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am i crazy here?

ok, nevermind, all though i do so enjoy being referred to as a troll, and people say, yes youre crazy, i would have much rather people just say, "ya, youre goin a bit fast, take a break and wait untill you are engaged to plan it out" but, i guess crazy troll will have to do. no, i didnt need any helpful answers, though one did give more helpful advice than the rest, i needed people to be, in my oppinion, a little catty, b****y even. i may have taken it the wrong way, havent had the best week, mayby being called a troll is a good thing, maybe i took it the wrong way. however, i shall be sure bo respond to questions those whos responses were less than helpfull, in the same manner you answered mine.

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Re: am i crazy here?

  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    *I'm
    *engaged
    *hasn't
    *technically
    *there's
    *going
    *planned

    You're welcome.
  • coastiegrl25coastiegrl25 member
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    edited December 2011
    There is only so much you can do without knowing when it's going to be.  STOP planning now and enjoy your relationship. Also please refer to the sticky that has been posted about this...it really helps.  Only you can decide if you're engaged or not, a ring doesn't make any difference.  I would talk to him about this, there is no way posters here can tell you when he wants to get married, if he has already brought up the dress and guest lists.
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  • babybchbumbabybchbum member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm calling TROLLL!!!

    oh wait only 1 post........ maybe not.
  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-crazy-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:70451193-7d54-48fa-9ceb-45672cd4c749Post:2adcac1a-6cd7-4563-861b-c25841888464">Re: am i crazy here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Please read this thread: <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_welcome-not-engaged-yet" rel="nofollow">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_welcome-not-engaged-yet</a>
    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

    This is also my advice. Come back once you've read it over!
  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes. Crazy. Read the link desert said to.


  • Beads921Beads921 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-crazy-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:70451193-7d54-48fa-9ceb-45672cd4c749Post:13057f19-c3b1-4761-a0a5-f47ddb93b6bb">Re: am i crazy here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm calling TROLLL!!! oh wait only 1 post........ maybe not.
    Posted by babybchbum[/QUOTE]

    <div>Still could be a troll...</div><div>
    </div><div>Either way, yes, crazy.</div>
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  • stemms8810stemms8810 member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think I would be comfortable planning all this without being engaged.  I am pretty sure my family and friends would wonder what the heck I was doing and tell me I am crazy.
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  • edited December 2011
    Only one post? Yeah, I'm calling Troll too.
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  • MLekathLEENMLekathLEEN member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-crazy-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:70451193-7d54-48fa-9ceb-45672cd4c749Post:3d634d33-c33d-4eb1-a223-6efbe687cec0">Re: am i crazy here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]*I'm *engaged *hasn't *technically *there's *going *planned You're welcome.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

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  • edited December 2011
    How are you seriously thinking about getting married when you're barely literate enough to be able to sign the marriage license?

    I'm calling troll...
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    Aw, thanks EKath!
  • CASK85CASK85 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-crazy-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:70451193-7d54-48fa-9ceb-45672cd4c749Post:637089a5-bfa7-4846-9f0a-5eef683a7f9d">Re: am i crazy here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]How are you seriously thinking about getting married when you're barely literate enough to be able to sign the marriage license? I'm calling troll...
    Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>HA! love this</div>
  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-crazy-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:70451193-7d54-48fa-9ceb-45672cd4c749Post:8d1e7b7d-108e-4fca-8321-bbea5a65afd3">Re: am i crazy here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't think I would be comfortable planning all this without being engaged.  I am pretty sure my family and friends would wonder what the heck I was doing and tell me I am crazy.
    Posted by stemms8810[/QUOTE]

    Hi Stemms.  Only 6 posts, I don't think I've met you yet.

    But you seem sane. (I think.)

    Hi!
     
    Intro?

