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    zipis1zipis1 member
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    edited December 2011
    In my personal opinion? If he can afford it and is fine with doing so, yes. Let him pay. Think of it this way: whether you're married or not you're both in a comitted relationship, no? And the baby was his as well? You both suffered a loss, and I'm sure it's hurting him more to see you hurting. People in comitted relationships have to lean on each other in these times, and doing so does not make you weak or pathetic. It means you're human and need support somethimes. If he's willing to be that support and get you the help you need, you're in a good place. I know it can be hard to allow yourself to rely on someone like that (I'm in a similar position right now. BF is paying the rent and more since I just graduated college and am now looking for work, and I do feel weird about that). But it's one of those things that comes with the territory of being in a comitted relationship. You can start paying for treatment once you are covered, but the sooner the better in things like this.

    Now then. It's 2am and I think I'm rambling and repeating myself. I'm gonna go to bed.

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    Vanessa&TonyVanessa&Tony
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    edited December 2011
    You're right on the money and made me realize something...my whole life I've been a planner! Maybe an OCD for me...but my whole life I would right my goals down, what I needed to do to reach them...in college every semester I would write out which classes I would take for all the semesters ahead of me. I'm just one of those people who trys to plan their future and it's been really hard for me to step back and let someone else be in control of my future. I def. do not control him! Thought I should make that clear. But we've already discussed literally that we're going to start trying at 27 so we can have our first baby at 28.

    I'm trying really hard to be patient and stop planning...it hasn't helped now that I graduated, I feel like I need to plan the next step. I'm sounding so crazy...and it makes me want to cry, I don't want to be that person. I really am going to try to let go and go with the flow. But it's already making me nervous.

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    Vanessa&TonyVanessa&Tony
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    edited December 2011
    And yes its late! I am in need of so much sleep...can't wait for him to come home tomorrow and a little nervous.

    This has been great advice, thank you so much. I took so much of your guys time, but trust me it has helped.

    I'll try to be a tougher cookie. I use to be, but I've got alot of weird emotions going on lately, and just alot more sensitive lately. Man I use to be thick...and somehow I turned out a softy.

    Goodnight!

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    KD+BCKD+BC
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    edited December 2011
    No one on here can tell you if you are engaged, that's between you and your bf/fi. I will say that you sound very anxious to be engaged (I know I was in those couple months leading up to it) but thanks to the girls on here and their advice, I was able to chill out and just enjoy the ride. When FI did propose I was surprised and shocked. It was really exciting and happy and not a feeling of, "finally."

    Take a deep breath and enjoy this exciting time with your bf (I don't think you're engaged but what do I know).
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    ekathleen684ekathleen684
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    edited December 2011
    Honestly OP, I don't think your engaged YET. Yes, you are looking at rings so the proposal/being engaged may not be too far off. I say, hold up on the planning and enjoy this limbo period. It's a really exciting time and after your engaged, you'll never get it back.. ENJOY IT!

    Sidenote- HE WENT TO JARED!?!?!?!?!!!!
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    GreenPepperBurgerGreenPepperBurger
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    edited December 2011
    This whole thing makes my head hurt.

    If your boyfriend said that the proposal will be a surprise, that means he hasn't proposed yet. If he hasn't proposed yet, that means you are not engaged. You seem to know from the word go that you weren't engaged, but it feels like you just came on this board to gush about your boyfriend. Yay, good for you, you have a great boyfriend. But you know what? We all do. That's why we're here, and that's why we are all talking marriage with them.

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    sapphirebaby926sapphirebaby926
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    edited December 2011
    First of all I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby and I want to echo the other girls in getting some kind of counseling now even if he's the one to pay for it.

    Second, no one here was really rude and no one called you crazy. All beth said was that starting to plan before the two of you consider yourself engaged is bordering on crazy.

    Now to answer your question - based on what you've written I would say no you are not engaged yet. You and your BF should have a conversation about where your relationship stands and if you both agree that you are engaged. He may want to do the whole down on one knee thing and it sounds like if he doesn't have a plan yet he's working on one to surprise you. Let him do that because to a lot of guys it's important to do that.

    I can understand being excited to take the next step in your lives together but try to be patient. The place you are in now is special and different than being engaged or married. Once you get engaged you will never get this time back. Enjoy it - try to take your mind of off when he's going to propose and just be happy being with your BF.

