Beside myself: Update

SopChick

I agree with the PPs about the sub job. Every teacher I know (obviously in Canada, not the States) has started as a supply or long-term sub. If you can find a way to make the finances tolerable I really think it would help advance his career. I know it won't be ideal financially now, but hopefully it would be a step towards a better financial situation in the future. Also, as PPs have said, could he get a part-time job to help make ends meet? Something like a coffee shop or retail would have flexible hours, or if he could do some tutoring it would be flexible and at least be somewhat related for his resume.

Is there someone your BF could contact about whether long-term subs get some type of health coverage? Even if it's not as much as his unemployment gives him, it's still something.

wink0erin

Is it possible for him to borrow any money from his parents/other family, look into a different shot that is less expensive (it's ridiculous that companies can charge that much =( or work an extra job while long-term subbing?

Like the PP's have said, it is probably better for both of your futures if your BF tries to accept the subbing position (if they will have him) and explain he was worried about paying for this one medication since it's rather expensive. Otherwise who knows when something else might come along, and if it gets around that he turned down the job twice other places may be wary to hire him in the future. Plus unemployment pay won't last.

There's also the possibility of raising money to pay for the shots while he is long-term subbing, fundraisers or finding someplace online that helps raise money for medical needs. May take some creativity but with NEY by your side I'm sure we could come up with some ideas.

lennonkdc

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[QUOTE]Is it possible for him to borrow any money from his parents/other family, look into a different shot that is less expensive (it's ridiculous that companies can charge that much =( or work an extra job while long-term subbing? Like the PP's have said, it is probably better for both of your futures if your BF tries to accept the subbing position (if they will have him) and explain he was worried about paying for this one medication since it's rather expensive. Otherwise who knows when something else might come along, and if it gets around that he turned down the job twice other places may be wary to hire him in the future. Plus unemployment pay won't last. <strong>There's also the possibility of raising money to pay for the shots while he is long-term subbing, fundraisers or finding someplace online that helps raise money for medical needs. </strong>May take some creativity but with NEY by your side I'm sure we could come up with some ideas.
Posted by wink0erin[/QUOTE]

<div>Has BF looked into this? I'm sure that there must be a foundation for people with this sort of issue. Maybe they could put you in touch with more trails, or help him find a way to defray the cost of the shots. </div><div>
</div><div>Every teacher I know started by doing sub work, either long or short term. With the economy the way it is, he's going to have to take a LT sub job if he wants to teach. It would be a good idea to start looking into a way to afford his shots without govt assistance now, so that he doesn't have to turn down an other good opportunity.</div><div>
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Bett2012

Not sure about where you live, but where I live, you take any chance you can get to get any sort of job in a district... teacher's with out a full time contract job can't afford to be prideful and deem a job 'not good enough' for them.. we take ANYTHING we can get.. some even volunteer in schools until their name is known and they can actually get an interview.

hopefully it all works out, but please build up your BF and let him know that stepping stones are great, and probably necessary, he can't just jump to the end now. (maybe he's scared of being a failure and having to tell you or others that "i just got the sub job, not the full thing".. try to get rid of those insecurities!)

good luck

desertsun

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[QUOTE]I read through all of this an I completely agree with what Liv originally said, about the sub position being a trial period for a full time job offer. If nothing else, a godo start to his teaching resume. I think he should take the sub position, and if need be, one of you pick up a second job to get through this crazy time in your life unti he has a full-time teaching job. I'm not sure about MI, but in the state of AZ a teaching position is on contract, and it is renewed every year. So in reality, no teaching position is ever really permanent. I'm sorry about all your money stress, that can be so hard, especially around the holidays.
Posted by NurseyK[/QUOTE]

I agree with all of this.

I wouldn't see the job offer as a slap in the face at all. If he has never had a full time teaching position, I don't think it is unreasonable at all to offer a long term sub position instead of a full time teaching position. Sometimes rave reviews are not enough if you don't have the experience they're looking for. So GET that experience, however you can.

I think you guys should both look into what it would take in terms of 2nd jobs to cover your costs while he's in the sub position.

Or consider moving in with his parents.

Short term pain is worth long term gain.

IrishDreamer

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Beside myself: Update : I agree with all of this. I wouldn't see the job offer as a slap in the face at all. If he has never had a full time teaching position, I don't think it is unreasonable at all to offer a long term sub position instead of a full time teaching position. Sometimes rave reviews are not enough if you don't have the experience they're looking for. So GET that experience, however you can. I think you guys should both look into what it would take in terms of 2nd jobs to cover your costs while he's in the sub position. Or consider moving in with his parents. Short term pain is worth long term gain.
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

We talked about it and we think that they did the interview process to get the teacher's union of their case - then at the end of the school year, are going to eliminate the position all together.

They did the similar thing at one of the other schools in the area.

As for moving in with his parents - not an option really, either. He joked about it with them, and they were NOT having it.

We will figure it out. It's just going to suck for a while... perhaps a long while, who knows....

dwest2201

have you considered contacting the company that manufactures the shot?  I know on some of the commercials they have a littler blurb at the end that says if you cannot afford your medication, ___ may be able to help. 

Also, do you fill the prescription at a local pharmacy?  If you do see if they have a prescription discount card.  Walgreens has one that gives a discount of 50% or more.  BF's dog was given some medication that was over $400 a month, for 3 months recently and he was in shock when the lady rang it up.  She then explained the card which costs $20 and now the prescription is $50/mo. 

I would definitely look into these and anything else that might make accepting the offer possible.  I think that it would help his spirits to have a teaching job at a school that he wants to work at, even if it's just a long-term sub position. 

Peaseblossom55

Im so sorry to hear about all of this Irish, my mom works in a school district and my sister is a special ed. teacher, it took her almost a year to find a job and my brother who just graduated in may could not find a teaching job and had to take an assistant job in a special education class.

As others said the l-term sub is a foot in the door, it may be worth the struggle for a bit or some part time jobs to help defray the costs of the shots.