Talk me down, ladies

noelle24

I totally understand.  I'm a lot like that myself.

I don't think Josh really has to understand why you feel the way you do.  He does, however, need to accept and respect your priorities.  Keep at it, I'm sure you two can come to some sort of compromise.

I think a night of cheap wine, mojitos, and margaritas may be in order.

jeanacorina

The job market here actually isn't terrible. Especially since I'd be applying for college-student jobs and I have retail management experience. I'm not terribly worried about finding another job. If nothing else, Old Navy is hiring. Saw the sign the other day.

I think it has something to do with Baton Rouge being primarily a college city. There are a lot of businesses and everything, but LSU drives a LOT of what happens in Baton Rouge. The recession affected some things here, but not as badly as other cities.

FI did have an awful time finding a job after graduation last year. We were counting on him having a job BEFORE graduation, and it took over 6 months AFTER for him to find one. He interviewed for dozens. It was a really hard thing to go through. But he finally got this one, and he's very happy.

You guys will get through whatever comes your way. I'm sure it's a huge shock and it is a difficult thing to deal with. But at least it's not certain and you have some warning. You may be in for tough times, but things have a way of working out in the end.

Acrosthec

Thank you. 

notquiteblushing

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time, Jeana.  But I'm going to have to side on the biitch slap camp in terms of your FI spending your hard earned money on crap to make himself fell better.  That's a whole lotta crap.  There are lots of free games out there FFS.

But I'm sorry your job is changing your workload so drastically.  Have you considered asking for more money?  How long have you been there?  At the end of the day though, if you don't need the money and are okay with a resume gap (which is less of a big deal because you are because you're in school) maybe you should quit if you don't have enough time to focus on school and home.

For now I prescribe cheap wine.

jeanacorina

I've been there for over a year and I JUST got a $1/hour raise in January. I started out making $7.50 and it took several months of the office manager pressing the issue with the boss to get me a dollar more. So.... I'm pretty sure a raise is out of the question.

I could ask for Wednesdays off. That would help a little. However, it would mean drama. "You know, I ask you at the beginning of every semester what schedule you want, and I hired the other receptionist based on YOUR schedule. If I knew you needed fewer hours, I might have hired someone who could work more than she can."

Small office drama and guilt trips. Some days I miss corporate life. No hard feelings, just business.

I just need to suck it up and find another job. Unless Josh comes home today and has had an epiphany.

He's not a bad guy, I swear. Just sometimes he's this weird mix of childish and paranoid. And he's never even been poor in his life! I have! What's he so scared of? It's not "have everything or nothing at all." There are shades of grey. Like, budgeting and actually PAYING ATTENTION to the budget.

I am waffling so much between being thankful to have wiggle room and wanting to smack him for being so stubborn. I thought I was the stubborn one!