    Don't rob yourself of the experience of planning the wedding by doing it early - DH and I planned ours together and it was fun and exciting because we did it together. We made decisions together so that our wedding would reflect us as much as possible and I can't imagine doing that without him or his input. Was it stressful at times? Yes, but having each other to lean on and having each other's support made it a great experience and one I wouldn't trade for anything. And even if everything went wrong the day off it wouldn't have mattered because at the end of the day we were married and that's all we wanted.
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    **Mutley****Mutley**
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:ca1288a3-b2ea-4f24-a543-bfe6bf89bf7e">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Sorry about that...I was working on changing it. I'm new to this site and trying to figure it out. Anyways, I'm all for honest and blunt opinions and I take it all into consideration.<strong> </strong><font color="#ff0000">But it is my honest opinion that people give true, genuine advice because they care for others well being, whether we know them in person or over the internet, and how is it true or genuine if people are just being rude? </font>The welcome note said "We're mature adults" and how is, "Do you want a cookie" mature? <font color="#ff0000">I want good, honest and mature advice from those who can understand how a person may feel and if you can't do that, then why do you even bother writing.</font> It said to give details so people can better understand...so here it is. You can choose to read it or leave it. But be respectful to peoples feelings. I've known my boyfriend Tony since we were 11 years old. Are mom's have been long time friends and co-workers. He was always a really smart nerdy kid and I just never thought of him as more. We went to seperate HS and I always dated those jocky types and they always treated me like crap. He was going to go to my prom with me because my HS BF broke up with me a month before the big day, but Tony's prom ended up being the same night, so I found somone else to go with. But after HS, Tony and I became interested in each other and began dating in 2007. He is the sensitive type and has always treated me so well. He said he always had a thing for me since we were young and never knew I would actually go for him. We knew instantly that we were meant for each other, and truely believe that fate was trying to bring us together. Afte 3 months of dating I was going to transfer from the community college to a university 3 hours away. I could tell he didn't want me to go, but wanted me to fallow my dreams of going to my dream school. But he ended up asking me to stay so we could move in together. And I did, it was the best choice, so we got a little apartment and while he worked full-time I finished in school. In January of 2009 after we bought our first house, I had severe cramps and went to the emergency room. I found out that I was pregnant and lost the baby. This was really hard and he was just amazing and always knew how to comfort me. Not a day goes by that I don't think about it, but I'm glad I still have him even through some of my long nights of crying. He always knows the right thing to say and there is no doubt that he is the one. He enjoys talking about future plans together...once when we were shopping at Kohls he said "Hey this is really neat, we should put this on our registry when we get married." <font color="#ff0000">What guy says that? Mine does! </font>There is so much to say...and because he's on his trip I can't help but thing and write about him. And that is my love story! <font color="#ff0000">So I may not have a ring on my finger, but we are madly, deeply, in love.</font> I'm so thankful to have him and I'm not just one of those girls who only focuses on weddings. We have so much going on and this is just one more thing to be excited about. And so now that I think about it. <font color="#ff0000">I don't care what you guys think...I'm going to continue enjoying my excitment about getting married to him and have fun picking out wedding details.</font> I know the ring is coming and cannot wait! And not to mention our month long backpacking trip to Europe in celebration of my graduation!! Goodluck to you all!
    Posted by Vanessa&Tony[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:2cccc0a0-f85c-4fc7-bc69-ac953ab465a7">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]<font color="#ff0000">But I really came on here being honest. And really told my story.</font> I was just hoping to find some comfort and meet people who were excited too. That is why I posted on the Not Engaged Yet forum. I'm just trying to introduce myself and have advice, and be apart of it. I'm really exited to be with him. <font color="#ff0000">I've read it a billion times so I can do this correctly. </font>And it says to post and vent, and people can talk you out of your craziness. I took the ticker off...I understand that it was overboard. And I probably did go overboard with it all...I can't be the first girl to have done this when they're are crazy in love. And I'm really bored while he is gone. I don't know what else to say?
    Posted by Vanessa&Tony[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:81621e70-fabe-41c1-a94c-f66704ee5532">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Whatever...I'm going to bed. This isn't what I expected...I don't even know why I bothered.
    Posted by Vanessa&Tony[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:2c09f228-3e1f-41be-a761-386187cb5688">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wasn't accusing anyone of saying we weren't in love. I was upset about being called crazy, because I just wanted some advice and I've said it "I get it, I'm not engaged". But thank you, I will ask him when he gets back. I'm sure it will make me feel better. Goodnight
    Posted by Vanessa&Tony[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:c30b8f9f-a4c0-418d-9366-5b47b8ccaaad">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]<font color="#ff0000">I guess maybe I'm fearing that it will be a no if I ask him what he thinks...maybe I want to feel like I'm engaged.</font> It's hard when you've been through so much with someone and you're just hoping for that moment. I swear I was being honest...and I feel a little lost. I think probably because of the baby thing, <font color="#ff0000">I'm trying to find comfort somewhere, and I thought a wedding and marriage would cure these feelings. </font>All my friends are married and sometime I feel like it's hard talking to them, just was hopeing maybe some people know what I'm going through. But you guys are right, I should really talk to him.
    Posted by Vanessa&Tony[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:c6c55550-be27-49fc-99b6-58b8af2d3719">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]<font color="#ff0000">And yeah, I guess I was hoping people would tell me that.</font> The way my friend reacted, well it felt good. I did tell her calm down the ring isn't on my finger. But that's why I'm here...and I was just trying to say that I don't think being rude really gets through to people.<font color="#ff0000"> I am real with real problems and I'm in love.</font> And want to do whatever possible to keep it.
    Posted by Vanessa&Tony[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:71f7049c-c31b-43de-8b2b-e5bbf432e363">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yeah, we considered it, but I'm not covered and he offered to pay, but I felt guilty because he already pays for the mortgage and paid for my tuition my last semester, and he just always pays for everything, and he never complains. I feel like it's not his responsibilty because we're not married, before I met him I was on my own and just feel like I don't want to be that pathetic girl who needs a man to take care of her. I did just got a job offer last week and all my background checks should be done this week, but there is a grace period before I can get it. <font color="#ff0000">Should I let him pay or wait until I'm covered?</font>
    Posted by Vanessa&Tony[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:8f7702e8-1b7e-4af1-adc4-f0c650005e11">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]You're right on the money and made me realize something...my whole life I've been a planner! Maybe an OCD for me...but my whole life I would right my goals down, what I needed to do to reach them...in college every semester I would write out which classes I would take for all the semesters ahead of me. I'm just one of those people who trys to plan their future and it's been really hard for me to step back and let someone else be in control of my future. <font color="#ff0000">I def. do not control him! Thought I should make that clear. But we've already discussed literally that we're going to start trying at 27 so we can have our first baby at 28. </font>I'm trying really hard to be patient and stop planning...it hasn't helped now that I graduated, I feel like I need to plan the next step. I'm sounding so crazy...and it makes me want to cry, I don't want to be that person. I really am going to try to let go and go with the flow. But it's already making me nervous.
    Posted by Vanessa&Tony[/QUOTE]

