Not Engaged Yet

Peace Out...

I'm saying my piece. If someone thinks that's self-righteous/uppity/b*tchy/whatever, that's their perogative.

I started posting on this board two years ago. Since then, this board (and the women on it) have become a significant part of my life. You've seen me through good times and bad. I've been with you guys through the first anniversary of my grandmother's passing, my grandfather's cancer diagnosis, my endo diagnosis, two surgeries, my struggle with depression, my sister's wedding, and my own engagement. I've always felt like I could come here, because sometimes, you just need to go somewhere (for the good or the bad) where you feel like you can get unbiased, honest feedback.

In a forum like this, there's bound to be drama. You throw dozens of different women of different ages, backgrounds, maturity levels and sensibilities, and you're bound to have clashes now and then.

Up until last night, there was not a single person on this board that I genuinely disliked. Unfortunately, I think a lot of people showed their true colors last night, and I can't honestly back up my original statement anymore.

Sure, there are always certain posters that annoy me at times, or rub me the wrong way, however you want to word it...but again, that's bound to happen in a forum such as this. Even with those posters, I tried to give the best feedback I could. Sure, sometimes it was snarky. Sometimes, it wasn't puppies and rainbows. But you always got honest feedback from me, which (to me, at least) is worth 10x more than the bullsh*t that most people will feed each other. And I always, even in my snark, tried to treat people with some basic level of respect.

Yes, this board can get snippy/snarky sometimes. Yes, sometimes there's drama. But what went down last night over what was intended to be a genuinely innocent thread was unnecessary, immature, hateful, and downright disgusting. And I can't be a part of that.

I would shout out all you girls whose commentary/advice/friendship/etc have meant something to me over the last two years, but that would take me forever (there's so damn many of you, lol), and most of you know how I feel about you already. I do, however, want to address two particular individuals. You want to think I'm a follower or an asskisser for that, that's your perogative.

Ana - You speak from your heart. You are honestly one of the sweetest, most genuine girls I know. And I can say that, because I actually do know you. I'm so glad we've gotten to know each other, and that ricky and I have another Knottie to pal around with down here. :)

Mut - you may be blunt, you may be snarky, but you're always honest. And you're genuine. I honestly don't know how I would have gotten through the difficulties over the last year if it hadn't been for your support, feedback and friendship. I'm so thankful to consider you a friend.

I could lay a lot of people's sh*t bare here too, but all that's going to do is perpetuate the bullsh*t from last night. All I can tell those folks is that I wish you the best of luck in life.

A lot of you know how to find me outside of TK. You'll probably still see me around the other boards I post on (if you really want to find me), but I think this is it for me and NEY.

Peace out ladies.

Image and video hosting by TinyPic

"Oceana swings from logical to anus punching." - Buttons

Planning / Married / Blog

«1

Re: Peace Out...

  • tafft1tafft1 member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    *hugs*
    Photobucket Anniversary www.MyVacationCountdown.com Ticker LilySlim Weight loss tickers
  • MidniteRaeMidniteRae member
    Fifth Anniversary 1000 Comments 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    *hugs*
    "You must stay drunk on writing so reality cannot destroy you." -Ray Bradbury 
  • edited December 2011
    Hugs
    TTC since 07/11 Me: 32 AO PCOS/DH: 32 Lowish count/motility IUI#1-3 = BFN (Clomid, Clomid-->Femara, Injects) IVF#1 ER on 9/24 19 ER/19 M/9 F w/ICSI Transferred a 5AA and a 5BB on 9/29 Beta 10/9 = 139 Beta 10/11 = 287
    imageimageAlternaTickers - Cool, free Web tickers

    My Blog

  • edited December 2011
    good riddance!


    hehe jk PPH you


    I'm starting to feel the same way. I'll stay on the other boards because I have no freaking clue what I'm doing with planning a wedding, but my time here will be very limited.
    Anniversary
  • edited December 2011
    I wish everyone wouldn't GBCK. I know a few others are considering it and I really think everyone would give it a few days. 

    Every single poster brings something different to the table and I don't want anyone to leave. Oceana and everyone else considering leaving, know for one reason or another you will be missed. 

    Daisypath Wedding tickers
  • PandaBurrPandaBurr member
    1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Looks like everyone is going the way of the Panda.

    <3 you oceana
  • motoLynmotoLyn member
    2500 Comments Fourth Anniversary 100 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry that i didn't get a chance to get to know you more.  I'm always happy to meet another person that's into diving and has a love for the big blue.  Good luck on your wedding and I'm sorry to hear that you're leaving. 
  • edited December 2011
    I'm so sorry to hear this, oceana. Honestly, I'm crushed. I wish it didn't happen, any of it, and it makes me so sad. You'll be missed, that's for sure.

    image 170 Invited (holy crap!)

    image 98 are coming to party!

    image 29 have other plans

    image 43 need to respond!

    Daisypath Wedding tickers

    "Bside - You're just too sexy for your own good" ~ leia1979

    "True love = I still love you even though we hang out all the time and most other people would be tired of each other already" ~ flygirlmeg
  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
    2500 Comments Second Anniversary 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    This makes me sad.
    I'm not good at feelings.

    image
  • MLekathLEENMLekathLEEN member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Bye buddy. :(
  • Hazel_BHazel_B member
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I wasn't around last night, so this morning was quite the surprise when I came to the board.

