Poll: What are (or were) you looking forward to most? Edited with new question!

Elle1036

There's a lot that I'm looking forward to about getting engaged to BF.  There's the obvious, and most important, factor -- we get to spend the rest of our lives together, but, of the smaller more material things, I'm not sure what it is that I'm looking forward to most.  So I'm curious:  what are YOU looking forward to most?  Married ladies, answer as if you were still NEY.

Edit:  I am so loving all of the responses, but they've triggered another question.  The most popular response, by far, is the proposal, so...  is anyone just a tiny bit worried that they will be disappointed by theirs?  I know, I know...  the important thing about the proposal is that you decide you will spend the rest of your lives together, and how it happens and what he says are minor details; you will love him no matter what and be thrilled no matter what.  Still, doesn't anyone worry that maybe you've built up your expectations so much that the real thing will be a little underwhelming?  Already-engaged ladies: did any of you experience this?

AudgiePodge

The ring. Yeah, I went there.

I can't wait for the moment he asks. That, undoubtedly, will be a wonderful moment, but it's just that: A moment. It'll be a nice memory, but the ring I will get to wear forever and will always be a constant reminder of when he asked me.

nefariousmango

I'm still looking forward to a honeymoon someday, lol!

bethsmiles

I'm very excited for him to propose. He knows I'm a hopeless romantic and I know he is going to go all out and give me a big, romantic proposal.

I don't wear a lot of jewelry so I'm not super excited for the ring (I do want one though)

I think my mom and I are going to butt heads a lot when it comes to the wedding planning. I know its going to frustrate both of us so I'm both looking forward to it and dreading it.

I think telling people almost ties with the proposal moment. I know we will have a lot of support from family and friends.

As for the ceremony, reception, and honeymoon; I am looking forward to all of those. Its so far off though at this point.

sapphirebaby926

I was most looking forward to how he was going to propose. The ring wasn't a big deal for me so I was curious about what he was planning to do. I was so certain that I'd see it coming but he surprised me - the story is in my planning bio : )

Elle1036

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_poll-were-looking-forward?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:227ea0e6-c192-49fb-9371-0f5667655a44Post:66a756aa-2ccb-4872-8838-5d66dc41ced4">Re: Poll: What are (or were) you looking forward to most?</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>I'm very excited for him to propose. He knows I'm a hopeless romantic and I know he is going to go all out and give me a big, romantic proposal.</strong> I don't wear a lot of jewelry so I'm not super excited for the ring (I do want one though) I think my mom and I are going to butt heads a lot when it comes to the wedding planning. I know its going to frustrate both of us so I'm both looking forward to it and dreading it. I think telling people almost ties with the proposal moment. I know we will have a lot of support from family and friends. As for the ceremony, reception, and honeymoon; I am looking forward to all of those. Its so far off though at this point.
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

Me too.

zipis1

I put the proposal, but still felt a little uncomfortable with it. I'm most looking forward to being married to him so I felt like I was lying a bit. However, the moment he asks me to marry him I suppose would be a good second. :P

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]I was most looking forward to how he was going to propose. The ring wasn't a big deal for me so I was curious about what he was planning to do. I was so certain that I'd see it coming but he surprised me - the story is in my planning bio : )
Posted by sapphirebaby926[/QUOTE]

Haha!  Cute story, and great ring.  I wanted a sapphire for a while, but BF didn't want it to be mistaken for a birthstone ring.  :-/

Elle1036

Zipis -- yeah, I was looking for the superficial answers on this one!

sapphirebaby926

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[QUOTE]I put the proposal, but still felt a little uncomfortable with it. I'm most looking forward to being married to him so I felt like I was lying a bit. However, the moment he asks me to marry him I suppose would be a good second. :P
Posted by zipis1[/QUOTE]

Me too - I was very excited to be married to DH. We actually talked about JOP'ing it before he proposed because of our job situations at the time but decided we would wait and I'm glad we did. We had a wonderful wedding and celebrating that moment with all our friends and family was important to us.

sapphirebaby926

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Poll: What are (or were) you looking forward to most? : Haha!  Cute story, and great ring.  I wanted a sapphire for a while, but BF didn't want it to be mistaken for a birthstone ring.  :-/
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

Thanks : ) I love my ring too but I will say some people do think it's just a ring and are surprised when they hear I'm married. The fact that I look a lot younger than I am probably plays into that as well.

Elle1036

I have that problem, too.  I still get carded at Rated R movies, sometimes, so I can just imagine the looks I'll get once I'm wearing an engagement ring.

sapphirebaby926

I get carded for everything - I work at a grocery store currently and my co-workers still card me. I thought I had gotten past the whole I'm not that young thing anymore with them. *sigh*

Zinnecker09

I said the proposal...he's very creative and I love love love it when he talks about our future together - it always puts a smile on my face and I get so excited!

I would say the ring otherwise...

deburnin

I'm going with the proposal too because without it none of the other stuff can happen.

