garter tradition

mellimel19

I think the tradition is a bit cheesy, but FI and I haven't yet discussed whether we'll do the garter or bouquet toss. If he's cool with it, I'd prefer to just eliminate both from our reception.

Calindi, I love your plan to have the couples on the dancefloor slowly eliminated by length of marriage and then have the final couple receive the bouquet and a bottle of wine.

**Mutley**

I think that NEY people over thinking a wedding tradition is obnoxious.  

lindsayrae1986

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[QUOTE]@shoes- For what its worth I appreciate that you do speak your mind unflitered - it's a breath of fresh air - but thats just me. I know we had this disussion a few months back so won't go into the whole thing over again - but I kind of like the tradition and ideas behind it. This is because my relationship dynamic may differ from some - maybe it's just because nothing in my life , wedding or anything is really normal. It is completely a personal choice - and if it is done I don't think it has to be in a vulgar way - it can still be fun and incorporated into your style if its what you both want - if not hey that's fine too ;) And nowhere does it say you can't just wear a garter for your husband because you want to :)
Posted by tafft1[/QUOTE]

tafft1-  would you mind providing a link or a short synopsis on why you like the tradition?  i'm curious to know a different point of view. 

and i do plan on wearing a garter for FI...  but he won't know that until much later.  :)

oceana919

Well, shite. Let me book my back alley, because I'm having a garter toss and I'm loving it. I figure it's the only logical way I can fit the theme song to True Blood into my wedding.

I'm sorry, call me un-feminist or trashy or whatever you want, but it's a silly tradition. It's not meant to be anything but that. Same as the bouquet toss. If that means I'm objectified, oh well. If people don't like it, that's what the open bar is for.

You would think we were determining the economic fate of third world nations in this thread, for Pete's sake.

ps. Is there really a debate over who is being more obnoxious? Can't you guys, like, share the Obnoxious Tiara?

**Mutley**

Oceana, you HOAR! 

oceana919

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[QUOTE]Oceana, you HOAR! 
Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]

Whatever. I'll serve my champagne in a paper bag, because I'm klassy like that.

**Mutley**

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : Whatever. I'll serve my champagne in a paper bag, because I'm klassy like that.
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]


I'll still drink it.  PARTAY!

oceana919

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : I'll still drink it.  PARTAY!
Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]

I'll be sure to write "MUTLEY" on yours in big black permanent marker. Just so no one steals your bubbs.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : Whatever. I'll serve my champagne in a paper bag, because I'm klassy like that.
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

<div>mmmm paper bag champagne....</div>

oceana919

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : mmmm paper bag champagne....
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]

Welllllllll, it'll be more like ginger ale spiked with cheap vodka. Champagne is a little too classy for the back alley.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : Welllllllll, it'll be more like ginger ale spiked with cheap vodka. Champagne is a little too classy for the back alley.
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

<div>I LOVE ginger ale.</div><div>
</div><div>It's like I'm 80.</div>

oceana919

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : I LOVE ginger ale. It's like I'm 80.
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]

Um, the cheap vodka component drops you down to about 20. So no worries.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : Um, the cheap vodka component drops you down to about 20. So no worries.
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]
Nioce.

loves2shop4shoes

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[QUOTE]Well, shite. Let me book my back alley, because I'm having a garter toss and I'm loving it. I figure it's the only logical way I can fit the theme song to True Blood into my wedding. I'm sorry, call me un-feminist or trashy or whatever you want, but it's a silly tradition. It's not meant to be anything but that. Same as the bouquet toss. If that means I'm objectified, oh well. If people don't like it, that's what the open bar is for. You would think we were determining the economic fate of third world nations in this thread, for Pete's sake.<strong> ps. Is there really a debate over who is being more obnoxious? Can't you guys, like, share the Obnoxious Tiara?</strong>
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

<div>No, there is not.  I never agreed with her that my behavior was obnoxious because I don't think it was.</div><div>
</div><div>If you're comfortable with your tradition, all the power to you.  </div>

oceana919

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : No, there is not.  I never agreed with her that my behavior was obnoxious because I don't think it was. If you're comfortable with your tradition, all the power to you.  
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

Didn't you learn how to share as a kid?

