Frustrated... (Just venting)

KaitlinRich

Ok, so next week I have my finals for the semester and about a week ago my BF spilled and told me he bought the ring. I didn't really mind then because I knew I would find out anyway (he can't keep a secret to save his life but I love him for it). But now I am dying with anticipation! I know it will be before Christmas and I am thinking next week but now I am wishing he hadn't said anything... Is there anyone else kinda in this same situation?

BTW please don't lecture me on how "it ruins the suprise..." I have already gotten that from my sister. I really don't mind and it think it's sweet that he can't keep it in it is just waiting that drives me nuts... (I was one of those kids that would search till I found my parent's stash of christmas presents...) So again, anyone else like this?

AudgiePodge

So, if you're telling us what we can't say, what should we say?

bethsmiles

I don't get what you are frustrated over but the only advice I can give to you is to focus on your finals. Your BF will propose when he does so it doesn't help anything to obsess over it.

How do you know it will be before Christmas? Did he tell you that? If he didn't then its really best to not assume that because it only sets you up for disappointment. It's hard not knowing something like this but just keep your mid focused on other things (like your finals!) for now.

deburnin

Just because he has a ring, doesn't mean that he'll propose soon. BF has had a ring since the beginning of July. 

I also don't really why you're frustrated. Your BF bought a ring! That's not something to be frustrated about! For now just focus on your finals. It'll happen when it happens.

SeaTea02

I am actually in the exact same boat and I am hoping he proposes before/on Christmas. He said he was waiting until a day we both had off, no work and no school so hopefully that will be after finals :-)

Just try to concentrate on studying (I know it is easy for your mind to wander) and think about your nice long break and all the time you get to spend with family. Whether or not it happens, try and have a good break.

NatandIsaac

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[QUOTE]Ok, so next week I have my finals for the semester and about a week ago my BF spilled and told me he bought the ring. I didn't really mind then because I knew I would find out anyway (<strong>he can't keep a secret to save his life</strong> but I love him for it). But now I am dying with anticipation! I know it will be before Christmas and I am thinking next week but now I am wishing he hadn't said anything... Is there anyone else kinda in this same situation? BTW please don't lecture me on how "it ruins the suprise..." I have already gotten that from my sister. I really don't mind and it think it's sweet that he can't keep it in it is just waiting that drives me nuts... (I was one of those kids that would search till I found my parent's stash of christmas presents...) So again, anyone else like this?
Posted by KaitlinRich[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Clearly.</div><div>
</div><div>Just shut yourself up in the library until your finals are over. You'll regret it later if you were to distracted to do well on your exams.

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lahottie86

ME TOO!!! I found out he bought the ring yesterday and then he TOLD me today when i dropped him off  at work. its so frustrating lol. he just wanted to see me all excited and frustrated lol.
your boyfriend might be the same way. just wanting to see how happy you would get. good luck on not thinking about it. i cant stop thinking about even tho i know it might not be in the next couple of weeks. CONGRATSSS!!!!!!

crbutlr1

Hehehe! Well I'm kind of in the same situation. Since you are a student, just try to preoccupy yourself with your work and time will pass faster. If you are constantly thinking about it then it will seem like  a lifetime. 

CFar13

Focus on school. And when you  have free time, busy yourself. Go Christmas shopping, wrap gifts, sing, dance, whatever! Just be happy that he has it and be excited but not obsessed. :]

Narwhal

I'm in the same boat too, don't worry about it. BF already told me that he talked to my dad and it's going to happen sometime this week or next. Then again, before that he told me it would happen in early November, so we'll see.

I get all nervous everytime he bends down to tie his shoe now. Just concentrate on finals. That's the most important thing. You don't want to be distracted from that because you're too busy thinking about when he will propose. It will also keep you occupied enough that if he does propose, you will be surprised. 

I think frustrated was probably just a not-so-good word choice, so I won't say anything about that. 

It won't ruin the surprise by you knowing. You don't know when, what time, or how he's going to do it. 

I'm really terrible with surprises when I know their coming because they don't make me excited, just really nervous. He told me this last night when we were talking about it, I'm sure the same applies to your boyfriend. He said "Amy, I know you. I know you better than anyone else knows you. I won't do it at a time when you will be embarrassed or shy. I'll make it special for you, just let me handle it." That helped me calm down a little. 

HTH

SeaTea02

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[QUOTE]I'm in the same boat too, don't worry about it. BF already told me that he talked to my dad and it's going to happen sometime this week or next. Then again, before that he told me it would happen in early November, so we'll see. ;)<strong> I get all nervous everytime he bends down to tie his shoe now.</strong> Just concentrate on finals. That's the most important thing. You don't want to be distracted from that because you're too busy thinking about when he will propose. It will also keep you occupied enough that if he does propose, you will be surprised.  I think frustrated was probably just a not-so-good word choice, so I won't say anything about that.  It won't ruin the surprise by you knowing. You don't know when, what time, or how he's going to do it.  I'm really terrible with surprises when I know their coming because they don't make me excited, just really nervous. He told me this last night when we were talking about it, I'm sure the same applies to your boyfriend. He said "Amy, I know you. I know you better than anyone else knows you. I won't do it at a time when you will be embarrassed or shy. I'll make it special for you, just let me handle it." That helped me calm down a little.  HTH
Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]

HAHAHA funny :)

babybchbum

Dh had the ring for over a year before he proposed to me. Just because he has the ring doesn't mean the right moment will happen before Christmas or the new year. Relax and study for your finals.

bsidebella

....Is there an echo in here? I swear we JUST had a thread like this.

