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    becunning2becunning2 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:deed105d-9b8f-418c-a423-27c5a7b3b2df">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? :  I'm a nervous babbler. I say all kinds of random, stupid crap. It's only after I know people better that I feel comfortable not saying very much. I'm not really all that much of a talker.
    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

    Oh god, me too. It's awful. I had a terrible, terrible, terrible interview to wait tables once (I like to think I've improved) where they did that whole "stare at you and be silent" interview thing... let's just say it imploded and I didn't get the job. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />
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    hetshuphetshup member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:1d38ae68-20df-4416-9663-52a45db7a8f5">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : More like on this board.  Next time I promise to post it on light poles though. And preferably alive.  Because what good is wine when you're dead? And now I want a gin and tonic.  Is that bad?
    Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>Yes, but only because tonic is nasty. </div><div>
    </div><div>I don't remember getting babbled at Desert. I was rocking my own awkwardness. Poor Mr Desert, he was probably thinking he was in loony land. </div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:cbd582f1-8088-4873-84ba-5104c91f542f">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : Absolutely not.  KUI myself...
    Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]

    <div>Cheers, SKP.  To fighting off the BSC and keeping the spirit of the OG alive while they aren't here.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:9faae734-eaf5-4d0c-b013-8d51e561cd8c">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : Cheers, SKP.  To fighting off the BSC and keeping the spirit of the OG alive while they aren't here.
    Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

    I'll raise my glass to that one, Peek. 

    I still have a lot to learn from the OG, though.  I don't really think I can do them justice.  They just need to come back.  For good.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:2d10acf5-2449-4350-bfab-86fbf24d36d4">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Why is paint back? I thought we ran you off a long time ago.
    Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]

    Ummm... I've used the wart joke....

    Evil is hard to kill?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:30f1d392-6422-4bbe-9d43-1313821ab5ac">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : I'll raise my glass to that one, Peek.  I still have a lot to learn from the OG, though.  I don't really think I can do them justice.  They just need to come back.  For good.
    Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]

    <div>Well, obvi.  But we'll give it our best shot.  Until they come to their senses and get their butts back.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:a16f4e76-739a-467d-a745-2988c3345b2e">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : Yes, but only because tonic is nasty.  I don't remember getting babbled at Desert. I was rocking my own awkwardness. Poor Mr Desert, he was probably thinking he was in loony land. 
    Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ha I think Mr. Desert was just glad you weren't a creepy 40 year old man!</div><div>
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    paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:c428091d-271a-437e-9f0d-132383dd503a">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : Well, obvi.  But we'll give it our best shot.  Until they come to their senses and get their butts back.
    Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

    :) I'm not sure I'd be back on a regular basis. There are still a handful of wack-a-doodles with NEYers firmly up their *ss (although I've seen a few solid attempts at driving the crazy out of a few gals). I'd end up being a b*tch again. It's probably best if I just pop by now and then. :)
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    TheMutleysTheMutleys
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:c428091d-271a-437e-9f0d-132383dd503a">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : Well, obvi.  But we'll give it our best shot.  Until they come to their senses and get their butts back.
    Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

    I keep trying to come back, but the vibe isn't right anymore.  Obviously, I am too harsh for the newer posters.  
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    paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:f19bc1cb-ac2f-487c-8dec-a9da80453055">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : I keep trying to come back, but the vibe isn't right anymore.  Obviously, I am too harsh for the newer posters.  
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

    I've heard you're an uppity b*tch. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-innocent.gif" border="0" alt="Innocent" title="Innocent" /> WAY too aggressive for rainbow world.
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    jeanacorinajeanacorina
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    Hetshup met my mom. LOL
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:f19bc1cb-ac2f-487c-8dec-a9da80453055">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : I keep trying to come back, but the vibe isn't right anymore.  Obviously, I am too harsh for the newer posters.  
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

    <div>Now that I'm KUI, I just want you to know that I love it when you're harsh, and it gives me complete reason to be an absolute biitch to those stupid girls with their BSC.  Because I'm not the only one.</div><div>
    </div><div>I love you.  Please be here.  We can be the change that this board needs.  TOGETHER.</div>
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    TheMutleysTheMutleys
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:1a02f4e8-71da-49d7-b0c8-a5b07b10477a">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : Now that I'm KUI, I just want you to know that I love it when you're harsh, and it gives me complete reason to be an absolute biitch to those stupid girls with their BSC.  Because I'm not the only one.

    I love you.  Please be here.  We can be the change that this board needs.  TOGETHER.
    Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

    Well, it seems that being honest with 'regulars' is no longer allowed.  There used to be a time where you just told people what was up, no matter how long they had been around or how many posts they had.  