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:96cf98a2-e3d4-4ee3-aac4-8089efb7c3ce">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]And yes its late! I am in need of so much sleep...can't wait for him to come home tomorrow and a little nervous. This has been great advice, thank you so much. I took so much of your guys time, but trust me it has helped. I'll try to be a tougher cookie. I use to be, but I've got alot of weird emotions going on lately, and just alot more sensitive lately. Man I use to be thick...and somehow I turned out a softy. Goodnight!
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    dwest2201dwest2201
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with PP's that you are not engaged YET, but it's coming and that is very exciting!  Also, your BF sounds like mine with saying things about our wedding, marriage, future kids, retirement etc. 

    Also, I have to say that when I read your first post I thought that it was a little BSC to say that you had fallen in love with a date yet didn't think that you were engaged.  After reading some of your other post I get where you are coming from to some extent.  I am a planner, I did the same thing in college and I try to plan everything I can ahead of time because it eases my mind.  However, wedding planning is not for only you... your FI (when your actually engaged) will have some say.  He may end up being the guy who says whatever you want, I don't care... but he may have strong opinions and you just have to wait (as patiently as possible) until you're engaged to sit down and talk to him to find that out.

    In the meantime, try and relax.  Look into counseling... Google "free grief counseling and your zip-code".  I know from my own experiences that there are lots of free counseling services here in my city.  You definitely need to talk to someone and deal with the way that loss has made you feel.  Your boyfriend might benefit from this as well, even though men tend not to be as open to the idea of "seeing someone" about their problems. 

    Good Luck!  And feel free to stick around if you want, but realize that people will give you opinions you may not like and you just have to let it roll off.
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    oceana919oceana919
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sure I'll get labeled McMeanyPants for this, but a few comments have gotten my back up:

    1) So, essentially, since my guy makes significantly more money than me, and therefore takes on a higher percentage of the financial load of our relationship, and we're not married yet, I'm pathetic? Or I'm just a "kept" woman?

    2) If you are coming on here to have complete strangers validate whether or not you're engaged, you may want to consider sitting down and having an adult conversation with your SO about the state of your relationship. We can't tell you if you're engaged or not - only you two can make that decision for yourselves. Together.

    3) Do not plan a wedding until you are actually, officially engaged. You're robbing yourself of the experience, and it's not fair to your SO (who should be included in the planning itself).

