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So apparently spending time with you SO on New Years is, like, mandatory around here.  FBD and I NEVER spend New Years Eve together.  I like to party, he doesn't.  I always do dinner with my BFFs, he does video games and pizza with his.  I go out to a party and he stays home with the dogs.  I usually call him at Midnight to wish him a Happy New Year and I'm usually home by 4 a.m.

Is this weird?  I've had several people tell me that they can't understand why we don't spend NYE together.  Apparently we're weird.  I just don't see it as a family holiday thing...I see it as another excuse to party.  I'm sure eventually we'll spend a NYE together but we haven't yet - and neither of us really cares.  What about you ladies? Do you spend NYE with your SO?  DO you spend it with friends? What do you think?

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    heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    BF and I went to a party at my friend's house last year. It sucked, because all she did was whine about not having her BF there.

    I don't know if BF and I will spend it together this year, but I guess I'm like you, Paige. I don't see it as a mandatory SO thing. I don't find it odd at all if a couple doesn't spend it together.
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think you're weird but definitely different from me and my friends. If you are cool with it, I don't see a problem! It's totally fine to not be attached at the hip. If you like to party and he likes to stay in, problem solved! I wouldn't worry about it.
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    HeartOverMindHeartOverMind member
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    In the past I have always spent NYE with family and/or at church, so I'm right with you Paige.....although, this year is the first time I'm spending it with BF and I'm sooooo excited! I've never spent NYE with anyone other than my family so I am over the moon that I can spend it with BF.

    So, no, I don't think you guys are weird. It sounds normal for me, but I don't know how normal that is for others...
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    edited December 2011
    Paige! This is just one more reason why your relationship is not valid!! lmao JK

    To each their own... This is mine and BF's second NYE together... but it's also my Birthday so, I wouldnt imagine NOT spending it with him...  Last year, we went out... this year we're staying in...

    Either way, have fun!!
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    edited December 2011
    Nope! FI and I don't ever spend NYE together either. The first year we were dating, we saw each other BRIEFLY in the evening, but other than that, we didn't. The last two years we haven't seen each other at all, and both done our own stuff. This years the same- we'll be doing our own things.  FI is more of a stay in type of guy, and I'm not completely. I like those types of times, but on NYE, I like to actually do something. And, it's one of my friends 21st birthday that day, so I want to go with her.
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    edited December 2011
    If it works for you and your bf, then I think that is all that matters! I like staying in (as does K), so we prefer doing an early dinner and then coming home and spending the evening playing video games or board games.

    I think it shows that you can trust each other. I feel like couples that feel like they have to spend every waking hour together might have trust issues.
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    PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    Excellent.  I didn't think we were weird for doing it this way - but I have some friends that beg to differ. In fact, my BFF won't spend NYE without her SO.  Absolutely will not.  I don't get it.

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    Beads921Beads921 member
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    BF and I have always spent NYE together. We usually spend it at his Mom's with a few other friends and some family, but it's really just a slop fest, and I love it. The next day we all play video games in our PJs and hope nobody vomits. We both like to party the same amount, you could say, so there's no argument there.

    NYE was always a semi-family occasion with close friends growing up, so that's how I see it now. I think I would be sad not spending it with BF. However, I really don't think it's mandatory to do it that way, and I know a lot of people don't.
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    Hazel_BHazel_B member
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    I agree, I don't view it as a mandatory SO event. I think the only time people may care is the kiss after midnight, and that isn't even a big deal.

    If you and FBD liked doing the same things then I might think it is weird that you don't do NYE together. However, as you have described it I don't think you are odd at all.
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    edited December 2011
    You're not weird, although I've spent every NYE with BF since we've been together except last year because he had a really bad sinus infection and was quarantined. We usually spend it together with one of our families. I don't see my friends - most of my friends are Russian and New Years is a BIG deal to them, like party until 8am big deal. I don't have the stamina for that.
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    MLekathLEENMLekathLEEN member
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    Weirdo...

    KIDDING!!! IMO (this goes for any holiday) It's just another day, what makes this day so special that you NEED to be together? You spend pretty much every other night together, not being together on NYE will not curse your relationship. Although it may make your marriage invalid, yet again.
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    PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_odd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a82c88f-014e-4abe-94d4-9ccb9edc1200Post:32d515c1-5666-4108-a1e1-ef62bc8391f1">Re: Are we odd?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Weirdo... KIDDING!!! IMO (this goes for any holiday) It's just another day, what makes this day so special that you NEED to be together? You spend pretty much every other night together, not being together on NYE will not curse your relationship. <strong>Although it may make your marriage invalid, yet again.</strong>
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    Reason #437....? lol

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    MLekathLEENMLekathLEEN member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_odd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a82c88f-014e-4abe-94d4-9ccb9edc1200Post:c7be41d9-7ac5-4841-9648-48eb1bde29a0">Re: Are we odd?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we odd? : Reason #437....? lol
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    marleylikeairmarleylikeair member
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    edited December 2011
    Nah, you're not weird.

    But I'm completely the opposite; I'd be really, really bummed if we couldn't be together on NYE and kiss at midnight. Kiss <--- Heehee, it has eyelashes.
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    paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    We aren't very in to holidays. Like eKath said, it's just another day, whether it's Christmas, NYE, birthdays, whatever. We celebrate, but if we had to celebrate Christmas on Dec. 27 instead of Dec. 25, that's ok. We both travel extensively for work so I guess that's why we have this approach - we never know if we'll be home for holidays.

