I know a few girls on the board have bought a house with their bf or fi. How did you handle the legal side? Any thoughts?
We are considering a move (for his job) and we're talking about whether it's better to buy a house together or have him buy the house. (We currently live in a house he bought - I sold mine - and I pay him a portion of mortage/utilities. We don't split 50/50 because he gets the tax advantages of the house and is building equity whereas I'm basically paying rent.)
Financially, either one of us could buy a house in the price range we are looking at on our own. I'm not sure I'd get a mortgage alone because I am self-employed with only a 2 year financial history in my company. I have great credit (so does he) so I wouldn't hurt our mortgage if we went in together. Regardless of whose name is on the deed, I'm likely to contribute to the down payment.
I know some people will encourage us to wait to buy a house together until we are married or at least engaged. There's no legal difference between BF and FI, so I don't really follow the logic on waiting until we're engaged. We plan to get married we just haven't got around to it yet. (I know that sounds bizarre to some people but it's not a high priority for us right now - moving, advancing his career, etc, are higher priorities.)
So how did you buy your house with your bf or fi? Did you have a legal agreement should the relationship end or did you just wing it? (In some regards, it's not much different than a marriage ending in divorce with a house involved, I'm thinking?)
Re: Bought a house with BF?
Have fun buying the house together though, that sounds great.
I like the re-assurance of knowing that at the end of the day, if something ever happened, I still will have a home for myself and my daughter, but I also appreciate knowing that he supports this decision as well and is still willing to contribute financially even though this is not his actual "legal residence".
I would recommend like the PP and if you are going to put the house in both of your names, make sure you see separate lawyers. It may cost a little more, but if something EVER happens, you'll be very grateful.
Good luck and have fun!!! House buying is exciting!!!!!!!!!
Our house is in BF's name. He pays the mortgage, insurance, etc and I pay the utility bills. But we were in a different situation than you are in when we moved in together. If it hadn't of worked out and we broke up, I would not have been able to afford the mortgage payment on my own, but he can. I didn't want any legal mess to deal with if we broke up. I also did not contribute at all to the down payment.
In your situation, I would feel the most comfortable with having the house in both names and having a legal agreement written out as to what should happen in the even that you do break up. It sounds like you have it together as a couple, but it's always good to CYA just in case.
Have fun house shopping! Are you moving somewhere very different from where you currently live?
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My advice to you is to keep receipts for every dime you both put into the house. We had a ledger of the money he put toward the down payment and the money I put in the kitty. We kept track of all money paid individually to the mortgage and house utilities. We also made a personal contract that stated what would happen to the house if we split up. We did this at the sale of the house when all was right with the world. You are putting a lot of personal finance into this purchase. We are not talking about a new outfit or shoes here. A house is a huge, long-term investment. You need to cover your butt just as he needs to cover his.
So it looks like we'll either do a co-ownership agreement or just let him buy the house and add me after we get married. If I contribute to the down payment, we'll get a contract for that too - that it's a pre-payment of my "rent" or a loan of some sort that he owes me if we split up.
My suggestion is, if you put money towards the house then have some sort agreement to protect yourself, particularly if your name isn't on the title.
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