Intro: Not Married Yet But workin on it!!!

Jss1006

Hey I am Jaquel. I am 25. I have been with my wonderful BF since high hool. Met in Feb. '99, flirted abit with going steady and officially started dating in Jun '01.  We enjoyed college together, and now we have been living together for a little over 3 yrs. Marriage has not been the goal until a couple of months ago, but we lack the funds. I want a beautiful and expensive wedding, and I know we have to save like crazy for a couple of yrs. Hopefully we'll be ready in the next 2 yrs. I just want to finally marry the man of my dreams.


Ms. Simmons praying 2 b Mrs. Bailey

Narwhal

Weddings can be beautiful without being expensive, silly!

ljewel422

Hi and welcome. I think it's great you guys have been together so long. But I totally agree with Narwhal - you can have a beautiful wedding without breaking the bank. The internet (especially TK) has some great ideas for a budget wedding. Good luck!

Jss1006

I will take these things into consideration, because I totally agree with you. However, I know it will be a minute to scrape up a lil bit of something with no one to help us at all.  All my $ has gone to closing up my debt.   Only small amouts have gone into savings.  Paying off  the last bit of debt off now and that took forever.  The only thing I know is that this is something I have wanted forever with this guy. Well it feels like forever, and I wanna take my time and do it right. Keep the replies coming.

musikbx

While I also agree that weddings do not need to be expensive to be wonderful, props to you for being patient and waiting until you are financially secure enough to be married.

Narwhal

Oh I get it. Yes, definitely take the time to pay off your debts, that can really cause a strain on a marriage.  I thought the only thing holding you back was the actual marriage.

paintgirl

This is interesting. Some women on the board would get married with a very low budget and small wedding because they want to married to their bf NOW. You're a little different from most of our gals, it seems. Many won't have a large budget, either because they can't afford it and don't want to wait until they can, or because it's just not worth it to spend the money on a one-day event. I fall in to the short-engagement-don't-care-if-small-budget category. The wedding isn't a big deal to us. I just want to be married to bf. Congrats for knowing you've found the right one, admitting to yourself that you do want a big shindig, and patiently saving until you can afford it!

I just paid off all debt but a student loan, which I will pay off in a few months. It is amazingly freeing. Good work!

Simply Fated

I like your outlook.

Jss1006

Congrats on payin off your debt. You are where i want to be. Thanks for understanding my plight also. I might as well not be impatient in this situation. He's not going anywhere and neither am I. We can wait a minute...been waiting this long!!!  There's so much more to be concerned about than a huge wedding of my dreams at this point in time. You guys rock!!!

sapphirebaby926

I want to commend you on getting your debt paid off - that is a great goal and I felt such a huge relief once I got all mine taken care of. The only debt we have now is our house and it's a great feeling to be in the place we are.

I wish there were more people in the world that were being responsible with their money.

raw1299

congrats on paying off your debt! its good that your taking responsibility and not waiting until it gets larger and larger.

you can still have a beautiful wedding without it being expensive. possibly do a little DIY, or negotiate a price (not alot of businesses are getting $$, so any money is good) , maybe cut a few people, or cut some things in the wedding (ex: instead of a 3 course meal, have a buffet). me and my boyfriend are also concerned about the price, so were going to plan a wedding for under 10k, including the honeymoon.

you guys could also get privately married (get a marriage license) and then have a big party a few years down the road.

catemeg

Raw, you TOTALLY missed the point of this post (as with most posts you comment on FYI).

The OP said that she loves her BF, and wants to get married, but she's in no rush and would prefer to wait until she has the funds to do it the way she wants without cutting corners.  There's no judgement for people who are on a budget who make sacrifices or find creative ways of accomplishing their vision, but really there's nothing wrong with someone who has a little patience and is saving so that they can have exactly what they want on their own time.

Kudos, OP!