    4) No one was all that mean to you on here. Perhaps you should consider growing a thicker skin if you're going to stick around here, as the ladies on this board can be very, very blunt. You posted on an international board requesting input and advice - you can't then turn around and try and police what kind of opinions get posted.

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    bourgehmbourgehm
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    edited December 2011

    I'm sorry for your loss.  My mom has lost 3 babies, and I know it is a very tough thing to deal with. Stay strong!  You meantioned in your initial post about all of your friends: maybe pick a few to go have dinner with and talk about why you are so sad. That may help a little.

    Second, I don't think it's crazy that you're excited about planning, or even bordering on crazy.  I bet quite a few of us, once we looked at rings or once we talked about marriage with our FI/DH/BF started getting a little into looking at wedding-ish things.  I know I did... I didn't start PLANNING, but I did start looking around and dreaming and such just because it's such an exciting time.  I am so excited for you!  I remember when FI took me to look for rings a few years ago I was jumping off the walls excited.  Just try to not do any real planning until he's proposed. But looking at things and getting a good idea what is out there is not a terrible thing. And you're NOT a crazy person.

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    **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    You know what.  I don't want people to feel free to stick around.  If you are going to continue to posting in the same vain, then you don't belong here.  It is that simple.  It is one thing to ask for advice about a situation but to ask the actual state of your relationship IS BSC.  To ask the interwebs if he should spend his $ on your therapy IS BSC. 

    Oceana, you were not mean.  If I were to post what I am actually thinking this morning...   I am being nice to Jeana since she is at painting class.
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    oceana919oceana919
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:d222f267-1fca-475d-907c-89b00522f901">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]You know what.  I don't want people to feel free to stick around.  If you are going to continue to posting in the same vain, then you don't belong here.  It is that simple.  It is one thing to ask for advice about a situation but to ask the actual state of your relationship IS BSC.  To ask the interwebs if he should spend his $ on your therapy IS BSC.  <strong>Oceana, you were not mean.  If I were to post what I am actually thinking this morning...   I am being nice to Jeana since she is at painting class.</strong>
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    Thanks. I would have completely ignored this whole thread, if it weren't for the whole "pathetic" commentary about having a guy take care of you. That comment made me a little:

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    **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    Enh.  I am the queen of pathetic according to her.

    DH has been 'taking care' of me for almost 2 years now.  All I am doing is growing a baby for him. 


    I am going to HURT Pearl.  She needs to start being nice to her host.

    Oh, and on another note, I'll look through my boxes by Wednesday.  I had already planned tackling the insane wedding nook of our current garage this week.   
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    oceana919oceana919
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    edited December 2011

    I'll start donning my "I Heart Mutley" t-shirt now...

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    AcrosthecAcrosthec
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    Crap.  I just went looking for MyOther1's bio so I could post her really awesome venn diagram on here, and apparently she's no longer a member.  Or I got the wrong SN.  Anyone seen her on any boards lately?
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    Vanessa&TonyVanessa&Tony
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, this whole forum was not such a good idea. Who am I kidding, I'm not really someone to waste my time on the internet although some of you gave great adivce I think others just waste their time on here. Don't some of you have better things to do than post all day? I gave it a try though, and got some well needed feelings out.

    Anyways lessons learned:

    1) Not engaged
    2) Stop planning
    3) Talk to the boyfriend
    4) Find some counseling

    With that said I think I will focus my energies on my new job instead of wedding stuff.

    So go ahead and bash me all you want, WHATEVER makes you guys feel better about yourself and your life.





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    catemegcatemeg
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    edited December 2011
    Ya know, I think you've got some good bullet points there.  And I think (hopefully) you'll be in a better place now in handling your relationship, pending engagement, and lingering emotional distress.

    Good luck with everything!
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    BCRockiesBCRockies member
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    edited December 2011
    OP ~ No, I do not think you're engaged currently. Honestly, if you were engaged, you would know and there would be no "Am I? Aren't I?" thoughts. Slow down, be patient and enjoy your relationship as is.

    Just because you have looked at rings does not mean a proposal is imminent. Also, keep in mind that a "wedding" is different from a "marriage".

    This is a special time in your relationship; do not rush it as you don't get it back.

    As adults, you and your SO should discuss this as no one here is capable of answering a question that only the two of you can answer.