    That said, we will spend NYE together because we're both in town. I just moved here and don't have many friends in the area yet and he's a bit of an introvert. So it's just us!
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    loopy82loopy82 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_odd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a82c88f-014e-4abe-94d4-9ccb9edc1200Post:4d22b4ab-23e9-4c26-97a2-539f41f1a5e9">Re: Are we odd?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Excellent.  I didn't think we were weird for doing it this way - but I have some friends that beg to differ. In fact, my BFF won't spend NYE without her SO.  Absolutely will not.  I don't get it.
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    Perhaps your friend is a firm believer in the saying "How you ring in the new year is how you spend the rest of your year" or something to that effect anyway. Maybe she thinks they will break up if they don't spend it together. IDK. I have spent every NYE with DH thus far. I have no clue what will be happening this year.
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    MLekathLEENMLekathLEEN member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_odd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a82c88f-014e-4abe-94d4-9ccb9edc1200Post:f9f32525-0377-47ee-8406-4e9c8ad9d2de">Re: Are we odd?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we odd? : Perhaps your friend is a firm believer in the saying<strong> "How you ring in the new year is how you spend the rest of your year"</strong> or something to that effect anyway. Maybe she thinks they will break up if they don't spend it together. IDK. I have spent every NYE with DH thus far. I have no clue what will be happening this year.
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    I'm usually cranky and biitchy after 10 so by 11:45 I'm a real peach. Just because I'm a complete biitch at midnight doesn't mean I'm a complete biitch the rest of the year...oh wait, maybe your friend IS right!
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    loopy82loopy82 member
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    edited December 2011

    ekath- You sure are funny!

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    PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_odd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a82c88f-014e-4abe-94d4-9ccb9edc1200Post:04d9377a-ac15-4f68-959e-27a698ae67bf">Re: Are we odd?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we odd? : I'm usually cranky and biitchy after 10 so by 11:45 I'm a real peach. <strong>Just because I'm a complete biitch at midnight doesn't mean I'm a complete biitch the rest of the year...oh wait, maybe your friend IS right!</strong>
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    AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    edited December 2011
    Your relationship isn't valid if you don't spend every waking moment together, fyi.


    EDIT: Just read through the thread and Kath beat me to it!
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    Ana_2985Ana_2985 member
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    If you're weird, I'm weird. FI and I have never spent NYE (or Christmas together). I know it's because we don't live close enough to each other right now, but I don't get upset about it the way people expect me to. They're always horrified that we're not together and I'm not moping about it. As someone else said, it's just another day. I'm sure it would be nice to be together, but I'm not going to sit home and cry about not being together.
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    bettyshawbettyshaw member
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    BF and I have never spent NYE together. Before we started dating it just never worked out that way, because I did stuff with my family and he with is, but even last year I had to work, and this year he's out of town. So far it hasn't made a difference, though I do wish I could kiss him at midnight :)
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    motoLynmotoLyn member
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    I don't think its weird, I say its a preference, but Paige I've noticed you are "special" from the beginning. I wouldn't mind if FI and I were not together, if we each had something we rather do.  But since he and I have similar social habits and preferences then we end up doing the same thing for NYE and most holidays.  Plus I like planting a big wet kiss on him at the stroke of midnight. 
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    leia1979leia1979 member
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    We've always spent it together, but if my friends wanted to do a girls night and his wanted to do something, I'd have no problem doing separate events.  Paige, it makes perfect sense for you and your FI. You guys enjoy different things. I don't think it's a big deal.
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    PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    I'm glad I'm not off my rocker - I was pretty sure this made sense.  lol

    And I enjoy that I'm "special", thanks Lyn! haha

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    garcias1garcias1 member
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    Yep, I see no problem with not spending the holiday together.  Like you said, most people don't consider it a "family" holiday - more of a get-wasted-and-forget-what-happened holiday.  FI and I don't even spend "family" holidays together.  We said we would start doing that once we are married.  We see each other enough that we don't need to be together on Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc.  Our relationship isn't invalid just because we exchange Christmas gifts on Christmas eve.
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    bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    BF and I have never spent New Years Eve together so I don't think its odd.


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    PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_odd?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a82c88f-014e-4abe-94d4-9ccb9edc1200Post:9d62157f-70f7-4938-b973-b34c3a1ca6e3">Re: Are we odd?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yes.
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    BF and I have the same friends so we usually bring in the New Year with them. This year the person hosting is having a formal party. I'd be sad if I didn't get my New Year's kiss!

    We might also stop by my parents' house. Every year my family gets Chinese food. :)

    I think by far the best New Years was when he surprised me with tickets to Rent on Broadway. We were originally supposed to see it in Buffalo. BF called me like two weeks before and said he had a band concert he'd forgotten about so he found someone to sell our Rent tickets to and that he was really, really sorry. Well I was pissed and started yelling at him. He calmed me down enough to ask me if I'd be ok with going to NYC for New Years. Changing emotions that fast is weird. lol We didn't actually watch the ball drop in the city (the crowd was INSANE), but it was still an awesome experience.
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