How long were you and your SO together before you started talking about engagement/marriage? My boyfriend and I have been together 7 months and have been talking about marriage for a couple of months now. We're in a long-distance relationship, so we only see each other about once every three to four weeks. When I tell people we're talking engagement, they seem to think it's too early. I'm 32 and my bf is 35, so I don't feel like we're rushing into anything. I just wanted to get some other opinions.
Re: Just curious...
But just because we started talking about it doesn't mean we're rushing into anything. It's been 1.5 years since then, and we're only now starting to get to the point where we'll be buying a ring in the next 6 months or so. We'll be getting engaged sometime between 2-3 years of dating, and getting married just about 4 years.
Somebody once said, it's the soul that matters. Baby who can really tell, when two hearts belong so well?
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Just because someone takes it slow doesn't mean their marriage might be any better or worse. Just don't do anything you don't feel ready for and forget what other people think.
Now that I look back, that sounds kind of fast, but we were also both 29 at the time.
I haz a planning bio
it looks like im the odd one out, i see alot of women talking about it under a year into the relationship. i think it also depends on your age. i was 19 at the time.
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He took me to go looking at rings about 3 months ago and I knew that he was completely serious about us.
This is not something I would recommend for everyone but our families are thrilled!
We first had that discussion about 2 years and a month ago, but we're still not engaged. We are still quite young and still in school, so it isn't surprising, but I figure it will be another 1.5 to 3 years before we're engaged. I figure we'll have been together six or seven years before we get married.
I have two things to say:
1.) Bumbldog does not look particularly pleased with his attire.
2.) Holly, I'm from KY too. And my name is Holly.
That is all.
Honestly though, I don't know how he feels about that thing. He gets super duper excited when I pull it out every year, but the antennae bug the snot out of him. But this year he gets to be Devildog, which has a hood. Which I'm sure he'll love just as much :P
I think most of his expression is due to the fact he hates cameras, though. If I want a non pouty picture I have to sneak up on him. I mean look at this. He acts like it's going to eat him.
In answer to the original question, BF started talking about marraige before I was willing to talk about it seriously. We've been together a little over a year and a half, and now I'm ready. We've recently looked at rings, and I'm patiently waiting for the purchase and proposal.
ETA: I'm not sure how I keep hitting middle alignment, but it's annoying.
We were driving past farms in the middle of nowhere and discussing how great living out there would be. I made a comment about how I do like the idea, but I'm so accustom to the city and with having a little one that I like being near modern conveniences like the 24hr pharmacy and one of the best Children's hospitals in the nation, etc. He said you're right I think we should raise our kids in Cincinnati and then retire out here with some land and animals and then our kids and grandkids can come here when they want to get away and we'll have horses and everything. Looking back I think to myself why was that not awkward? I mean I was GOING THRU my dissolution at the time still. I guess because we knew each other for years before and had talked about what we both wanted (and it was pretty much dead on)... so I agreed that it sounded like a great idea.
I think that it depends largely on your maturity level (not so much age, but they often go hand in hand). If you are both at a point in your life where you see marriage as something that you want in the near future (just waiting for the right person per say) then I think it is likely to come up, in talks sooner as well as happen sooner.
I don' t really think that there is a right or wrong time. As long as you are both comfortable with whatever is being discussed then that is what matters.