    ETA: You introduced yourself on the sticky, my bad.
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  • stemms8810stemms8810 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-crazy-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:70451193-7d54-48fa-9ceb-45672cd4c749Post:7d558930-328c-4b34-a5ab-62f30ccf979a">Re: am i crazy here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: am i crazy here? : Hi Stemms.  Only 6 posts, I don't think I've met you yet. But you seem sane. (I think.) Hi!   Intro? ETA: You introduced yourself on the sticky, my bad.
    Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

    Hi Wrkn925!  Yes, I am definitely sane for the most part <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" /> Yep, I did introduce myself earlier but if you wanna know anything just let me know!  Glad to get to know you ladies! 
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  • edited December 2011
    You are not Engaged yet and maybe he is being cheap and only wants to buy 1 ring??
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  • zipis1zipis1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Again:



    And if you aren't a troll: ask HIM. Not us. He holds the answers you seek as to your relationship status and whether you should be continuing or not.

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  • edited December 2011
    *head desk*




    I literally cannot even bring myself to care enough about this to address the original poster and I'm not even sure I understand what was being said or asked.

    ***please be a troll or MUD or anything other than a real, legitimate post (er) that is looking for an answer***
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-crazy-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:70451193-7d54-48fa-9ceb-45672cd4c749Post:90c90039-b694-4c3c-a8d9-0906b2a48715">Re: am i crazy here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]You are not Engaged yet and maybe he is being cheap and only wants to buy 1 ring??
    Posted by rxjen[/QUOTE]

    LMAO! rxjen, it's just ludicrous to think that anyone would marry a man who would only buy her 1 ring!!!!  I mean REALLY?? only 1?? what is this world coming to... my man has to buy me 3 rings before I even consider marrying him!! ::finger snaps:: <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />
  • edited December 2011
    <font color="#ff0000"><font color="#1f1f1f">[QUOTE]ok, im not sure if im a lil crazy, or pathetic or overly into this, or what. i know im not even angaged yet and im planning this thing out, he hasnt even technicaly proposed yet.  granted, last year he told me to go online and find a wed dress i like and tell him how much (his way of saying he wants to marry me i guess) :)  and we started talking about it, guest list all that jazz, but theres still no ring on my finger, and i dont know if i should just cool it until there is or just keep goin and have things planed ahead of time to make it a little easier when the time comes. help? [/QUOTE]
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    <font color="#000000">PROPER GRAMMATICAL TRANSLATION:</font>

    Ok</font>,<font color="#ff0000"> I'm</font> not sure if <font color="#ff0000">I'm </font>a <font color="#ff0000">little </font>crazy, or pathetic<font color="#ff0000">,</font> or overly into this. <font color="#ff0000">I</font> know <font color="#ff0000">I'm </font>not even <font color="#ff0000">engaged </font>yet and <font color="#ff0000">I'm </font>planning <font color="#ff0000">my wedding.</font> <font color="#ff0000">He </font><font color="#ff0000">hasn't </font>even <font color="#ff0000">technically </font>proposed yet.  <font color="#ff0000">Granted</font>, last year<font color="#ff0000">,</font> he told me to go online and find a <font color="#ff0000">wedding </font>dress <font color="#ff0000">I</font> <font color="#ff0000">liked</font> and tell him how much <font color="#ff0000">it costed </font>(his way of saying he wants to marry me?) :)  <font color="#ff0000">We</font> started talking about it <font color="#ff0000">(guest list and all that jazz),</font> but <font color="#ff0000">there is </font>still no ring on my <font color="#ff0000">finger.</font> <font color="#ff0000">I don't</font><font color="#ff0000"> </font>know if <font color="#ff0000">I</font> should just cool it until <font color="#ff0000">I have a ring, </font>or just keep <font color="#ff0000">going </font>and have things <font color="#ff0000">planned </font>ahead of time to make it a little easier when the time comes. <font color="#ff0000">Can you please advise?</font>

    BSC TRANSLATION:

    Hello, my name is Tiffany, and I'm BSC. I'm a planner! He told me to buy a wedding dress, but refuses to shell out for the rock. Seeing as I do not consider "hey honey, go pick out something white" to be a proper proposal without the accompanying item of jewelry, we're not *technically* engaged. But I've got it planned down to the cocktail hour selections and linen colors. I would appreciate anyone who could blow sunshine up my butt and reassure me that all non-engaged women secretly plan their weddings without their boyfriend's proposal and/or knowledge. I need VALIDATION, ladies! :)

    ps. I will call you all uppity, snooty bitches that are an abomination to womankind and suck in bed if you say anything other than what I want to hear. Oh yeah, and you're all going to hell too. Kthx!