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : Didn't you learn how to share as a kid?
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]
NO! MY TIARA!

oceana919

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : NO! MY TIARA!
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry, but the Obnoxious Tiara is officially reserved. You get a Canadian Princess Tiara, complete with maple leaves:

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loves2shop4shoes

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : Didn't you learn how to share as a kid?
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

<div>Truthfully, I did have one or two scuffles in the sandbox in my day.  I still maintain the b!tch should've asked permission before she took my shovel!</div>

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : I'm sorry, but the Obnoxious Tiara is officially reserved. You get a Canadian Princess Tiara, complete with maple leaves:
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]
Ohhh! Shiny maple leaves...

jeanacorina

I agree that people are obnoxious.

Also, "My dumpster comment was an emphasis that if you're going to incorporate trashy elements into your wedding, it's a slippery slope."

Slippery slope is a logical FALLACY, not an argument.

Also.




I am so freaking trashy, I don't even know what to do with myself!

The garter toss was silly and fun. We played "Another One Bites The Dust." I put the garter on just above my knee, and only a few minutes before the toss. It was a purple Transformers garter, which my husband got a KICK out of.

I have never in my life heard of the tradition of whoever catches the garter puts it on the girl who caught the bouquet. We didn't do anything at all like that. We took a photo of me with the little girl that caught the bouquet, and a photo of Josh with the guy who caught the garter.

Whether or not it's trashy depends on the people involved, not the tradition itself.

Also, if it's something that bothers you, don't do it. There's no reason to feel uncomfortable and objectified on any day of the week, let alone your wedding day. Just say "I'd rather not hike up my skirt, kthx."

Then let the rest of us trashy chickens have our trashy, chauvenistic rituals.

How else was I going to show off my purple undergarments, anyway?

oceana919

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: garter tradition : Truthfully, I did have one or two scuffles in the sandbox in my day.  I still maintain the b!tch should've asked permission before she took my shovel!
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

Well, no need for fisticuffs, there's enough to go around.

One for you:

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And one for Cate:

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Now play nice or I'm putting both of you in a time out.

PaigeMcC

JEANA!!!!!!! 

I agree with everything you've said.

Also, welcome back...you couldn't stay away;)

jeanacorina

Where's my trashy tiara, biotches?

oceana919

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[QUOTE]Where's my trashy tiara, biotches?
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]


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hetshup

We had a garter toss and bouquet toss. We did not have the garter catcher place the garter on the bouquet catcher's leg. However, my douchbag cousin (aka garter catcher) did place the garter on HIS head. B\c it's not creepy that it's been on my leg all night and now it's on your head and we are related. We hadn't planned to have tosses or not, but we had many friends that asked about it, so there you go.


I find Cate and Shoes equally obnoxious, but I don't have any issue with that. I think you are too similar and get on each other's nerves. *shrugs*

oceana919

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[QUOTE]We had a garter toss and bouquet toss. <strong>We did not have the garter catcher place the garter on the bouquet catcher's leg.</strong> However, my douchbag cousin (aka garter catcher) did place the garter on HIS head. B\c it's not creepy that it's been on my leg all night and now it's on your head and we are related. We hadn't planned to have tosses or not, but we had many friends that asked about it, so there you go. I find Cate and Shoes equally obnoxious, but I don't have any issue with that. I think you are too similar and get on each other's nerves. *shrugs*
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

Most weddings I've been to, that has been the tradition, so long as both parties were okay with it, and it was appropriate. Like, my MOH had explicitly told the DJ that if one of her two younger sisters, or her grandmother, caught the bouquet, they weren't doing garter placement. Grandma caught the bouquet, so they took a picture instead.

I wasn't going to do the placement, but I've had some friends specifically request it. I'm telling the DJ that we're playing that by ear, depending on who catches each piece.

jeanacorina

oceana919

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[QUOTE]
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

Jeana FTW

PaigeMcC

JEANA FOR PRESIDENT!

jeanacorina

Also, KD you look so beautiful in your sig pic.