    The BSC is palpable in here a lot of days.  It is effing scary. 
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    I seriously have to say that I don't mind the thread jacking one bit! it's so nice to hear about you ladies and the 'good ole days'... I really wish people would be a bit more blunt and use more innuendos around here...
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    peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:fff418eb-110c-4b5a-aaaf-b386a90231ca">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : Well, it seems that being honest with 'regulars' is no longer allowed.  There used to be a time where you just told people what was up, no matter how long they had been around or how many posts they had.   The BSC is palpable in here a lot of days.  It is effing scary. 
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

    <div>Dude, I'll cut someone.</div><div>
    </div><div>But in all seriousness, I agree.  It's part of why I feel like I'm lurking more and posting less.  I don't feel like I"m allowed to get all crazy and like "OMG WHAT THE HELLL ARE YOU DOING?!?!?!?!?!?!" on people like it used to be.</div><div>
    </div><div>Also, I meant to tell you, we changed the paint color.  I think we're painting my room Wednesday.  I'm really excited.  It's still dark, just more greige.  I'm beyond pumped about it.</div>
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    paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:256159c5-2413-474d-a8eb-fda982c43d26">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I really wish people would ... use more innuendos around here...
    Posted by CLR+VCR[/QUOTE]

    Oh yeah? I was post 69 on this thread. And I was excited about it. I even did a fist pump. YEAH!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:fff418eb-110c-4b5a-aaaf-b386a90231ca">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : Well, it seems that being honest with 'regulars' is no longer allowed.  There used to be a time where you just told people what was up, no matter how long they had been around or how many posts they had.   The BSC is palpable in here a lot of days.  It is effing scary. 
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]<div>This is some of the reason why I don't post as often anymore.  Yeah, I have to read through everything, but I find myself "biting my tongue" so to speak, because the vibe of the board isn't the same as to what drew me into it in the first place.</div><div>
    </div><div>I understand that dynamics and things change, but it doesn't mean that I don't long for what I thought made this board awesome in the first place.

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    TheMutleysTheMutleys
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:c5f7186d-5953-43f3-8788-6b2501164fab">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : Oh yeah? I was post 69 on this thread. And I was excited about it. I even did a fist pump. YEAH!
    Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

    I bet you pumped something else too.
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    paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:a2d27983-05a4-4afe-b46a-c17839bbfa0e">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : I bet you pumped something else too.
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

    No, it was a fist.

    DOH!!!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:fffcd05e-4bbe-4bdd-85a9-663374fbc5c7">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : No, it was a fist. DOH!!!
    Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]
    Some people are (get) into that.
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    TheMutleysTheMutleys
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:6c8e8ec2-16c9-41aa-9f02-93dd6514e162">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : Some people are (get) into that.
    Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]


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    (Oh wait, some people are into that too.)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:6c8e8ec2-16c9-41aa-9f02-93dd6514e162">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : Some people are (get) into that.
    Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]

    <div>What can I say?  Sometimes even the biggest just isn't big enough.</div>
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    IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    All I can say is I adore you ladies.

    Mutley, Desert, Audgie, I <3<3<3 it when you are b!tches and put people in their place. It needs to be done, even if it is towards myself. Reality checks need to be given.

    I came to TK because I was BSC, and lurked for a while, and the ladies here slapped me around and made me come to my senses...and I love them for that.
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    paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    Dreamer you scared me. We had another dreamer that was incurably BSC. Amusing, but BSC.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:fff418eb-110c-4b5a-aaaf-b386a90231ca">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: what made you come to TK? : <strong>Well, it seems that being honest with 'regulars' is no longer allowed.  There used to be a time where you just told people what was up, no matter how long they had been around or how many posts they had. </strong>  The BSC is palpable in here a lot of days.  It is effing scary. 
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

    This is what I was trying to say before. 

    I guess I need to step up since this is my complaint.  I vow to say what I'm thinking more when I read BSC posts by anyone (newb or reg).
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    DanieKADanieKA member
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    Now I'm curious, why does everyone think some of the regs, or newer regs get away with BSC behavior now when they wouldn't have before? 

    Is it a general change in the tone of the board? Because if people like you IRL or are friendly with you off the board/on FB they're more willing to give you a pass on the board? If you have a high post count, people are afraid to question you or knock some sense into you in a blunt manner? I know there's a lot of newish regular posters (myself included) so it's hard to immediately identify which ones are engaged or not right off the bat, so that makes it hard to tame the BSC. It sometimes takes till mid-thread before someone realizes the poster isn't engaged yet and to stop talking about wedding hairstyles/seasons/venues/colors/etc.

