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    laceesethlaceeseth member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_momma-habits?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:4615afd0-a862-4fb0-8a0b-0412b38461f0Post:72a8247b-70f9-46ba-adaa-54f85a6976d4">Re: Momma Habits</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Momma Habits : Hopefully he'll interpret it as being that the phone needs to be on the hook too! LOL! I think first in a marriage you need to turn to one another- if you can't find a solution together- then you can contact other sources for assistance, but that's just my opinion.
    Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

    haha! Too bad there isn't one that says "Do not second guess the love of your life's words or advice by calling your mother or father." LOL
    Wedding Countdown Ticker "So it's not gonna be easy. It's gonna be really hard. We're gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day." -The Notebook
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    marleylikeairmarleylikeair member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_momma-habits?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4615afd0-a862-4fb0-8a0b-0412b38461f0Post:5a70bec0-e29b-4c5a-b128-4ff49da6d0f8">Re: Momma Habits</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Momma Habits : I teach fourth grade. I will be teaching either math or writing this year. I will find out tomorrow!
    Posted by laceeseth[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Cool. Fourth grade seems like a pretty good grade to teach. The kids are old enough for pretty sophisticated thought processes, but not old enough to be dealing with tons of puberty-related stuff. :)
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    laceesethlaceeseth member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_momma-habits?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:4615afd0-a862-4fb0-8a0b-0412b38461f0Post:46cc0b77-6ad1-41a6-a7d9-0849e91fbdd0">Re: Momma Habits</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Momma Habits : Cool. Fourth grade seems like a pretty good grade to teach. The kids are old enough for pretty sophisticated thought processes, but not old enough to be dealing with tons of puberty-related stuff. :)
    Posted by marleylikeair[/QUOTE]

    Yeah I'm hoping they follow my "no boyfriends/girlfriends" in 4th grade. haha Fat chance!
    Wedding Countdown Ticker "So it's not gonna be easy. It's gonna be really hard. We're gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day." -The Notebook
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    marleylikeairmarleylikeair member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_momma-habits?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4615afd0-a862-4fb0-8a0b-0412b38461f0Post:8b10681f-9a0b-4b21-937e-5d0a67c07825">Re: Momma Habits</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Momma Habits : Yeah I'm hoping they follow my "no boyfriends/girlfriends" in 4th grade. haha Fat chance!
    Posted by laceeseth[/QUOTE]

    <div>Haha. I do remember having a MAJOR crush in 4th grade and leaving an anonymous love note for the guy. It was the talk of the class. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></div>
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    jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    edited December 2011
    True story:  A few months after my parents got married (my mom was 20 and dad was 22) my dad got pretty sick.  My mom offered to stay home from work with him, but he told her to go ahead and he'd call her if he needed anything.  A few hours later my mom gets a call from my grandma (dad's mom) that he's going into surgery to have his apendix removed.  I always found it funny that he still wanted to call his mommy instead of his wife in that kind of situation.

    So now, anytime I hear a story about men calling their mommy all the time, it reminds me of my dad.  LOL.  Of course he grew out of that, but because both my parents went straight from their parents house into their own, there was a major adjustment period to the idea of relying on your spouse instead of your parents.  The one good thing though was that my dad was pretty accustomed to the whole 'chore' thing though.  While my grandma was a SAHM, she had 9 kids, so none of them got off without helping out around the house.  I don't care if you are superwoman, no one can cook and clean for 9 kids by themselves.
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    laceesethlaceeseth member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_momma-habits?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:4615afd0-a862-4fb0-8a0b-0412b38461f0Post:b6472582-9b7e-4f80-9223-2eb715ac0022">Re: Momma Habits</a>:
    [QUOTE]True story:  A few months after my parents got married (my mom was 20 and dad was 22) my dad got pretty sick.  My mom offered to stay home from work with him, but he told her to go ahead and he'd call her if he needed anything.  A few hours later my mom gets a call from my grandma (dad's mom) that he's going into surgery to have his apendix removed.  I always found it funny that he still wanted to call his mommy instead of his wife in that kind of situation. So now, anytime I hear a story about men calling their mommy all the time, it reminds me of my dad.  LOL.  Of course he grew out of that, but because both my parents went straight from their parents house into their own, there was a major adjustment period to the idea of relying on your spouse instead of your parents.  The one good thing though was that my dad was pretty accustomed to the whole 'chore' thing though.  While my grandma was a SAHM, she had 9 kids, so none of them got off without helping out around the house.  I don't care if you are superwoman, no one can cook and clean for 9 kids by themselves.
    Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

    Great story! Thanks for sharing jemmini! :) I guess I should feel special. When Seth sliced open his hand with a razor blade he called me. lol. I think it will change, but it will take some time. Thanks for sharing! :)
    Wedding Countdown Ticker "So it's not gonna be easy. It's gonna be really hard. We're gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day." -The Notebook
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    laceesethlaceeseth member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_momma-habits?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:4615afd0-a862-4fb0-8a0b-0412b38461f0Post:f8cd1e58-7d1b-4f9f-b0a7-c24c15e8bb6c">Re: Momma Habits</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Momma Habits : Haha. I do remember having a MAJOR crush in 4th grade and leaving an anonymous love note for the guy. It was the talk of the class. 
    Posted by marleylikeair[/QUOTE]

    Pretty sure that I had a "boyfriend' in the 2nd grade. haha!
    Wedding Countdown Ticker "So it's not gonna be easy. It's gonna be really hard. We're gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day." -The Notebook
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    zipis1zipis1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Personally I think this is a bit of a yellow flag. Not anything to be overly concerned with, but be cautious. Momma's boys are some of the worst kinds to be married to, and more often than not they do not change. Ever.

    I would say keep an eye on the behavior, especially once he's out of school. If I didn't live 3 hours from my mom's I would have bummed a bit off her too, though I don't think I'd do it as much as your BF does. However, I would nip the double checking you with mom thing in the bud, pronto.

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    edited December 2011
    I think this can go either way. TN is full of women who thought their FI would change their relationships with their moms after marriage. A lot of them don't. 

    FI slowly becomes more independent and stands up to his mom the more financial independence he gains. When she does things like pay a medical bill he thinks he owes her and can't stand up to her. When he does things like pay his own tuition or car repairs he feels more independent. I think and hope a lot of our situation will improve after we get married, but our marriage also coincides with us both getting a full time job after college. 

    Just talk. Talk it to death if you have too. Just make sure you are on the same page about expectations with his mom and how their relationship will change. 

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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_momma-habits?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4615afd0-a862-4fb0-8a0b-0412b38461f0Post:105af9f5-9ef3-4381-ab4d-31bb528efb37">Momma Habits</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have noticed that anytime he cooks for me that he calls his mom if he doesn't know something. 
    Posted by laceeseth[/QUOTE]

    <div>I do all the cooking for my FI and I, and I'm still a n00b about it. I call my mom <em>constantly</em> with cooking questions! But then again, she is a professional chef, so she does know all the answers.</div><div>
    </div><div>If your BF is calling his mom while in the kitchen, take it as a blessing. He's <em>trying</em>, for godssake. He's new to the cooking thing too, right? His mom is probably the best cook he knows - so he's turning to her for the answers. I don't think that's unusual at all. </div>

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