Just a little confused

[Deleted User]

So my bf and I have been dating for almost a year but have been friends for 2 1/2 years. We live together and are very happy. One of his best friends has joked about putting together a pool of when we will get married. Here is the thing we have talked about our wedding. So far as location, we live in Belize but our family is around the world. Even as far as going to the fact of what style of wedding we will have. When his sister came to visit a few months ago she had me try on rings to see what ring size I am. So when I asked him last  night when we were going to get engaged he says. When the time is right.So since we have discussed November of 2010 as the wedding date should I start planning or should I just hold off.Sorry for ranting I am just confused?Any advise?

Acrosthec

Personally I would hold off.  If you've discussed November 2010 and his sister came to help you look at rings and get sized, the proposal is probably coming sometime soon.  Despite what a lot of people say, unless you live in an area where all the venues book up immediately, you don't necessarily need a whole year to plan a wedding.  We're hoping to plan ours in 6-7 months, and there are quite a few girls on this board that are doing/have done the same.  Good luck!

[Deleted User]

Thanks. I guess I am just a little nervous. Here on the island we have no wedding dress shops. So it would be a special trip to North America to find a dress. 

Acrosthec

Would you be getting married on the island?  Or in N.A. somewhere?  I would still wait until he proposed, but in your specific case, I may ask if you were going to be engaged by the New Year, or some other arbitrary deadline, just so you could take advantage of lower airfare by booking early if you're having to come to a different country to find a dress (or do anything else).

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We currently live on Ambergris Caye in the town of San Pedro. It is very beautiful here. We would love to have the wedding here as we have a large group of friends. However his family is from the UK and mine is in Europe, Canada and the USA. From Europe and the Canada currently there are no direct flights to Belize City then over to the island. So we have discussed getting married in Mexico as it is only a quick flight or drive for our friends here in Belize to Tulum or Merida and a direct flight from all the locations our families are from.  The dress is the hardest part I will be a first time bride but am currently 37 so I want to find an appropriate dress. I do have my 20th high school reunion in Canada in July 2010 but I think that would be risky to get a dress for a November wedding.

Acrosthec

Wow that sounds...complex.  Best of luck getting all that figured out.I agree, July for a November wedding is pushing it, especially if you're going to have to order a dress and get it altered (hopefully they have seamstresses in Belize that you can go to so you don't have to keep flying for fittings, etc.) instead of buying one off the rack.As long as you have open communication with your BF, which you should, I see no problem in discussing the difficulties of this with him so he knows what's going on and arranging to fly wherever you want to look at dresses sometimes after the holidays.  As long as you don't push him and he is still completely on board for November 2010, he should be accepting of the unique situation you are in regarding finding a dress.Best of luck!

arixana

Wow....I went to San Pedro, Belize for a vacation last year and thought it was absolutely beautiful. Couldn't imagine flying from that paradise to snowy Canada (where I live) to get married! lol However, I do believe from what you are telling me that your engagement is imminent. I would wait until the New Year- if no engagement yet, then I would have a talk with him. Or....are you close to his sister? Could you ask her if there's anything brewing? (Perhaps that's cheating, but hey)

magsugar13

We were on Ambergris Caye in July....it is absolutely gorgeous! You should definitely have your wedding somewhere on the island. You can't find a more gorgeous setting!  

my2geldings

Patience is a virtue *grin*Really, you don't want to know when the engagement is going to be, or it won't be a surprise! You've waited all your life for this moment, so let it happen when it will happen.You will have tonnes of time to plan for your wedding so I would hold off until you are at least engaged. I am also waiting for my ring, and I won't lie I'm pretty excited about it. I have cheated and started looking at dresses online to get ideas but as far as wedding planning goes, I don't want to put the cart ahead of the horse.Planning your wedding is going to be another very exciting time, so why not seriously plan it together once you are engaged :)Patience my dear, patience.

[Deleted User]

Thank you for all the advise. I agree San Pedro is a beautiful place to get married. Our reason for the Mexico is for our families direct flights and cheaper airfare. Trust me if the wedding was going to be here on the island. I would not have to worry as I know the best cake maker,  photographers, wedding planners and I know all the JP's on the island. Thank you for all the advise. I guess it was getting the better of me with all the conversations about the wedding that I just wanted it to be more concrete. You are right patients is the virtue. I guess at 37 and never been married before and always dreaming of a wedding it was getting the best of me.Also just a quick side note. Ambergris Caye is one of the most beautiful places in the world and that is why we love living here. I highly recommend it as a wedding location.

bekalinz

i completely agree with the PP's.  sounds like your engagement is coming sooner rather than later...so i would just hold off.i am in the same boat - i 'accidentally' found out the other day that he has contacted a jeweler!  (he had me check something in his email and i guess forgot that there was an email in there from the jeweler - i saw the subject line and then had to close immediately for fear i would open it and read it!  ha)  anyways - it is all i can do not to start looking at venues and flowers and photographers, etc!  haha  but we know it is soon - so just be patient and wait for it.  i try not to think about it too much (harder than it sounds!) so that i won't anticipate everytime we go out that something may happen   hang in there...you're not alone!