Hi all,
Poll question for you: would you ever contribute money to your own engagement ring?
Although I will love anything BF gets me, I have fallen in love with a Kirk Kara ring that is above what BF wants to spend. I make more money than BF and have a bit of inheretance money such that I could afford the ring or could make up the difference between what BF wants to spend and the price of the ring.
Before I make the suggestion to BF I want to get opinions on this. I don't want to offend him, but if I can afford what I want, why should I not get it?
Re: Poll: Contributing to your ring
If you are truly in love with the ring why not considering it for a right hand ring after the wedding or later on when he can afford it and might want to upgrade the stone or replace your inital ring.
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Have you thought about getting something custom designed that is a similar style to the one you like? It may be an option to keep the price of the ring in the range he feels comfortable paying
Personally, I don't think designer rings like Kirk Kara or Tacori are worth the price. Local jewelers can often do a custom ring that looks similar but costs less. Why not give your BF a picture of the ring you love and trust him to find something you will love just as much?
That said, this is something only you and your BF can decide. We can't tell you whether he'd be okay with you contributing. However, the suggestions to either get a custom ring similar to the designer one, or to let him get something similar but cheaper are both very good ideas.
Do some ring research and talk to your BF.
I would keep yourself open to the possibility that he may want to do this on his own, and may not want any help financially. If that is the case, you need to ask yourself what is more important (a ring or his feelings.)
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I know for me, my BF has no problem splitting costs for things. However, deep down he is really traditional and probably wouldn't want me to contribute money for a ring.
And, pps have a point if you are financial entwined already it'd be easier to suggest that.
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