Hi all,
I'm very new here, but have been poking around and reading for a few weeks. I'm feeling a little sad and quite a bit silly today and just need to get this off my shoulders.
My boyfriend of five years and I have been talking casually about marriage for about a year and have started more serious talking in the last few months. We went ring shopping in the 2nd week of July (not to pick a specific ring, but to show him what settings appeal to me). He mentioned our jeweler calling him twice since and I know he has been in to see her twice.
After the ring shopping day, we started a tradition of going to a new vineyard each Sunday (we live in Virginia wine country). Inevitably, the conversations at the tastings turn to our wedding. Yesterday, he also asked me about who would be in my bridal party. I told him I felt a little odd talking about that since it seemed like we were putting the cart before the horse.
All this momentum seemed to be leading up to today, my birthday.
BUT
Last night, he started talking about cameras. I have wanted a new DSLR camera for about a year now. It's a pretty major purchase, but I assumed that I would eventually buy it myself. This morning, when I got into his car (he drove me to work), there was a print out about a camera in the backseat.
My first reaction was to feel sad. All the talk about marriage and a wedding seemed to be leading to engagement. Then, I felt silly because the camera is a lovely gift...really wonderful. I should be happy at the thought of having it.
Did anyone else have their expectations build up like this? How did you handle it? What was the result?