    Please take care of yourself first before jumping into a major decision such as marriage. A wedding is only one day. Just concentrate on building your relationship with your SO and the rest will come.
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    marlina10marlina10 member
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    Dam*, there are some snippy people on here. The lady just asked us a questionm you don't need to call her crazy to make yourself feel better.
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    **Mutley****Mutley**
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:ee62398a-b7c7-4e88-92c0-82b57fa94863">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Dam*, there are some snippy people on here. The lady just asked us a questionm you don't need to call her crazy to make yourself feel better.
    Posted by marlina10[/QUOTE]


    <a href="#" title="Click to view a larger photo" onclick="return gSiteLife.LoadForumPage('ForumImage', 'plckPhotoId', 'fd57610d-2d53-4dc2-a984-18ea15c2f253', 'plckRedirectUrl', gSiteLife.EscapeValue(window.location.href));"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/13/9/fd57610d-2d53-4dc2-a984-18ea15c2f253.medium.gif" alt="" /></a>  Bless your heart.


    P.S. Calling her crazy doesn't make me feel better.  The fact that she came to an internet board to ask if she is engaged actually makes me feel fairly sad.  Calling her crazy does make me feel like something has been righted in the world.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:ee62398a-b7c7-4e88-92c0-82b57fa94863">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Dam*, there are some snippy people on here. The lady just asked us a questionm you don't need to call her crazy to make yourself feel better.
    Posted by marlina10[/QUOTE]


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    Vanessa&TonyVanessa&Tony
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    edited December 2011
    You feel like you righted the world? From what? Wrinting on the knot all day? How is that being a productive member of society? Get a LIFE! A real one! Not this internet world you live in. There is nothing wrong from seeking out advice from people you don't know, sometimes it is better because advice from friends can be bias. If you are such a brain in everything, how about you actually write something of value, instead of highlighting my words!

    NO! Don't feel sad for me, I wouldn't want to make your life any more miserable than it already is. I feel I got what I needed as far as advice, but I am done here.

    I hope you find real happiness, but as "crazy" as I may be...I actually pitty you.




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    oceana919oceana919
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:eb25ab32-88e8-42cb-8a19-547fed4532c9">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]You feel like you righted the world? From what? Wrinting on the knot all day? How is that being a productive member of society? Get a LIFE! A real one! Not this internet world you live in. There is nothing wrong from seeking out advice from people you don't know, sometimes it is better because advice from friends can be bias. If you are such a brain in everything, how about you actually write something of value, instead of highlighting my words! NO! Don't feel sad for me, I wouldn't want to make your life any more miserable than it already is. I feel I got what I needed as far as advice, but I am done here. I hope you find real happiness, but as "crazy" as I may be...I actually pitty you.
    Posted by Vanessa&Tony[/QUOTE]

    She's got real happiness. Have you seen her belly lately?

    If you really dislike this board so much, and feel you've been so wronged, you are more than welcome to go elsewhere. Given that you are repeatedly returning to throw in that <em>one last word</em> (and misspelling it, no less), I imagine you're enjoying the drama a bit more than you let on.

    Either continue posting, or go elsewhere. It's really not that difficult of a decision to make.

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    desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    Is anyone else SO OVER the OP being determined to be offended, saying she's going away, and then coming back again and again?

    Can we please just let this thread die?
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    AmandalovesAlAmandalovesAl member
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    wow.  that was a huge mess.  Lol thanks for the laugh!
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    lynzandgreglynzandgreg
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    edited December 2011
    hehe wow.

    OP-Just let things take it's course. You're not engaged but I think you have figured that out already.
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    shinxyshinxy member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm with the OP. People on here are really rude.

    OP, I don't think you're engaged but you will be soon! Just focus on that. You may only have days left of being 'boyfriend and girlfriend', enjoy it :).

    And I'm sorry for your loss, I lost my BF's baby too. I know how hard it can be. But I'm sure you'll make lots of beautiful babies in the future :D!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:14a6e4e8-2a1c-40e8-97f4-18532be9265e">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm with the OP. People on here are really rude. 
    Posted by shinxy[/QUOTE]

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    oceana919oceana919
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-engaged-opinons-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:3dad7660-ca9a-4ee3-b560-58f6bdc9cb82Post:14a6e4e8-2a1c-40e8-97f4-18532be9265e">Re: Am I engaged? Opinons needed!</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>I'm with the OP. People on here are really rude.</strong> OP, I don't think you're engaged but you will be soon! Just focus on that. You may only have days left of being 'boyfriend and girlfriend', enjoy it :). And I'm sorry for your loss, I lost my BF's baby too. I know how hard it can be. But I'm sure you'll make lots of beautiful babies in the future :D!
    Posted by shinxy[/QUOTE]

    Pet Peeve #45 About NEY - Newbs who stick up for other newbs in an effort to be cool, <strong><em>when we weren't even that mean in the first place.

    </em>::headdesk::</strong>

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