you got me. I never thought of it that way. I guess I'm just getting a bit stir crazy because I know it's coming and <strong>I hate waiting.</strong> And because<strong> I know that once it does come, we will have so much to do so,</strong> to me, it seems silly to just sit back and let it wait. But you guys are right, of course. I appreciate the dose of honesty. I'll be the first of my friends to be engaged and it's kind of daunting to know that I have no one to talk to about this stuff. So, I guess these boards are a blessing, no matter how often I make myself look stupid on them.
    Posted by JayPlusKay[/QUOTE]

    I am the queen of impatience so I know how you feel. My BF has been saying "soon" for at least a year now. But when it finally does happen there are no deadlines. You can have a long or short engagement, however long you need to plan. I think pre-planning just takes away from the experience of being engaged.


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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:6a38168c-670f-43bc-9cce-9f8704c3498b">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Damn, you gals are serious about this.  It is my personal opinion that when boy gets down on knee and asks girl to get married and presents her with shiny object (aka ring), that hereby makes boy and girl engaged (or boy and boy or girl and girl...whatever floats your boat).  That being said, <strong>my boyfriend and I have set a wedding date and been ring shopping a few times. I have it on very good authority that the proposal is coming this summer (best friends can't keep secrets!) I do not consider myself engaged in any way, shape or form</strong>. However, being practical people who don't want to go nuts with last minute planning, we have begun the planning process. When it began, I swore I wouldn't put any money towards it until the ring was on my finger, but the venue that we so desperately want is filling up fast and our date is the last one available in that month...so I am going to begrudgingly put a deposit on it (from the wedding acconut that we've been working on) and hope that my best friend is right!!!
    Posted by JayPlusKay[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>If you are talking about getting engaged, ring shopping together is fine.  But hold off on planning a wedding until you are actually engaged.  Just enjoy your relationship as it is right now.  

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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:6a38168c-670f-43bc-9cce-9f8704c3498b">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Damn, you gals are serious about this.  It is my personal opinion that when boy gets down on knee and asks girl to get married and presents her with shiny object (aka ring), that hereby makes boy and girl engaged (or boy and boy or girl and girl...whatever floats your boat).  That being said, my boyfriend and I have set a wedding date and been ring shopping a few times. I have it on very good authority that the proposal is coming this summer (best friends can't keep secrets!) I do not consider myself engaged in any way, shape or form. However, <strong>being practical people who don't want to go nuts with last minute planning</strong>, we have begun the planning process. When it began, I swore I wouldn't put any money towards it until the ring was on my finger, but t<strong>he venue that we so desperately want is filling up fast</strong> and our date is the last one available in that month...so I am going to begrudgingly put a deposit on it (from the wedding acconut that we've been working on) and hope that my best friend is right!!!
    Posted by JayPlusKay[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Bullshit.</div><div>
    </div><div>Unless your wedding is in four months, there will be NO last minute planning.</div><div>
    </div><div>I don't care how AR or OCD you are. I don't care how much you work/go to school/masturbate.</div><div>
    </div><div>SIX MONTHS IS PLENTY OF TIME TO PLAN A WEDDING.
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    </div><div>Period. End of story.</div><div>
    </div><div>And if your heart is set on a venue before you're engaged, you have not only been pre-planning for a while, but your priorities are not straight.</div><div>
    </div><div>It's not about the venue or the dress or the food or any of the other "stuff." It's about a public commitment to spend your life with another person, and you can do that just about anywhere as long as you have an officiant and a license and a couple witnesses.</div><div>
    </div><div>I really just don't GET the need to have the "perfect" wedding that is oh so personal and unique.</div><div>
    </div><div>Newsflash: thousands of people get married every day. Your wedding will never be truly unique. Celebrate that you're going to have one of the great human experiences. Stop trying to be so unique. YOU ARE NOT A SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE.</div><div>
    </div><div>Also, it's one of life's few big moments. Why people are in such a rush to get there and have it be over is another thing I just don't get. Savor it. Enjoy it. A couple months one way or another should not have a big impact on your happiness with your life. </div><div>
    </div><div>Gah. This shiit drives me crazy.</div><div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:894fc3af-db1f-4ef7-84e9-c82a0e6f357c">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : Bullshit. Unless your wedding is in four months, there will be NO last minute planning. I don't care how AR or OCD you are. I don't care how much you work/go to school/masturbate. SIX MONTHS IS PLENTY OF TIME TO PLAN A WEDDING. Period. End of story. And if your heart is set on a venue before you're engaged, you have not only been pre-planning for a while, but your priorities are not straight. It's not about the venue or the dress or the food or any of the other "stuff." It's about a public commitment to spend your life with another person, and you can do that just about anywhere as long as you have an officiant and a license and a couple witnesses. I really just don't GET the need to have the "perfect" wedding that is oh so personal and unique. Newsflash: thousands of people get married every day. Your wedding will never be truly unique. Celebrate that you're going to have one of the great human experiences. Stop trying to be so unique. YOU ARE NOT A SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE. Also, it's one of life's few big moments. Why people are in such a rush to get there and have it be over is another thing I just don't get. Savor it. Enjoy it. A couple months one way or another should not have a big impact on your happiness with your life.  Gah. This shiit drives me crazy.
    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

    <div>YESSSSSSSSSSSSSS! The only thing she (not desert) said that made any sense to me is that that they are putting aside money for a wedding. I think financial planning, or preplanning if you want to call it that. Is okay. Saving money here and there is never a bad idea. And hey, if you break up, you guys can split the money! It's not totally lost. </div><div>
    </div><div>That being said, I agree with everything Desert said. </div><div>
    </div><div>*&#SDI^($WHITERR&WYH$RW#*!!!!!  I FREAKING, FRACKING, F_CKING  HATE when girls come on here talking about how they have booked the venue before the engagement because it's just "OMG, SO PERFECT!" I understand having a preference. I understand wanting to get married during a certain season or time of year. But if the venue is that important to you (which scares me) then AFTER you are engaged look at available dates and book then. So you may have to get married in March or June instead of April! GASP! You'll still be married at the end of the day! Your perfect, pretty, princess day will still happen!!! You still get to spend the rest of your life with your husband, even if you have to wait a month or two for that "PERFECT" venue! </div><div>
    </div><div>Like PP's have said a million times, part of the reason why places book up years out is B/C of BSC girls who are NOT engaged booking shiit in advance. </div><div>
    </div><div>If you can't find an alternative venue for the time you want to get married after you are engaged, then I'd say you are far from ready to get married. If all you care about is the Princess Day instead of just marrying the man you love, then that's sad. </div><div>
    </div><div>The BSC is getting to me. I've tried to stay out, but this is driving me nuts!</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:aaa9321e-7036-446e-80ff-31802b5b2306">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: What is your definition of "engaged"? : YESSSSSSSSSSSSSS! The only thing she (not desert) said that made any sense to me is that that they are putting aside money for a wedding. I think financial planning, or preplanning if you want to call it that. Is okay. Saving money here and there is never a bad idea. And hey, if you break up, you guys can split the money! It's not totally lost.  That being said, I agree with everything Desert said.  *&#SDI^($WHITERR&WYH$RW#*!!!!!  I FREAKING, FRACKING, F_CKING  HATE when girls come on here talking about how they have booked the venue before the engagement because it's just "OMG, SO PERFECT!" I understand having a preference. I understand wanting to get married during a certain season or time of year. But if the venue is that important to you (which scares me) then AFTER you are engaged look at available dates and book then. So you may have to get married in March or June instead of April! GASP! You'll still be married at the end of the day! Your perfect, pretty, princess day will still happen!!! You still get to spend the rest of your life with your husband, even if you have to wait a month or two for that "PERFECT" venue!  Like PP's have said a million times, part of the reason why places book up years out is B/C of BSC girls who are NOT engaged booking shiit in advance.  If you can't find an alternative venue for the time you want to get married after you are engaged, then I'd say you are far from ready to get married. If all you care about is the Princess Day instead of just marrying the man you love, then that's sad. <strong> The BSC is getting to me. I've tried to stay out, but this is driving me nuts!</strong>
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_definition-of-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0f62ab3e-fda0-4e9d-a5e9-7e41c57d2552Post:6a38168c-670f-43bc-9cce-9f8704c3498b">Re: What is your definition of "engaged"?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Damn, you gals are serious about this.  It is my personal opinion that when boy gets down on knee and asks girl to get married and presents her with shiny object (aka ring), that hereby makes boy and girl engaged (or boy and boy or girl and girl...whatever floats your boat).  That being said, my boyfriend and I have set a wedding date and been ring shopping a few times. I have it on very good authority that the proposal is coming this summer (best friends can't keep secrets!) I do not consider myself engaged in any way, shape or form. However, being practical people who don't want to go nuts with last minute planning, we have begun the planning process. When it began, I swore I wouldn't put any money towards it until the ring was on my finger, but the venue that we so desperately want is filling up fast and our date is the last one available in that month...so I am going to begrudgingly put a deposit on it (from the wedding acconut that we've been working on) and <strong>hope that my best friend is rig</strong><strong>ht!!</strong>!<div>Posted by JayPlusKay[/QUOTE]</div><div>
    </div><div>what if she is? </div><div>
    </div><div>Why hasn't he proposed? If you have enough money to book and buy stuff you should have enough money for a ring. Exactly. 

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