parent as ceremony officiant?

meghraff

Is anyone planning on or had one of their parents serve as their ceremony officiant?  How did it work out?  My fiance would like to have his mother who is a licensed officiant perform our ceremony.  I worry that this would make my mother feel left out since my father is walking me down the aisle.  Any thoughts or suggestions?

aragx6

Have both your parents walk you down the aisle?

knix14

My father is a licensed pastor and he performed my sister's wedding ceremony last year. He was able to walk her down the aisle to "give her away" and also perfom the ceremony. My mother and BIL's parents were not involved in the ceremony but at one point, they all came on stage to pray with my sister and her husband.
My advice would be to ask your mother how she feels about the situation. Would she actually feel left out? If she indeed would feel that way, I have heard(it might be old school?) of a part in the ceremony where the mothers light the unity candles before the couple does.
But I would definitly talk to your mom and see how she feels. As for a parent officiating the ceremony, go for it! It adds a special element.

fpaemp2011

My FIL is a pastor and did our wedding.  It worked out beautifully, was exactly what we wanted, and no one else felt left out.

2012FutureMrsB

My dad is a pastor and will be performing the wedding, but not in his church - it will be in FI and I's church. Both my parents will be walking me down the aisle b/c I want both of them by my side. But first, my mom will be escorted down the center aisle to light our family candle, then escorted down the side aisle back to where I will be waiting. When it is my turn, my parents will walk me down the aisle and our pastor will do the opening part. After my parents "give me away" my dad will make his way around the side stage and move in during the prayer so he can do the rest of the ceremony.

(BTW, our pastor is totally ok with this - it was partially his idea).

So, you just gotta figure out the logistics and make it work for you. There is no "right or wrong" way, just something that flows well and works for you.

toothpastechica

My dad is a pastor, but will not be doing our wedding. He does lots of weddings and while he enjoys doing them, he also enjoys not having to the work associated with preparing for them, so I gave him a day off and and holiday where he just has to walk me down the asle (and is doing a special wedding prayer at the end of the ceremony) and not work on my wedding day or the days leading up to it. Talk to the parents potentially involved and see what they think before making any final decisions.  

myname1234

My step father is doing our wedding.  FI's dad is doing a reading.  The moms will get roses duirng the ceremony, and my uncle is giving me away.

We found something for everyone.

cjbpdeam

My mom is doing the ceremony, dad of course walking me down the isle. My FI's parents are pretty low key and won't feel out. Its nice having my mom do the ceremony cause then we can edit it however we want and she knows us as a couple very well.

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My MOH's father married her and her husband a few years back.  It was really adorable and sincere.

kcbee

My fiance's grandpa will be marrying us. I don't think anyone will feel left out - I think everyone will really enjoy it!

If you're worried about your mom, have her walk with you and your dad down the aisle.

meghraff

Thanks everyone!  I spoke with my mom and she said she will not feel left out.  MOB is a big deal on its own!