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  • edited December 2011
    why did i even bother asking you people? waste of my time.
  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    On the off chance that this might be real:  OP don't keep planning.  Sit down and talk with your BF and see what's on the go.  Work it out with him and see what he thinks about all this.  But for serious, stop planning until you've worked out your relationship status/future plans/etc.

    Also, if you don't know what's on the go and you can't seem to talk it out with him then I would call this a : RED FLAG MOMENT.


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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-crazy-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:70451193-7d54-48fa-9ceb-45672cd4c749Post:be688bf7-5546-4565-b4cd-f51a59335ca5">Re: am i crazy here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]why did i even bother asking you people? waste of my time.
    Posted by TiffanyNZ[/QUOTE]

    <div>Thanks for playing.  Sorry I wasted my time answering.</div>

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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-crazy-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:70451193-7d54-48fa-9ceb-45672cd4c749Post:38ed0aed-a80b-4cd6-97f2-93fb53f5f8c4">am i crazy here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]ok, nevermind, all though i do so enjoy being referred to as a troll, and people say, yes youre crazy, i would have much rather people just say, "ya, youre goin a bit fast, take a break and wait untill you are engaged to plan it out" but, i guess crazy troll will have to do. no, i didnt need any helpful answers, though one did give more helpful advice than the rest, i needed people to be, in my oppinion, a little catty, b****y even. i may have taken it the wrong way, havent had the best week, mayby being called a troll is a good thing, maybe i took it the wrong way. however, i shall be sure bo respond to questions those whos responses were less than helpfull, in the same manner you answered mine.
    Posted by TiffanyNZ[/QUOTE]

    *although
    *you're
    *going
    *until
    *opinion
    *haven't
    *maybe
    *to
    *whose
    *helpful

    We probably would take you a little more seriously if you could put together a complete, correct sentence.  Spellcheck is your friend.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-crazy-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:70451193-7d54-48fa-9ceb-45672cd4c749Post:38ed0aed-a80b-4cd6-97f2-93fb53f5f8c4">am i crazy here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]ok, nevermind, all though i do so enjoy being referred to as a troll, and people say, yes youre crazy, i would have much rather people just say, "ya, youre goin a bit fast, take a break and wait untill you are engaged to plan it out" but, i guess crazy troll will have to do. no, i didnt need any helpful answers, though one did give more helpful advice than the rest, i needed people to be, in my oppinion, a little catty, b****y even. i may have taken it the wrong way, havent had the best week, mayby being called a troll is a good thing, maybe i took it the wrong way. however, i shall be sure bo respond to questions those whos responses were less than helpfull, in the same manner you answered mine.
    Posted by TiffanyNZ[/QUOTE]


    Is this even ENGLISH?? Elle & Oceana have fun with this one!!! LOL
  • CASK85CASK85 member
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    edited December 2011
    Just for the record, my boyfriend's way of telling me he wants to marry me is looking me in the eye and saying how much he loves me and is excited to spend the rest of his life with me. NOT sending me pics of wedding dresses or telling me to pick one out.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-crazy-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:70451193-7d54-48fa-9ceb-45672cd4c749Post:d2c28c4a-1231-44b0-8898-058234317daf">Re: am i crazy here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just for the record, my boyfriend's way of telling me he wants to marry me is looking me in the eye and saying how much he loves me and is excited to spend the rest of his life with me. NOT sending me pics of wedding dresses or telling me to pick one out.
    Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]

    aww... THIS! 

    and mine calls me at work and asks for *Mrs. (insert BF's Last Name Here)*
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_am-crazy-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:70451193-7d54-48fa-9ceb-45672cd4c749Post:84263db7-a2ef-4e51-a256-81bb6d4c600e">Re: am i crazy here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to am i crazy here? : Is this even ENGLISH?? Elle & Oceana have fun with this one!!! LOL
    Posted by LyzMcFlyz[/QUOTE]

    Already did, but I'm pretty sure I missed a couple.  I didn't read too carefully -- I was getting a headache from just skimming it.
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