Think you're mature enough to get married, beebees? These are the questions you should be talking about with your BF before you make that decision. They're straight from my premarital counseling book.
1. Are you a spender or a saver? Are you comfortable splurging on the same things?
2. How much debt do you have? Do you have retirement plans? What is your strategy to get out of debt?
3. How much time will you spend with your families? How will you deal with holidays?
4. How do your families and childhood impact your lives now? How will that impact your children?
5. How do we want to spend your time off? How much is too much to spend on a vacation?
6. Can we discuss our religion together without anyone getting offended? What are your views on the afterlife? Is it important for both of you to have the same idea of the afterlife?
7. Can you comfortably discuss your intimate body parts and functions? Does your weight or appearance affect your ability to be intimate – and can you be honest about that?
8. Have you talked about the preferred time of day for intimacy, number of times per week (or day), place, lights on or off, length of contact, foreplay, or how adventurous you want to be?
9. How do children impact your idea of the future?
10. What if you have trouble having children? What happens with an unplanned pregnancy?
11. Can you afford fluctuations in your financial earnings? Does your money personalities mesh with our life goals as a married couple? What if one of you wants to go back to school?
12. If your career dreams end up pulling you two in completely different directions, how do you plan on dealing with that? If living seperately an option?
Those are just basic questions, but they should get the ball rolling in conversation.