    Some newer regs will say "if you don't like my posts, don't visit my threads" and others will back them up on that, I'm assuming, b/c they are friends. But previous regs, who have said that in the past and were less liked (I'm remembering one particular military bride, to name names without naming names) and the regs will say "it's a public internet board. Anyone can read or post what they like in any thread and you take it or stop posting."

    Does the board need to have a come to Jesus talk? I'm kidding, this is not that serious, but I am still curious as to why people think they've had to bite their tongues or why the BSC in some people has been allowed to thrive (I don't see it so much with total newbs, but more semi-regular to regular posters).


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    jeanacorinajeanacorina
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    I think that the tone of the board rotates and changes as new people come and go. Back in the day when I arrived (and was totally rocking the BSC), people were HARSH. Like, everyone was a Mutley. Tongue out

    As I stuck around, and folks like Acro and Desert and even Mutley and all the other "OG" as you guys call us, we weren't ALL harsh. Some of us tried to give newbs the benefit of the doubt and be helpful without being too harsh (me), some of us responded to newbies with an iron fist of doom and took a while to warm up to new people (Mutley). Some were the voice of reason in the middle (Desert, aka the fulcrum).

    We had a good balance, but we were honest. If you bought wedding shoes before you were engaged, or pretended to be "engaged without a ring" just to go visit venues, we called you out. If I was dumb and edging close to BSC, I could count on Hetshup or Mutley or Narwhal to say "Woah, girl. Come back down to the real world with everyone else." And they did. And I did the same for them.

    As we migrated away one by one, new posters became regulars. They held a different view- when you're a reg, your friends support you. Even if that means supporting a little BSC. Not everyone had this view, obviously. But enough people that it became the board norm. And as the OG, who valued honesty even when it hurt and could still remain close friends, were outnumbered I think we started feeling like it was too much effort to post "Dude, you're acting like a loon" only to have half the board jump down our throats for being harsh to someone they liked.

    I'm not saying it's wrong, because I'm not a reg anymore and it's not "my" board. Society dictates its own norms. NEY is, in a lot of ways, its own society. Each generation rebels against the previous one. Maybe the norm here is changing again, since many of you seem to be feeling reminiscent. That's up to you. If you want an honest board with a kickin' sense of humor and friends who will call you on your crap... then make it that way. And if that happens I might come visit more often. Cool

    I'll even post nonsensical mayhem once in a while if you're into that.
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    And, for those of you who don't know me, THAT ^^^ is a "jeana-length" post. Innocent
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_made-come-tk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:270dd8ce-a7ad-4560-a83d-deceeeb6c54cPost:0c228e02-f229-4ba8-aa59-43afc247bfb2">Re: what made you come to TK?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think that the tone of the board rotates and changes as new people come and go. Back in the day when I arrived (and was totally rocking the BSC), people were HARSH. Like, everyone was a Mutley. As I stuck around, and folks like Acro and Desert and even Mutley and all the other "OG" as you guys call us, we weren't ALL harsh. Some of us tried to give newbs the benefit of the doubt and be helpful without being too harsh (me), some of us responded to newbies with an iron fist of doom and took a while to warm up to new people (Mutley). Some were the voice of reason in the middle (Desert, aka the fulcrum). We had a good balance, but we were honest. If you bought wedding shoes before you were engaged, or pretended to be "engaged without a ring" just to go visit venues, we called you out. If I was dumb and edging close to BSC, I could count on Hetshup or Mutley or Narwhal to say "Woah, girl. Come back down to the real world with everyone else." And they did. And I did the same for them. As we migrated away one by one, new posters became regulars. They held a different view- when you're a reg, your friends support you. Even if that means supporting a little BSC. Not everyone had this view, obviously. But enough people that it became the board norm. And as the OG, who valued honesty even when it hurt and could still remain close friends, were outnumbered I think we started feeling like it was too much effort to post "Dude, you're acting like a loon" only to have half the board jump down our throats for being harsh to someone they liked. I'm not saying it's wrong, because I'm not a reg anymore and it's not "my" board. Society dictates its own norms. NEY is, in a lot of ways, its own society. Each generation rebels against the previous one. Maybe the norm here is changing again, since many of you seem to be feeling reminiscent. That's up to you. If you want an honest board with a kickin' sense of humor and friends who will call you on your crap... then make it that way. And if that happens I might come visit more often. I'll even post nonsensical mayhem once in a while if you're into that.
    Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Jeez, Jeana.  Always a novel.

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