And at being carded- Yeah, I'm 23 and get carded for R-Rated movies. It's a PIA. People say I'll enjoy it when I'm older but right now it's frustrating. I even had a patron at work tell me I looked way too young to be working there and that she wanted someone else to help her. 

zipis1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_poll-were-looking-forward?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:227ea0e6-c192-49fb-9371-0f5667655a44Post:708cb97c-f86e-4071-ba36-ec8ae3cb9e3d">Re: Poll: What are (or were) you looking forward to most?</a>:
[QUOTE]Zipis -- yeah, I was looking for the superficial answers on this one!
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

Oh I know. I was just reflecting on the fact that I had trouble answering without feeling like a big liar :P

desertsun

It's ALL good! I think I was equally as excited for the proposal, wedding, and honeymoon. But most of all I just wanted to be married -- and it's better than I hoped.

jemmini6

I put the proposal.  We had talked about getting married so much and we both knew it was going to happen, but the proposal is when it was 'real'.  (didn't make our relationship real, because it already was, but just the 'it wasn't just talk' kind of real).  I was also looking forward to wearing the ring, not because it's blingy jewelry, but because of what it means.  I like that people who don't know me can look at my hand and know that I have someone who loves me (and no, not by the size of the ring)

Other than that, I am actually not really looking forward to planning the wedding.   I would totally elope or just do a small DW if one, my parents could afford to go and two, if I thought I wouldn't regret not having everyone there later.

loopy82

I had been eagerly awaiting the actual proposal. Then I became quite certain as to when it was going to happen so I kind of ruined the suprise. I was looking forward to seeing the ring, but I did have a ring he had purchased for my birthday (not a promis ring) that I always wore on my left hand so I was used to that. I was very much looking forward to the dress shopping, the planning and the wedding, then of course being married. I was always convinced (from about age 15 or so) that I would never get married.

mookow86

It's hard to pick just one...but I said the honeymoon because I've always wanted to go to Norway and we plan to go there. The moment of the proposal would probably be my second choice. I tend to figure out surprises, so I don't think it will actually be a surprise, but I'm sure it will be special and emotional anyway.

calindi

Everything?  But mostly just being able to call him my fiance and making plans to make him my husband.  I'm sick of explaining to people that yes, we're living together and yes, we're planning to get married but not quite yet.  So while he and I both know when we plan to get married, regardless of when we actually get engaged sometime in the next year, it will be nice to actually have the "fiance/fiancee" titles.

PaigeMcC

EVERYTHING!!

The proposal was so "us" and silly...the ring is beautiful...I love planning with him...our honeymoon to HAWT Cuba will be FANTASTIC...our ceremony will be special...marrying him will be AMAZING.

Starlight Kel

I put the proposal.  I don't live with my boyfriend so I'd have to say I'm really looking forward to waking up to him every day the most.  I feel like I'm going to go nuts before this happens because I hate only seeing him on weekends but we are both students and we just don't make enough money to live together. 

HeartOverMind

I am definitely looking forward to how he proposes. That is going to be the most beautiful moment of the whole experience, for me...and for him too. *huge sigh*

HeartOverMind

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[QUOTE]I put the proposal.  <strong>I don't live with my boyfriend so I'd have to say I'm really looking forward to waking up to him every day the most.</strong>  I feel like I'm going to go nuts before this happens because I hate only seeing him on weekends but we are both students and we just don't make enough money to live together. 
Posted by Starlight Kel[/QUOTE]

THIS!! (and the proposal)
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MLekathLEEN

I can't wait to live with FI and make him awesomely craptastic meals that he has to eat so it doesn't hurt my feelings!!!

calindi

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[QUOTE]I don't live with my boyfriend so I'd have to say I'm really looking forward to waking up to him every day the most.
Posted by Starlight Kel[/QUOTE]

Haha... I live with my boyfriend and I still don't wake up to him every day!  I look forward to weekends when we sleep in the same bed, but it's just best for both of us (and we both are better rested) to sleep in different rooms since he gets up so early and I go to bed after him.  But I do love sleeping next to him - now we can enjoy it when we do sleep together rather than both being frustrated we're not getting enough sleep during the week.

But I'm super excited for our vacation when we'll spend 8 nights in a row sleeping next to each other!

noelle24

I was (and still am) looking forward to being in the same zipcode.

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Poll: What are (or were) you looking forward to most? : Haha... I live with my boyfriend and I still don't wake up to him every day!  I look forward to weekends when we sleep in the same bed,<strong> but it's just best for both of us (and we both are better rested) to sleep in different rooms since he gets up so early and I go to bed after him.  But I do love sleeping next to him</strong> - now we can enjoy it when we do sleep together rather than both being frustrated we're not getting enough sleep during the week. But I'm super excited for our vacation when we'll spend 8 nights in a row sleeping next to each other!
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

I tried for years (before this long distance thing happened) to convince BF that we should have separate bedrooms.  I enjoy sleeping next to him, but he is a lot "cuddlier" than I am, and suffocates me sometimes.  I really just need a couple nights to myself each week, to catch up on that quality sleep.

motoLyn

I honestly look forward to the moment that I stand up there and get to look him right in the eye and say "I do" with all our friends and family on a beautiful beach at sunset.  Its a 50/50 chance I'll be balling or smiling till my face gets sore.

Bec20

I can't quite decide between the proposal or the wedding ceremony.  I am really looking forward to both of them.  Sure, I'm also looking forward to wearing the ring all the time, but the other two are definitely higher up than that.

While he is not usually super romantic, he really surprised me recently.  My birthday was on the 20th and he told me that we're going away this weekend coming up to a couple's resort a few hours away.  I definitely wasn't expecting that, even though I had guessed that we'd be going out of town.  Now that I know he could pull off being very romantic and surprise me at the same time, I want to see what he comes up with when the time comes.

Maybe even more that that, I can't wait to say our vows in front of everybody.