Was there a particular moment when you knew?

AnneAndJJ

Was there a certain moment in your relationship when you knew you'd found the person you wanted to marry (what/when was is)? Or did that feeling just kind of develop over time? There's not a great deal of point to this, I'm just curious, and think it could be interesting.

twinkie757

I knew right away that something was different about how we interacted together. Within a month he had said "I love you" and I cancelled my plans for the following year to study abroad. The moment I could tell for certain that there was no one else for me was when he gave me a ring. I gushed over it and I am NOT a jewelry person. In a previous relationship I received jewelry and it sent me into panic mode. Just think of it like this line from How to Lose a Guy in 10 days a women in lust wants chocolate, a woman in love wants diamonds. 

Button5807

I think overall it was a gradual process but along the way there were a few moments (helping me through a complete mental breakdown without fleeing or completely blending in at my family reunion) that caused me a moments pause.

Sky88

The feeling developed over time for BF and I, mainly because our relationship began when we were young. We both just revealed in the past year that we both want the same things in life and that is to eventally get married. I would never tell him how giddy I am about it though!

AstinB2B

I knew when...   We had gone through a really rough patch in our relationship. I had felt us moving forward and it terrified me.  I shut down and shut him out.  He was still there when I came out the other side.  A couple of months later, we were looking at houses.  I was going to buy it in my name only...we weren't engaged yet, we weren't talking about marriage yet...and I realized that this wasn't something that I wanted to do by myself.  I wanted to build a life and a home with HIM. I didn't want to build my own little world and just have him in it.  3 months later, he proposed and I've not felt a shred of doubt.  My heart is secure in this decision.

Lilika Flower

Our first date when I was 17... that's probably why I booted him back into the friend-zone until I was 21 rather than actually trying to date him in high school :-P

rhondaer

It was right after our first Valentine's together.  I had on a pair of blue topaz earrings he had given me as my Valentine's present.  I was driving down the road when I noticed that one of my earrings was missing.  I was  hysterically crying, trying to turn around in traffic to go back to the store I had been at to find it.I got out of the car, RAN across a parking lot, and found the missing earring (I am sure that everyone at Bed, Bath and Beyond though I had lost my mind).  It was at that point, I knew he was one.

**Mutley**

I knew there was something different about him the night we met.  However, I didn't really think anything would come of it. Fast forward to our first 'real' date... We trusted each other immediately, in a weird 'I've known you all of my life' sort of way.  Plus for two very independent people, it was interesting to actually want to be with that other person more than be alone, doing your own thing. I knew within the first month when my life started falling apart (job, medical, etc.) and he was just there.  No matter what, he was there.  It was a feeling of complete comfort and security.  He made me feel smile-y even when life felt like complete sh!t.

**Mutley**

ETA:All of the feelings were confirmed when we had several talks about what we wanted for our futures and we knew we wanted the same things. 

emmyroo

I knew I was going to mary BF when I wished I had planned on my future with him while still early in my college career.  I had always planned on living in MN after college and so I planned on getting my MN teaching license.  BF lives in WI, and there are a few more requirements to get a WI teaching license than a MN one (i.e. 1 or 2 more classes and a couple more weeks of student teaching.)  Because MN was "home" (where my parents and all my friends lived), I only planned on meeting the requirements for MN.He called me almost in tears one day because he thought that I would only consider living in MN, not in WI with him.  I'm kind of kicking myself for not planning on living in WI, even though I was dating him (albeit only for a month) when I changed my major to English Ed.  But, I had never thought that I might end up in WI until I realized that my future and eventual home were going to include him.  Basically, I realized BF was the one I wanted to marry when he became a major part of my life's goals and my "5 Year Plan".

jeanacorina

I don't know when exactly I knew... but I know when I told him. It was the most bizarre thing I think I've ever said... like something out of a stupid mushy romantic movie.We weren't on the same page, I was falling hard for him and he didn't think that a relationship was possible at that time, and I said "You know, at least I know what I want. I don't want someone like you. I want someone EXACTLY like you. And I don't think they made any other yous."It was incredibly cheesy, but whatever. A few weeks later, after I gave up and started dating other people, he finally told me he loved me. And I think at that point, we BOTH knew... 'cause we're hardcore like that.Needless to say I blew off the other guys I had just started kind-of dating.

rubyslippersxo

i knew pretty much right away that i was head over heels for him and that the feelings i felt (and he felt) were unlike anything i'd ever experienced in my life before that. then one night about 2 months into our relationship he said to me "i never want you to kiss another man again... well, except our little boys". that was it for me. i knew 100% i'd marry him.

tomkat2010

Honestly, the moment we met (it was my first day at a new job, and he worked there) I knew there was something that made me want to be with him. I didn't understand that, not knowing anything about him, but there was that overwhelming feeling of "I have to be with this man." I even called my mom later that day and told her that. Not something I'd ever said before.Anyway, we didn't actually start dating until 7 months later when a co-worker asked us both to join him and some friends for drinks one night. This was after the company X-mas party, where Thomas (FI) told my date how wonderful he thought I was, blahblahblah. My date was a little miffed that he'd had the nerve to say that, but of course he did it so that my date would tell me. So after that, I was pretty sure he felt the same way I did, and turns out I was right. He asked me to marry him that night, and we almost ran off to do it right then, but sensibility took over and we decided it probably wasn't a good idea. But we were inseparable from that moment on. I remember the first moment I realized I loved him, which wasn't but about a month after our first date. I hit me like a wave, out of nowhere. But I didn't say it - I didn't want to spook him since it was so soon. But less than a week later, he said it to me. And one year after our first date (and the first proposal) he got on one knee and gave me a ring. cliffs notes: I guess we both sorta knew even before we started dating.

chosen175

I knew we'd end up married the night of our first date.  I was wearing new pants and hadn't washed them first.  Some of the dye from the pants rubbed off and dyed a little spot on my underwear, which I didn't realize until I was back home.  I thought to myself "OK, well I'll just keep these and use them as my 'something blue' when we get married" - which was odd, because I had always been kind of anti-marriage.  But something in me was telling me that we'd end up married.  We have a little less than 9 months to go, and yes.... I still have my 'something blue' from all those years ago that I'll be wearing when I walk down the aisle.

bourgehm

I'm a very young bride- only 19... So, lots of people were like "you're too little." "You're not ready for this"... I knew he was the one for me when I was so certain I wanted to marry him that I didn't even care what other people thought. The moment I knew he was the one for me was after a summer together (he's finishing college, I'm a sophmor in college) and we had spent everyday together when i couldn't leave him. We cried for hours together about the fact that we were going to need to be away for a few months. I think the point I realized I wanted to marry him was then because I realized that I couldn't really live without him.

AnneAndJJ

Everyone has such varied answers here, I like it!Anyway, I thought I'd add my two cents: I think the feeling kind of just developed over time, but there were certain events that confirmed it. He understands some things that I've been through better than anyone else ever has, because he's also been through them, and he helps me talk about it. He and my Dad get along so well, and he has the ability to calm me down when I'm angry (which is no easy feat!). These are all things that came in time (and only a small piece of the puzzle), but definitely helped confirm to me that he is the one.

oceana919

I knew from almost day one that there was something very, very different about this relationship versus others I had been in previously, but it was right around the same time I realized I loved him, that I realized that I was going to spend the rest of my life with him. It wasn't this sudden a-ha moment, but it was a pretty quick realization.

smiling_tiger04

I think it was when I caught myself looking at rings online and coud see myself marrying him that I knew he was the one for me. Also, I couldn't think of  being with anyone else ever and every thought of the future included him in it.