SeaTea02

Yeah, we did.

CASK85

The newbies like to come out and play on the weekends when we're not around. And ask us to predict when their proposals are coming.

KaitlinRich

Thanks for the encouragement ya'll! And for those who asked he HAS told me that it will be sometime in the next week and a half so I am not crazy or guessing. Actually he at my house right now asking my parent's permission! (My dad JOKINGLY told me that he would say yes so long as my BF could outrun a bullet... *JUST JOKING!* )

And for the others who are in the same boat good luck with your finals too, pre-congratulations, and thanks for the encouragement! I was just kinda down from studying and work being so quiet.

Thanks!

loves2shop4shoes

If it makes you feel better, I had a very good idea that FI would be proposing the weekend he proposed.  It was still a surprise when he did it because I didn't know EXACTLY when he would do it, or where he'd do it, or HOW he'd do it, or WHAT he'd say.

I was very pleasantly surprised.  It was a beautiful proposal.

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]I'm in the same boat too, don't worry about it. <strong>BF already told me that he talked to my dad and it's going to happen sometime this week or next</strong>. Then again, before that he told me it would happen in early November, so we'll see. ;) I get all nervous everytime he bends down to tie his shoe now. Just concentrate on finals. That's the most important thing. You don't want to be distracted from that because you're too busy thinking about when he will propose. It will also keep you occupied enough that if he does propose, you will be surprised.  I think frustrated was probably just a not-so-good word choice, so I won't say anything about that.  It won't ruin the surprise by you knowing. You don't know when, what time, or how he's going to do it.  I'm really terrible with surprises when I know their coming because they don't make me excited, just really nervous. He told me this last night when we were talking about it, I'm sure the same applies to your boyfriend. He said "Amy, I know you. I know you better than anyone else knows you. I won't do it at a time when you will be embarrassed or shy. I'll make it special for you, just let me handle it." That helped me calm down a little.  HTH
Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]

Ok, I know you posted about him talking to your dad, but I had no idea that you knew the proposal was coming that soon!  That's really exciting!

MLekathLEEN

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[QUOTE]I'm in the same boat too, don't worry about it.<strong> BF already told me that he talked to my dad and it's going to happen sometime this week or next</strong>. Then again, before that he told me it would happen in early November, so we'll see. ;) I get all nervous everytime he bends down to tie his shoe now. Just concentrate on finals. That's the most important thing. You don't want to be distracted from that because you're too busy thinking about when he will propose. It will also keep you occupied enough that if he does propose, you will be surprised.  I think frustrated was probably just a not-so-good word choice, so I won't say anything about that.  It won't ruin the surprise by you knowing. You don't know when, what time, or how he's going to do it.  I'm really terrible with surprises when I know their coming because they don't make me excited, just really nervous. He told me this last night when we were talking about it, I'm sure the same applies to your boyfriend. He said "Amy, I know you. I know you better than anyone else knows you. I won't do it at a time when you will be embarrassed or shy. I'll make it special for you, just let me handle it." That helped me calm down a little.  HTH
Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]


EEEEEEK!

Wrkn925

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[QUOTE]<strong>I get all nervous everytime he bends down to tie his shoe now.</strong> Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]

I, in no way, can relate to this.





Ok, maybe just a little... every once in awhile... gah.

BF made me dinner last week, homemade spaghetti and meatballs. (Love my little Italian man.)  Bought wine. (We <strong>NEVER </strong>drink wine.) Lit a candle, and bought an app for his phone that looks like a crackling fireplace. (lol...)
But, NEY girls were the voices in my head that told me to enjoy the moment, and I did.  And it was just that, a beautiful moment.

oceana919

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[QUOTE]So, if you're telling us what we can't say, what should we say?
Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]

This.

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Frustrated... (Just venting) : I, in no way, can relate to this. Ok, maybe just a little... every once in awhile... gah. BF made me dinner last week, homemade spaghetti and meatballs. (Love my little Italian man.)  Bought wine. (We NEVER drink wine.) Lit a candle, and bought an app for his phone that looks like a crackling fireplace. (lol...) But, NEY girls were the voices in my head that told me to enjoy the moment, and I did.  And it was just that, a beautiful moment.
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

Glad you enjoyed it anyway.  I would have been nuts.

Wrkn925

Elle, I had about two seconds of nuttiness, and I thought, "Crap! He put in all this effort and I'm not enjoying myself." So, I cooled it, and enjoyed the meal.

lnvane00

I'm kind of in the same situation! Me and the BF looked at rings last month (his idea) and i found the one i want! I KNOW he bought. I just know. And I have a feeling the proposal is going to be this month. I'm so excited but dont want to get my hopes up either. Even yesterday he brought up ..dun dun duuuun.. getting a Prenup. I was pretty freaked out, but i know he is just trying to protect the both of us in case anything were to happen.
So I'm taking it day by day and really hoping for a Christmas proposal. Or maybe even a New Years Eve proposal.
Good Luck all you NEY ladies! Hope we all get what we want!