    FWIW Oceana, I know I'm not in your close circle but I have a respect for you and the advice you've given. Since I don't really frequent other boards I'm not sure how much I'll see you, but I wish you great wedding planning in the upcoming months and a wonderful wedding.
  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
    5000 Comments 25 Love Its Second Anniversary Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_peace-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:31dfe2eb-fde9-4270-9686-09bcccf6e6f2Post:098a10d6-5d2f-468c-a5cf-661cb3e81891">Re: Peace Out...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm sorry that i didn't get a chance to get to know you more.  I'm always happy to meet another person that's into diving and has a love for the big blue.  Good luck on your wedding and I'm sorry to hear that you're leaving. 
    Posted by motoLyn[/QUOTE]


    Ditto.  *hugs*
    Anniversary
  • Blue & WhiteBlue & White member
    2500 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    I'm not really sure what all happened last night (closed the threads once they got snarky, frankly...) but I can only hope that some of the regs stick around.  That being said, I always thought you did a great job of speaking your mind, oceana :)  Thanks for being a part of the boards for the time that you were.
    I guess, to tell you the truth, I've never had much of a desire to grow facial hair. I think I've managed to play quarterback just fine without a mustache. - Peyton
  • edited December 2011
    I'm a big believer in that people need to do what's best for them. If you think it's best for you to leave, then that is your decision. I didn't always agree with what you said, but you did give honest, insightful advice and that will be missed. I wish you the best of luck.
  • CASK85CASK85 member
    1000 Comments 250 Love Its Third Anniversary Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    Oceana, if you're still reading this thread, let me just say that I've always liked you. I may catch some flack (from some "new regs") for saying that, but I think your posts have been valuable and honestly I agree with you a lot of the time. Maybe I have a soft spot because you're doing a PhD too :) I'll send you a PM with my name and if you want to be facebook friends, look me up. Good luck with everything! 
  • edited December 2011
    YOU CAN'T FIRE ME, I QUIT!
    Anniversary
  • sparkles88sparkles88 member
    Eighth Anniversary 1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Darn it. I didn't even really get to know you. Good luck on your upcoming wedding.
  • edited December 2011
    I have not been around long enough to get to know you. However, I know you always gave honest and good advice. You will be missed.
  • edited December 2011
    Audgie YGPM

    Image and video hosting by TinyPic

    "Oceana swings from logical to anus punching." - Buttons

    Planning / Married / Blog

  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
    5000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Watch out for those sharks, darlin'.  They're assholes;)

    See you around the interwebz *hugs*

    "Popular on the internetz..."
    image

    Canada is kind of like a whole other world with new things to discover that us americans only dream of. - Narwhal
    Paige I would like to profess my love for you and your brilliant mind. - breezerb
    Murried Bio
  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
    2500 Comments Second Anniversary 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Back at ya Oceana
    I'm not good at feelings.

    image
  • deburnindeburnin member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    This whole thing makes me very sad... :( 

    Good luck with your wedding Oceana! I'll miss your advice.
    ~*~Sept 2013 Siggy Challange - Then (2005) & Now (2012)~*~
    Image and video hosting by TinyPicImage and video hosting by TinyPic
    Somebody once said, it's the soul that matters. Baby who can really tell, when two hearts belong so well?
    Tale as Old as Time (Updated 11/26) Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • edited December 2011
    Thanks ladies, for the kind words. I do appreciate it. I may pop in around wedding time, just for the girls who actually are interested in the end result.

    Best of luck, ladies...

    Image and video hosting by TinyPic

    "Oceana swings from logical to anus punching." - Buttons

    Planning / Married / Blog

  • MLekathLEENMLekathLEEN member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_peace-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:31dfe2eb-fde9-4270-9686-09bcccf6e6f2Post:14dba18a-7ee1-4c06-9df7-56af71c31317">Re: Peace Out...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks ladies, for the kind words. I do appreciate it. I may pop in around wedding time, <strong>just for the girls who actually are interested in the end result. Best of luck, ladies...
    </strong>Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

    ::raises hand::
  • leia1979leia1979 member
    2500 Comments Fifth Anniversary 100 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    Me, too. I want to see your finished DIY.  Best of luck Oceana! I'll miss you.
  • Hazel_BHazel_B member
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I definitely want to see the finished product!
  • desertsundesertsun member
    5000 Comments Fifth Anniversary 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

    The fulcrum does NOT approve.



    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker


  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
    5000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Don't pisss off the fulcrum.

    "Popular on the internetz..."
    image

    Canada is kind of like a whole other world with new things to discover that us americans only dream of. - Narwhal
    Paige I would like to profess my love for you and your brilliant mind. - breezerb
    Murried Bio
  • Ana_2985Ana_2985 member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Thank you <3
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic
  • calindicalindi member
    5000 Comments Second Anniversary Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Best of luck to you.  I know we've had our rough spots, but I did think you brought some good perspective and advice to conversations.  I also completely agree with you on a lot of the points about the high level of drama and immaturity that seems to be more common, and that what went down last night was completely unacceptable.

    Good luck to you, have a wonderful wedding, and be careful with these crazy SoFla drivers!

    image

    Anniversary

This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards